how do you get around feeling empty?

Question

for the longest i hungered to own nice things (for like 8 years I'm 18 now cuz my family has always been poor(i was the kid that had to stay home on the field trips cuz my parents couldn't pay 4 it)) and i finally gotta good job and i bought new clothes shoes hats a hdtv a car a sound system a keyboard and a zune... and i was happy 4 like a month but now i'm back to feeling empty again... any suggestions

Well i'm close to my lil bro but he's only 5

Answer 1

Emptiness is not a result of material poverty but rather emotional and/or spiritual poverty. You are trying to fill an emotional void with things that create excitement for a time, but become old and familiar really quickly. What you're missing is a sense of connection and meaningfulness in your life. I won't speak to the spiritual aspect, as I'm not a theologian, other than to say it may be helpful to you to research and explore different faiths until you find the one that resonates with you. But in regard to the emotional emptiness, my guess is that you may have been emotionally neglected growing up. This can be true especially in very large families-not necessarily for lack of love, but rather lack of attention and time where you had an opportunity to feel special. It certainly isn't true in all large families and emotional neglect can occur from many other situations as well, such as a narcissistic parent or a depressed parent or one who was incapable of providing the necessary nurture and comfort that reassured you that you were loved and important and valued. Emptiness is often a search for both meaning (knowing that we matter and that our very existence is important to others) and belongingness (something we identify ourselves as part of that is larger than just ourselves-for many it may be family, for others it is a group of friends or even a profession).
My suggestion is to try individual counseling which can provide you with a corrective experience and a model as well as tools for self-soothing and help you to discover those things about yourself that make you unique. It will also serve to help you identify and validate your emotional needs, which are clearly not being met, and support you in finding ways to meet those needs (the essence of self-esteem). People often shut down emotionally when their environment is emotionally neglectful and this leaves them feeling empty and numb, always searching for the next thrill that will make them feel alive. Therapy helps you reconnect with the feelings and needs that are buried and to establish healthy, reciprocal relationships where you feel connected and valued.
Good luck, and also kudos for recognizing the issue so early. So many turn to drugs and other addictions as a way to fill up the emptiness. Your insight makes you an extremely good candidate for psychotherapy.

Answer 2

Do you have anyone you are close to? I know that matieral things wont keep your heart filled because well they get old and the excitement of the stuff gets old but when you have someone youre close to like an animal or other people than you might be filled with love and excitement because of the fact that you never know what the person or animal is going to do? Its just a thought.

Answer 3

You really need to write the book. This is a classical tale of a poor family child. You can extend the history into the future when you become depressed as your expectations prove to be wrong again. Each time the brain has to erase you will be depressed. When it is about sex and love you will become mentally ill. Write the book and post the location in here.

Answer 4

Talking about your problems could help you get over the feeling of emptiness. It doesn't sound like you have depression, but it's best to consult a doctor who can give you a proper diagnosis. Try talking to a psychologist or a conselor. They can help you resolve any problem you may be experiencing.

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Answer 5

sounds like melancholy. you could would desire to chat to a expert. No disgrace in that. It purely skill which you develop your opportunities of feeling greater suitable. you will desire to additionally try omega-3 (fish oil) through fact it helps to boost your temper.

Answer 6

find a hobby that makes you feel good about yourself

Answer 7

get a pet, or roomate.
something like that.
something to talk to, maybe.