look me and my boyfriend have a kid together but we broke up 5 years ago but we just got back together im living with him know but how do i get him to marry me?i love my boyfriend he loves me to but he hasnt ask me to marry him!
2007-07-05 06:33:41 · 11 answers · asked by ? 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Discuss marriage w him and let him know it is what you are ultimately looking for in this relationship. If he is not looking at marriage, you probably will have a very difficult time dating him because you have different goals in life. Once you find out that he is looking for marriage too, you can tell him what your thoughts are regarding him. You can't make him marry you though, so if he isn't ready like you are *heartbreak i know ) :* then you should start looking for someone else
2007-07-05 06:40:11 · answer #1 · answered by happily married ( : 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why should he? He's got a kid and a live-in -- what more does he need?
I think you need to be upfront with him and let him know that this is an important issue to you. Ask him when -- not IF -- he thinks it would be a good time to marry. If he doesn't want to get married, or he ducks the question -- there's your answer. Decide if you can live with it. If you can't, then move out and get on with your life. If you can, enjoy laying in the bed you made.
2007-07-05 06:54:54 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I'm sorry to say there is no incentive. You already have a kid together and your living together. That old saying "why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free" seems to still have some merit. Plus, you can't make him marry you he has to want to marry you. Your only option besides waiting forever for him, is you could ask him to marry you.
2007-07-05 06:44:59 · answer #3 · answered by Steven's Mommy 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i dont suggest forcing him or even mentioning it to him often. i was in a relationship for 5 years we got married after 5 then 6 months later split for divorce. he was still young and very inexperienced with life. he didnt want to get married until his 30's but i wasnt having that i think that may have been a part of our seperation. Patients is a virtue even though i know for things like this we girls hate it. but honeslty after my experience marriage truly is just a piece of paper it can be torn just like a heart and its not a reason to stay with someone cause then theres divorce
IF you to love eachother and your living together thats all u need until the time is right you have a family enjoy it and dont stress the smaller things in life you got him your son and the love be happy with it there are some out there that dont have that
2007-07-05 06:40:15 · answer #4 · answered by evie1718 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The mistake you made was to go and live with him. Move out, and go back home. Tell him, you want to get married, and have children and that piece of paper is important to you. If he comes after you, then he will ask you to marry him. If he wants you to come back to live him again, refuse until he pops the question.
2007-07-08 05:19:32 · answer #5 · answered by cardgirl2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, nancy, but if he wanted to marry you, he would have asked you as soon as he found out you were pregnant. Now, by being back with him and shacking up, he's just not going to do it - so sorry... you're not going about things the right way again...
2007-07-05 09:25:10 · answer #6 · answered by Lydia 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
you can't get him to marry you. You have to be patient and let him decide on his own that you are the one for him, and that he cannot live without you. Some tips on how to make him feel that way are to keep busy with your own life, take good care of yourself physically and mentally, show confidence, keep your moods even, do not try to change him, let him have his own friends and his own interests. Bee good to him, listen when he talks, be honest and communicate when something bothers you.
Do not pressure him, above all!!!
Good Luck!
2007-07-05 06:40:12 · answer #7 · answered by RAVEN 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Hi Nancy,
Ask him! But still insist on a ring. LOL
Or, just start talking marriage. Take him to see rings. Talk about where you want to get married. Use the phrase, "And when we get married..." - this worked for me. I had my ring on my finger in under a month. LOL
Good luck hun!!!
2007-07-05 06:44:05 · answer #8 · answered by ~Brenda~ 4 · 0⤊ 3⤋
Move out and refuse to live with him until he marries you and makes a proper home for your child. Don't sell yourself free.
2007-07-05 06:42:09 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
What makes you think he wants to marry you? Somehow, I don't see that in his plan.
2007-07-05 07:21:39 · answer #10 · answered by missingora 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋