Is that ok like?? Would my bf be pissed off with it or start cheating because he didnt have it with me?? or is it kind of necessary?? i dont want to end up Having it before marraige incase of pregnancy! to be sure! im 15 & hes 17, but id say we'd get married afetr 5 YEARS! THATS WHY PLZZZ ANSWER!!
2007-07-05 06:15:12 · 34 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Only you and your significant can answer that. I would say no, but I am not you, so that wouldn't make me right!
2007-07-05 06:17:42 · answer #1 · answered by tvman30044 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im 24, waiting til close to marriage and preferably marriage! I can wait no problem but guys seem like they will just throw u off the the side now a days if you dont "put out" within a few weeks. I feel like this is odd. I just am writing as a girl in support of you. I have been battling this and feel hopeless. I had one bf for a year who waited a month to kiss me...we dated 5 months and he didnt care I didnt want to do oral just yet...he waited but he said the fact that I was affectionate and loving, made it easier...and he also had the same values.... so yes, there are guys who will wait. 4-5 months is not a lot to ask for. I ask for a lot more. lol.... but just find a guy with the same values. I know many guys who dont mind and think that is soon Many guys get attached with sex too and have been hurt from previous relationships so they are willing to wait
2016-05-18 23:21:01 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is absolutely nothing wrong with wanting to wait until after you are married to have sex. There is also nothing wrong with having sex before marriage. That is your decision to make based on what you feel is right for yourself. If your boyfriend truley cares about you, he will accept your decision either way. If he can't accept the fact that it is important for you to wait, which it obviously is or you would not have asked this question, then believe me, he is not the person you want to marry. Pregnancy is, and should be, a big concern for a 15 year old girl. I am a father and having a child is a life changing experience especially for the women. It can, in my case, be the greatest joy you will ever experience, but it can just as easily, in the case of a 15 year old girl severly limit your options for the rest of your life. Just remember, sex, especially the first time, should be a special event in your life, not a quicky in the backseat of dad's car.
2007-07-05 06:30:08 · answer #3 · answered by The Oracle of Delphi 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say that many people these days do have sex before marrage. However it is very admirable to wait. If he is not going to respect your choice to wait then he is not worth your time. Same as if he is going to cheat on you just because you want to wait then get rid of him. You do not need any pressure. Sex is something that should not be taken lightly, good guys don't want to be with girls that have been around the block. Plus I think most guys want to be the only one who would have been that intimate with you. I would think that he may not want to wait, but if he truly loves you and wants to be with you for the rest of your lives, then he should wait till you are ready. Do not let him pressure you no matter what he says. You are both very young. There are many many more bad things that could happen by having sex than there are good. Pregnant, STD, plus sex is something so intimate that you should only want to share with your one true love. At 15 and 17 there are so many changes ahead of you, you are both going to grow and change alot. NEVER GET PRESSURED INTO HAVING SEX!!!!
2007-07-05 06:27:13 · answer #4 · answered by NiKeTi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you feel like you should wait, YOU ABSOLUTELY should. Don't let him or anyone else pressure you into having sex before you're ready. If he really cares about you and he's a decent guy with integrity, he'll wait for you. If not? Find someone else, there are good guys out there! Plus, like you said, you definitely don't want to risk a pregnancy at 15, 16, 17, 18, etc.! Not good for you or for the baby to have parents who are so young and unprepared. My advice is wait until you're ready. You won't regret it if you wait, but you may regret it if you do it early.
2007-07-05 06:22:11 · answer #5 · answered by luckystrike 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing magical about the act of physical sexual intercourse. What determines whether or not you should be engaging in it is your sexual and emotional maturity. It sounds to me like you're not ready so perhaps you should hold off.
You must understand that your b/f is at the peak hormonal point in his life. We are a unique species in that we are able to control our instincts (i.e. reproduction), but he is at a stage of development where this element of control is challenged most.
By not "giving it up" you do run the risk of having him find it elsewhere. Love has nothing to do with it either. He can love you and still cheat on you, so please dispense with that fairy tale.
Finally, your odds of waiting to have sex until you are married are almost zero. You can say it now, but eventually as you mature you're going to see that the marriage thing is another part of the fairy tale you've been fed. I don't want to sound hateful, just realistic and helpful. Once you do decided to have sex please do yourself a favor and use a condom every single time. That will make your sexual experiences much more positive.
2007-07-05 06:50:48 · answer #6 · answered by Peter D 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
>Would my bf be pissed off with it or start cheating because he didnt have it with me??
I would say this is fairly likely, yes. Face it, men like sex, they want sex, and they're not about to wait five years for it.
>im 15 & hes 17
Well why didn't you say so before? You're too young for this. Wait at least a couple years before you get into it, and use protection when you do.
2007-07-05 06:18:43 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound too young yet to know. Also, if you're asking other people about having sex, then you're not ready yet.
Personally I don't see how people can wait 5-8 years in a relationship before having sex. But my opinion is only that, my own. I know people think I am weird for waiting 4 1/2 months with my now fiance.
2007-07-05 06:18:41 · answer #8 · answered by Chris O 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I know it is hard when you are young and hormones are raging, but you will not die from waiting on sex. I'll tell you what if he does not wait now he would probably not wait later because a mans sex drive does not decrease. Look at all the unwed mothers out there struggling on welfare for making bad choices when they were young. Give it the time and do not risk STD or early pregnancy. If you decide to please get on the pill and make him wear a condom. Abstinence is best though.
2007-07-05 06:23:34 · answer #9 · answered by SnakeMAN 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At 15 you are too young. Wait a couple of years please. Sweetie in two years you may have 10 other boyfriends.
When you do be sure to use protection. That is very important.
I don't think you have to wait until marriage but be sure the time is right. Don't rush it. Sex is great but you have plenty of time.
2007-07-05 06:21:33 · answer #10 · answered by Gorgeoustxwoman2013 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If i were u i would wait and if ur bf cant wait then i dont see him right for you.He needs to understand sex is a special bond between two people that makes the relationship strong and better(my opinion)And hats off to you for waiting till marriage,trust me u will be happy that you did!!!But ur bf needs to understand if ur not ready yet he shouldnt be forcing u too.Have a talk with him about this.Good Luck!!!
2007-07-05 06:21:00 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋