This guy and I dated for almost two years. The break-up was really ugly and its been 6 months since its happened. I cheated on him but then appologized and wished him well in his life. I left him alone but he stills spreads rumors about me after all this time. Recently he came to my work and wrote a a piece of paper...."When am I going to get my history lesson?" He tells everyone that I cant get over the past but i have. He is the one that cant....What should I do.? Should i just ignore his inmaturity once again or should i go of?? I just dont understand why he cant leave me alone. He even had a new girlfriend with him when he passed the message to me...
2007-07-05 06:03:38 · 10 answers · asked by Pretty Girl 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
this guy sounds crazy. Just be glad that you are rid of him, even though not totally, ahahha. If you feel uncomfortable with him around, as in stalker mode, you can get a restraining order. But talk to him first and try to resolve it peacefully. If he doesnt get it, then get the restraining order. He sounds very immature and has no morals to be spreading rumors about your past relationship with him. Sounds like he doesnt have a life.
2007-07-05 06:07:08 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I don't think blowing up ever really accomplishes anything, except the cops coming. So if he keeps bothering you, you can, confront him, tell him you may need to take drastic measures to keep him away from you, a restraining order. You can change jobs, or move. But if you aren't really willing to do any of those things you could always just ignore him. You know he is being really silly, don't let him disrupt your world, don't give him that power.
2007-07-05 13:15:28 · answer #2 · answered by littlefariemom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like more than immaturity is at play here. He sounds unbalanced. True, you cheated on him, which was definitely wrong, but if you're broken up and he's even gotten a new girlfriend, he shouldn't be stalking you like this. Some guys take being cheated on as a personal insult. They don't look at it as, "I'm not flawed, the cheater is." The best thing to do is ignore him, but let him know you're going to see about getting a restraining order against him if he doesn't let it go.
2007-07-05 13:10:42 · answer #3 · answered by Emily Dew 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
sounds like you hurt him pretty bad. I think all the love he had has turned to hate. He just wants to hurt your feelings as bad as you hurt his.Pull him to the side let him know/think you are very sorry for what you did,and that it breaks your heart because of the way he treats you now. Let him know you wish him the best in life and you are very sorry for what happened. that should give him the satisfaction that he's done what he wanted to do and be able to move on.
2007-07-05 13:15:27 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would tell him to leave you alone that you want to move on with your life and he should too. If he can't respect your wishes to be left alone then you might want to consider a restraining order.
2007-07-05 13:07:34 · answer #5 · answered by Tara R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you've got a problem on your hands. Tell him to leave you alone and if that doesn't work, see about getting a restraining order.
2007-07-05 13:07:53 · answer #6 · answered by tangerine 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
BECAUSE HE IS NOT OVER YOU FOR REAL, AND HE IS TRYING TO HURT YOU
AS YOU HURT HIM AND THAT OTHER GIRL WAS TO SEE IF HE GET A REACTING FROM YOU
IT IS ALL BECAUSE YOU CHEATING ON HIM / HE CAN'T GET OVER IT, HE HAS TO MUCH FEELINGS FOR YOU .
ANYWAYS TELL HIM TO GET OVER IT BOTH OF YOU ARE DONE . TELL HIM LEARN TO MOVE ON WITH HE'S LIFE AND LEAVE YOU ALONE IF NOT THEN YOU WILL SHOW HE AGAIN HOW IT IS DONE.
P.S.
YOU GO GIRL.
2007-07-05 13:17:24 · answer #7 · answered by map 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just let it go and next time just tell him he is not achieving anything by trying to humilating you. and just say we are not together anymore i am with someone els and you are not doing anything to ruin that...........but on the other hand you did cheat on him and couldnt be woman enough to tell him you wanted to be with someone els...so where should i feel sorry for you at??? but next time you want to get into an adult decision then be an adult and let the other person know
2007-07-05 13:08:48 · answer #8 · answered by $martA$$.com 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
FORGET ABOUT HIM, WHEN HE TALKS TO YOU DON'T TALK BACK AND TELL HIM YOU DON'T WANT TO TALK TO HIM. IF DOES NOT STOP PUT A RESTRAINING ORDER AGAINST HIM.
2007-07-05 13:17:17 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
kick him in the butt, and file for harrasment =) and tell ur school guidance coulnsler
2007-07-05 13:07:03 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋