i snuck out of the house to hang out with a friend a few nights ago. he took me to his place and we both watch a horror movie on his laptop on his bed. during the movie he got all close to me and we were..cuddling? i guess you can say. and after the movie..it happend. we..had sex.? the problem is, im scared im a rebound. he just broke up with his girlfriend not long ago. & before things actually happend, i asked him if i was a rebound or if this was going to be a one night stand. and he told me "i honestly dont know whats going to happen...we dont have to if you dont want to.." i've liked this guy since the beginning of the last school year. and we finally hooked up & stuff. i still really like this guy alot. i just dont know what to do since im scared im a rebound. he knows i like him. all day everyday since, i was thinking about what happend. i dont know what to do now..
2007-07-05 06:00:48 · 19 answers · asked by jennifer 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Stop being such a s lut.
2007-07-05 06:02:55 · answer #1 · answered by Notch J 1 · 2⤊ 4⤋
From "snuck out of the house," I take it you're young, and at home. I'd say to make sure you're safe, all the way.
About the relationship, I'd just tell you not to worry. Things get complex, and you can't control them, so just go with what you want to do and what you think is right.
You might get hurt, it might just be a rebound, but getting hurt is better than looking at a different husband in ten years and wishing that you'd gone for it with this friend.
Better to make mistakes than to not try.
I wish you the best of luck, and hope it works out.
2007-07-05 13:06:36 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi 'jennifer' :
Yeah ! This is tough.
Gonna be hard on your feelings and your ego.
But, you have to let him go !
It's all because you had sex before anybody (the two of you) made a commitment to begin a relationship.
He was honest enough to say, " You don't have to ...". I think he sounds like a good guy.
Unfortunately, your weakness for him has ruined your future chances with him.
I guarantee you are at the bottom of his "food-chain" now ... since he has already 'scored'.
You've made yourself appear too 'easy'.
If the 2 of you get together again, my bet is that sex will be the only thing on his mind.
Welcome to a shallow relationship !
I think a continued relationship with him is only going to lead you to a broken heart.
Get yourself on a new road.
Wait patiently for a guy that gives YOU attention ! But, take it slower this time.
2007-07-05 13:28:10 · answer #3 · answered by Helpme 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Firstly, I hope you used a condom. You need to consider that AIDS is out there in the population, and if you don't use a condom, it's like having sex with everyone he ever had sex with. Any age is too young to get the HIV infection. Also, without a condom you risk an unwanted pregnancy.
Women can't count on guys to do the right thing about protection. You need to be responsible for yourself, and buy a box of condoms. I keep one or two tucked away in my wallet. You would be well prepared to do the same--even if you're embarrassed to go shopping, you need to do this. It's part of being responsible for yourself once you're sexually active.
Your emotional involvement is another difficult aspect of your relationship. It sure works out better when both people try to meet each other's needs. Just from the info you shared, it sounds like this guy is out to take care of his own needs. Once your heart is involved you become vulnerable to heartbreak. It's a lot easier to say "don't like him so much" rather than doing it. When you admire someone for years, you may read in more positive qualities than your guy friend actually has. Try to be objective about his personality and character.
Talk with him, and be his friend, but don't offer more physical comforts than he is willing to give in emotional comforts. Guys are more physically sexual and girls are more emotionally sexual. In other words, guys go for a short term physical experience, and girls view sex as an emotional sharing that goes on over time. There's a book about this called "Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus" Look for it at your public library.
Just be sure where you stand with him before you continue what might not be an equal relationship. If you want emotional love, don't settle for his physical affection. What you want out of the relationship, and whether he is willing to be the man you need, is something that has to work out with time. Keep your needs as more important than his, and you'll be able to keep your self-respect.
Good luck, and God bless!
2007-07-05 14:10:34 · answer #4 · answered by Patrice Lauren 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well he probably wont know i just would not push the subject to him to much bc that will push him away faster and more. Maybe you were a rebound but maybe it was not. i would just be cool about it and just be there for him and wait a week or so and bring it up again. i would not of had sex with him that fast but everyone is in title for a mistake.
2007-07-05 13:04:55 · answer #5 · answered by knowssignlanguage 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try talking to him...but sadly guys will say anything they have to so that you will have sex with them. That is a lesson you need to learn. Sounds like all you were was a rebound
2007-07-05 13:08:40 · answer #6 · answered by *~*love always*~* 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i have known 2 "rebound" girls who have ended up being long-term girls...so it doesn't always end up being bad. One of them is my bro's current gf - she was a total rebound. and the other was my mom - my parents are still married...so ya never really know. just do what you feel is right in your heart :)
2007-07-05 13:11:51 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Girls rebound. Guys get on with their lives.
2007-07-05 13:04:05 · answer #8 · answered by Daniel R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first all you shouldnt had sex with him ..He got what he's been missing from you. Just dont call him anymore unless his intentions are focused on you. He undoubtly still loves this other girl or he wouldnt of said what he did. Just play it cooly towards him from now on till he decides for himself.
2007-07-05 13:06:23 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you're a rebound. He knows you like him and took advantage of that.
So, what it wrong of you? Depends on your morals... but generally speaking, yeah.
2007-07-05 13:06:05 · answer #10 · answered by Jordan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you really shouldn't be hooking up with guys that you aren't in a relationship with. It will be a chain reaction.....you sound young and you should wait to have s e x.
but if you must....all you can do is wait it out. be patient and see what happens.
2007-07-05 13:05:09 · answer #11 · answered by KR52 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋