I'm getting married Sunday, and although I can't wait to marry my guy and be with him forever, I am simply dreading the ceremony. I just want to get it over with! I feel like most of it is because I DO NOT want people to see me cry. I've always been like this about everything, and I don't think it's going to change.
Anyone have any ideas for me to avoid crying? Ugh!! We're getting married in Vegas, so it's actually just going to be mine and his parents, along with my sister and her boyfriend.
2007-07-05 05:26:53 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I am the same way you are and I thought that I would be just an absolute wreck the day of my wedding, after seeing my sister crying so hard that she stopped halfway down the aisle and tried to turn around and my dad had to put his arm around her and coax her the rest of the way, I was way nervous that my dad might have to carry me down. But after all that worrying I did not shed one tear that day. I woke up and was so excited to get going I couldnt stop smiling.
If you are getting your make-up done be sure to tell the girl that you are a big crier and they will know what kind of make-up to put on to prevent any smearing or running, if not then go to a counter at the mall and tell them, they will help you choose products and show you how to apply it properly.
The not looking at people tip above is a good one, other than that just go with it. If you cry you cry, if not then bonus.
Tears or no tears it will be an amazing day!
Best of luck!
2007-07-05 05:42:44 · answer #1 · answered by kateqd30 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well I'm not sure that there is a sure fired way to not cry but these are things that you can do to make it less noticeable.
First have false eye lashes applied for the wedding. I know some people recommend waterproof makeup however I see more often that it does not hold up to tears and perspiration especially in Las Vagas heat of over 115degrees. (I live in Nevada I know this for a fact.) The eye lashes will ensure perfect makeup through any amount of tears and heat.
Second have a hanky tucked in to the back of your bouquet this way it is handy and you can dab gently before any actual tears have a chance to fall. It will look sweet to dab (never wipe) tear rather than have them streaming down your face.
Third stay focused on the groom it might help however if you are so worried about focusing you might not hear the actual service taking place, you would tune out so much that looking back you might not even recall your own wedding.
You'll be beautiful even with a tear or two just enjoy it.
2007-07-05 05:59:39 · answer #2 · answered by Sierra Bride 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am the type of person who cries at the drop of a hat...honestly, diaper commercials get me started! So I seriously know where you're coming from!
First of all, I have to start by suggesting that your guests will think it's absolutely normal, and very touching, if you cry at your own wedding. Try to realize that they won't think you're being weird, or a crybaby...if there are a few tears, just let them go. If you don't want them to see it, just keep facing the minister until they can be wiped away, or they dry up. Also, it's likely that many of your guests will be tearing up, so just let it go!
Second, I have to say that I was so EXCITED at my own wedding, that I don't think I could have cried if I wanted to! There is no question that I was focused on the vows and details of the ceremony, but at the same time, none of the tear-jerking had any chance of getting through the wall of excitement inside me.
If you feel them coming, do what guys do - think about baseball! Okay, or maybe something else that's more fun to think about, such as your upcoming honeymoon!
Congratulations!
2007-07-05 05:45:18 · answer #3 · answered by abfabmom1 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why wouldn't you cry? Hey It's just your wedding!!!
Normally tears only come up for sad and tragic reasons. So if you're gonna cry, it better be a happy occasion.
Anyway, if you don't want to cry, try thinking about other things while you're getting married, specially thing completely apart form the ceremony. For example, your job, some money issues whatever. This works for me.
The only thing though is that the fact that you're thinking of something else, will show on the video. You'll seem distracted and even indifferent and I don't know if you'd like that.
2007-07-05 05:40:41 · answer #4 · answered by Paul G 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start practicing breathing exercises: breathe in through your nose while expanding your stomach, breathe out slowly and calmly while bringing your stomach in. Start practicing now.
When youre walking down the aisle, keep your eyes straight on your groom and focus on him.
When you are in a stressful situation, it is amazing how the body can suddenly pull together. You might not cry as much as you think you will.
Lastly, realize that this is a possibility, carry a tiny hankie or have your MOH carry one in case you need it. Accept that it might happen, it happens to brides all the time, and actually it is quite an endearing thing and not at all something to be ashamed of.
Good luck!
2007-07-05 05:37:05 · answer #5 · answered by fizzy stuff 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Emotions are a funny thing. That will be a hard battle. Focus on your groom and what the minster is saying. Don't forget to breathe. Also, hope no one else crys because it will become contiguous and you will cry. But the most important thing is to just enjoy the moment.
Good Luck.
2007-07-05 05:47:46 · answer #6 · answered by tish_ls 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when my mom got married i was starting to cry (they werent tears of joy either..i was just kinda mad and sad that my life was kinda ruined cuz my parents got a divorce and having another family didnt help) well.. anyway.. back to the point! lol! i just kinda kept my mouth shut really tight and i just tried to think of other things.. so if you are about to cry, think of something else and take the subject of crying out of ur mind..try not to really look directly at anyone and just DONT think about crying!! i dont know what you should think of.. like you could think of a desert or something that doesnt have water or whatever.. just like dont think of waterfalls either or else you might cry and have your own waterfall!! and try to remember that if you do let tears out, it will mess up your make-up!! but if you do cry, no one will think anything bad about it because MANY people cry at their wedding!! it's normal!! :]
2007-07-05 05:42:16 · answer #7 · answered by TrackSports 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay when my dad walked me down the aisle he told a joke.. well i barely could avoid laughing out loud the whole ceremony! it was soo funny and such a happy event
2007-07-05 05:46:25 · answer #8 · answered by Jen S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok, this is what i did.... I did not look at anyone. I walked down that isle looking right ahead, got to the groom looked at him and him only. Once I touched his hand, I was all smiles, I could not stop smiling. I saw no reason to look away. Not once did I have a tear in my eye.
2007-07-05 05:33:08 · answer #9 · answered by Va princess 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Oh gosh, it is your wedding day and if you do cry its not the end of the world. I don't know of a remedy, but if you don't find one it is still going to be wonderful
Congratulations
2007-07-09 04:10:50 · answer #10 · answered by MariaAntonietta 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋