I popped my girls cherry earlier in the week, and after having a few more fun times since, she is still talking about a little bit of pain and discomfort. Can some ladies out there tell me how many times it took before it stopped hurting them, and possibly give any more advice.
For extra info - we are very comfortable together, and i'm being quite gentle and considerate, so i'm sure its not my fault :)
2007-07-05 05:23:11 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
after her first time u should wait a couple of days before doing it again..remember pratice SAFE sex
2007-07-05 05:27:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, it shouldn't hurt at all, not even the first time. You can't break in a girl like you can break in a horse. this is the female form we're talking about here. Unfortunately, for the first time, people rush too much, are too eager to get it over with, giving rise to the myth that the first time hurts for girls.
Now, you haven't said what kind of pain and discomfort, and it would help to know the specifics. If the vagina is irritated, you need to use lubrication. If the thrusting is hurting her, either slow down and possibly have her see her doctor, might be a sign of a larger problem but don't worry too much, it's probably nothing.
Last but not least: Foreplay. I cannot not express this enough. Kissing, heavy petting, oral sex, all these things should be done for a good long time before, erm, taking the plunge.
It's not just about being gentle and considerate, it's about making sure she experiences pleasure as well. If it's hurting, I'm sorry, but you're doing it wrong. The best sex is when partners want to give each other the most pleasure, it should be mutual.
Extra note: always use a lubricated condom :)
2007-07-05 05:33:23 · answer #2 · answered by lilykdesign 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
There's nothing dirty about it!!!! Get married - that's dumb...
Try doing some more foreplay... she may not be wet enough. Also, try using lubed condoms. Make sure that she is relaxed and comfy. Oh, she may want to be in control too, that way she can immediatly stop if something doesn't feel right :)
2007-07-05 05:29:47 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
She is probably dry which means she isn't turned on enough. More foreplay is called for. And you could get some KY jelly.
2007-07-05 05:29:24 · answer #4 · answered by ? 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Give her time. She will have to get used to it. Make sure she enjoys it or she won't like having sex.
2007-07-05 05:30:06 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't rush - take your time to get her excited. Girls need time.
2007-07-05 05:30:26 · answer #6 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She will be fine in a couple of weeks!
2007-07-05 05:26:35 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Get married might make things easier for her as she can relax and not feel dirty.
2007-07-05 05:26:15 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 3⤋
use lube!
2007-07-05 05:29:21 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋