When it comes to a relationship, even though you love that person. Should u stay with him even though the sex is really bad? Im asking because i know sex is a big role in relationships. And its come to the point where i don't even feeling like "doing it" with him.
2007-07-05 05:22:24 · 25 answers · asked by brwn_id_grl_4u 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sex cant be the root of your relationship. The reason I say this is because one day you may not have a very active sex life ( I understand that you sex life is somewhat boring now) but if all you base your relationship on is sex, you are domed to have no relationship. If the only comunication you have is in the sheets, there is no communication. I have been married for 8 years to a wonderful man, yes we have sex but not all the time. There is times we have gone a month without. But, when we do, we know what each other likes and dislikes. I understand that the sex isnt good with him, but maybe if you try talking to him, and not in a way that will make him feel bad but tell him what your likes and dislikes are. Suggest things to him that you think will help spice things up. If you love him, you will work it out so that you can be together. But if all it is for you is sex, then by all means, let the relationship go and find someone that you truely love and can meet your needs for sexual satisfaction. Just my opinion.
2007-07-05 05:31:07 · answer #1 · answered by Mom of 4 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Neither is more important than the other. Is there a possibility you could suggest some "training"? There are resources (sexual training) and books on the subject.
Make an attempt to educate him otherwise I'd have to say there's NO way you should compromise. Sex is an important part of a trusting, loving relationship and if you're dreading it because he doesn't know what he's doing and has no interest in learning - forget it.
2007-07-05 05:35:48 · answer #2 · answered by slave2art 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sex is not a big role in a relationship. if that's what you think then your shallow. a relationship is about trust, communication and understanding. LOVE is what's most important. you should love someone before you think about having sex. then it would be more of making love than having sex.
2007-07-05 05:30:03 · answer #3 · answered by Ms. Lady 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is always more important than sex. People can get better at sex. I know this may seem like a lot of work, but teach your man. In other words, guide him as to what feels good for you and how to be better at sex. Try to do it without telling him how to do things, make it more of a suggestion, like..." Oooh, I love it when _____ (fill in the blank) happens to me. I love to feel ______." It should help. If you love the person, you will be willing to try this to make it work. Hope all goes well for you.
2007-07-05 05:28:19 · answer #4 · answered by pcgiant 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is more important. Sex is only a biological activity, and it really doesn't mean much if you don't love the person. However, I believe that mutual love can rarely exist. I usually fall in love, but the other person never loves me.
Sex can always be improved. It's just a matter of experimenting. Achieving mutual love is much more difficult.
2007-07-05 05:31:51 · answer #5 · answered by Amazing Adam 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the sex was bad I'd be outta there. I don't want say sex is more important than love, but if you take away the sex you're just friends. Find a guy that can hit it right, because you 'll aways resent this guy for not pleasing you.
2007-07-05 05:26:25 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love and sex are equally important, however, you need to ask yourself if you can do without one or the other. Love is a lot harder to find especially if it is true. Sex you can pretty much get anywhere. If you really love him you should be able to talk to him about and get some help.
2007-07-05 05:27:55 · answer #7 · answered by mpace1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sex is important, love is great but if the sex is not satisfying why get in a commited relationship u might end up cheating I think the real question is how important is sex to u?
2007-07-05 05:28:49 · answer #8 · answered by kit kat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lol. I had the same kind of problem with my boyfriend but for me sex was not as important as my relationship with him. So I stayed with him, we talked about it and we figured out some ways to improve it. It has been great lately! I hope the same will be with you guys. Good luck!
2007-07-05 05:28:20 · answer #9 · answered by marymari 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes sex is a big role in a relationship even though its not so big of a deal. but if your not getting satisfied by your man i dont think itll last so long youll eventually get tired of it and especially when ppl brag about how good THEIR sex lives is. its really up to you if you want to put up with it just think about it really good like i said its everything in a relationship
2007-07-05 05:27:10 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋