Should spanking be a way of disipline?

Question

OK I HAVE 4 BABIES, I HATE TO SPANK MY KIDS BUT SOMETIMES NOTHING ELSE WORKS. I PUT THEM IN THE CORNER, GIVE THEM A TIME OUT, AND I EVEN TRY TO TALK TO THEM TO MAKE THEM SEE THAT THEY MAKE MOMMY UPSET.
OH BY THE WAY I ONLY SPANK THEIR BOTTOM. CAN ANY BODY GIVE ME POINTERS?

oh yeah ages
4 yrs
2 yrs
twins 4mos( i would never dream of spanking them, GOD no)

Answer 1

wow, with 4 kids, you have a lot on your hands!! I raised 3 kids. My oldest son is 23, my middle son is 20 and the baby girl is now 17. If you asked any one of my kids if I would spank them if they deserved it, without blinking an eye, they would say "heck yes". BUT, if you asked them when the last time was that they got spanked, I don't think any of them could tell you. If they learn now that they must face the results for their actions, I truly believe they turn out much better in life. None of my kids have done anything worse than get a traffic ticket. They learned young ( from getting a spanking on the bottom if they deserved it) that if you do wrong, there will be consequences. But my rule number one has always been, never, never, never miss an opportunity to hugg your kid. If they come to you wanting a hug, give em a big one!! if you just feel like huggung them, have at it! And always, after you have to spank, let them stew for a little while, then give em that hugg and let them know that you love them, and remind them not to do wrong again.
Good luck!! (I sure wish they came with an owners manual, like a car)!!

Answer 2

Spanking done for the right reasons and under the right circumstances is OK.

Our 3 year old will be spanked if he crosses a certain line and has been warned but still carries on. He is give a short sharp spanking on his bottom (with pants on) and when its over, he gets to say sorry, we make sure he understands what he did was wrong and why - and then its all over and resolved. He is never hurt and it is never done in the spur of the moment, he is spanked always a while after the event usually that night so he knows it is coming but never in the heat of the moment.

Answer 3

I'm sure i'll get thumbs down, but I agree with spanking depending on the situation. If you have tried positive reinforcement and have tried every other way and your child is still misbehaving or not listening to you, you can give them a little swat on the booty. How many people our age got spanked and lived to tell about it and their parents didn't get arrested for abuse? If some people have perfect children, then they dont need to spank them...and some people THINK their children are perfect and so don't disipline them at all...when they fully deserve a spanking. I personally saw that my cousin was not spanked but they tried reasoning with her, giving her time outs, etc...she was not phased by ANYTHING and is a holy terror...she's a horrible child and no one wants to be around her. Sometimes spanking is the only discipline that a child will react to.

Just remember, don't do it in anger...take a minute to calm yourself before you explain that what they did was wrong then smack their bottom. And God bless you for having 4 kids so young!

Answer 4

I agree it can be a way of discipline. Especially if used properly. I have only ever spanked (and I am sure it can't even really be called that) my son 3 times and he is 4 1/2.
Sometimes words and time outs don't work and he was so shocked and insulted and embarrassed when I did it the first time, all I had to say when he was misbehaving the next time is "Do you want a spanking?"
He knew then that it was possible for him to get one and it wasn't an empty threat.
If you use it ALL the time it is no longer a threat and can lead to one spanking harder to get through and that is getting close to the abusive side and the idea isn't to harm or really hurt them.
I think the anti spanking idea has gone too far and way too many undisciplined kids are running around.

Answer 5

I have spanked my children sometimes in the past but I have learned that although it seemed like it was getting through to them better than the corner or the time out, it really wasn;t. All it was doing was fueling their anger and showing them how to hit to express their feelings. I have learned that if you are consistent with putting them in that corner EVERYTIME they disobey and make sure that you tell them what they have done that is does work.You just have to be VERY consistent and don't slack off. I also put up a poster with the rules of the house and explain it to them and tell them that the punishment for breaking these rules will be their age limit in minutes in the corner for EVERYTIME they broke the rules. My daughter is 10 years old and she pretty much stayed in that corner every 10 minutes for the better part of the first day I started this but the next day it got better and it has been working like a dream for me. Never underestimate your children. They understand more than you think. I also make another poster with rewards on it. They receive a star for each day they were good and didn't break the rules. At the end of the week. Normally on Saturday. They got to draw out of their numbered star jar for a prize. Like, 3 star for the week got to draw of the 3star jar. The prizes were small for the 1 star jar like, extra dessert at dinner, 50cents etc. and the prizes increased for each star jar. That way they would thrive to make the effort to be good all week. It seemed corny at first but it does work. I have four children as well. Three boys and One girl. Ages range from 8 to 14 years and this method suits them well. It takes some patience but it does pay off in the end. Hope this helps.

Answer 6

I Think What You're Doing Sounds Like Responsible Parenting. Physical Discipline For Children Is A Controversial Topic But I'm Definately In Favour Of It. Smacking A Child's Bottom Is Probably The Only Way To Let Them Know They're Doing Something Bad, Their Minds Aren't Developed Enough To Understand A Lecture Or Pick Up On How You Feel. My Parents Used To Hit Me On The Bottom When They Wanted To Make Me Aware I Was Doing Something Naughty And I've Grown Up Well Because Of It. As Long As You Don't Hurt Them And It's Only When They Do Something Bad, I Think It's The Best Way Of Discipling Young Children.

Answer 7

Spanking can be an effective bad behavior deterrent but only if it is a last resort and it is not your only form of punishment. I can remember as a child, my parents rarely spanked but I knew that once a spanking was threatened that I would get it and it would hurt if I didn't stop what I was doing. Just make sure to adequately punish when needed and reward when needed.

Answer 8

It depends in two ways. One is why are you spanking them. Is it because they are disobeying you, or because they made an innocent mistake. If its disobeying then of course punish them by spanking. As an old saying says "spare the rod and spoil the child. If it is a mistake such as tripping and breaking a dish then no its not right to spank them.
The second thing is how you are spanking them. If you spank them with a hand or belt on the bottom or maybe back it is ok. If you go outside and break a branch off a tree and beat them all over until they are bruised, then that would be wrong.
Then again all of this is my opinion.

Answer 9

With in reason, and only to teach children right from wrong should spanking be used. Some children do not respond to "VOICE" alone. Every child reacts differently to discipline. If scolding with raising your voice does not work, well yes...give a spank here and there. And always remember you can not reason with a 2-3 year old. They need discipline.

Good Luck! :)

Answer 10

well you should spank
the 2 and 4 year old because there in there stage of
wanthing to know thing so don't spank the younger
ones but in my point you have to spank the 2 year old and the 4 year old but not just for nothing but spank them if they miss
behave okay