my girlfriend and her father dont get along at all. the other day he threatened to hit her, so my girl, her mom, and her sisters moved out. this morning, her dad called her mom and was threatening to kill my girlfriend!!! his own daughter!!! how should i handle the situation? i htought about going to his house and beating the crap outta the guy, but that would start even more drama, so should i call the cops or somethin? -thanks : )
2007-07-05 05:13:32 · 13 answers · asked by ? 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Any kind of threat that pertains to harming another individual should be brought to the attention of local law enforment. If you really think he is serious, then see how you can help your girlfriend, her sister and mom about staying somewhere safe until either he is locked up or the situation is dealt with accordingly. Take all threats seriously, especially if he has a violent history.
2007-07-05 05:30:19 · answer #1 · answered by Phoenixsong 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Remember that there are always 2 sides to a story. Unless you were witness to the threats actually happening, I would investigate further as to what is really going on. This story seems a bit far fetched and doesn't seem to make sense. In all honesty, if this is a case of a high schooler and her family and you are that young as well (seeing as to how she is living with her parents, I must assume you guys are young) -there is no need to have this warped drama in either of your lives. I have seen young women make up and/or exaggerate stories to get sympathy and attention from a guy. Don't get sucked into that kind of drama. Be cautious and wise. What did your girlfriend do that has her father so upset? There obviously has to be a reason. Maybe she is not behaving properly and that has the father frustrated and scared for her future. There are so many different ways of looking at this situation, so therefore, don't jump the gun and get involved with something that may potentially be just a ridiculous mello-drama. If it were that serious, don't you think that the mother would have called the cops? Think it through.
2007-07-05 12:41:56 · answer #2 · answered by Megan B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yikes! The funny thing is you can't really do anything. Your Girl and her mother already have enough to call the cops on him just because he threatened their lives. restraining orders are great sometimes. Now if you are in the home of the mother and the girlfriend and the father enters without permission and acts unaccordingly you then have the legal and moral right to beat the living potatoes out of him.
Been there done that, but in my case the ol' man was threatening me because he had this complex about "I don't want my daughter seen in the company of anyone whom isn't white" he came to my house and walked inside without invitation. Needless to say they almost had to bring a mop.
But as the boyfriend of the threatened you can't do anything unless you are in the home of the moms and GF or in public so it is seen that he verbally or phisically caused harm.
2007-07-05 12:22:49 · answer #3 · answered by AJ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your girlfriend's Mom should call the cops and get a restraining order. You getting involved would definitely make things worse. If possible maybe your parents could allow your girlfriend to stay at your house or maybe she can stay with a friend until things blow over. The father should not be told where she is. But definitely the police should be informed of the threat.
2007-07-05 12:19:41 · answer #4 · answered by innerradiancecoaching 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
HER MOTHER NEEDS TO HANDLE IT!!! If she can't stop being a doormat (trust me, this was not an isolated incident) then someone of authority needs to intervene.
When I was 16 and my mother finally left and took me and my brother after years of abuse and an incident where he tried to burn her, my father threatened to have me arrested and charged as a runaway if I didn't come home. He meant it, too. We went to a battered women's shelter and lived there for three months. 19 years have passed and I don't have a relationship with my father nor do I care to, because he is still cruel and abusive. Your girlfriend's father will pay the ultimate price when he is alone.
2007-07-05 12:25:57 · answer #5 · answered by Teresa 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that beating the crap out of this guy will do no good. It will just bring you down to his level not to mention getting you into trouble with the law.
If your girlfriend is truly scared, then she needs to contact the police department and take actions to make sure that he cannot come around her.
Good luck.
2007-07-05 12:21:02 · answer #6 · answered by Angie D 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be there for your girlfriend. Listen to her and console her but try your best not to get involved with the drama. If that occurs you could put yourself in danger or go to jail yourself. I know it's hard to not react when someone you love has been threatened but try to stay neutral.
2007-07-05 12:19:54 · answer #7 · answered by hootie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The police should be notified ASP and do not go over to the guys house if you did then you give him more grounds to harm you not physically but legally let the police handle the situation.
2007-07-05 12:24:02 · answer #8 · answered by wkemrer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should call the cops, and tell them what happened and also get the rest of the family (including your girlfriend) to testify to the cops. Hope i helped. Best of wishes with the situation. â¥tiaraâ¥
2007-07-05 12:18:41 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh, you need to stay out of this one! Let her mom and family deal with him.. you just be supportive of your girlfriend while she goes through this tough time. Listen to her, hug her, but stay out of her family's business.
2007-07-05 12:36:26 · answer #10 · answered by az_mommma 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋