hi, I tried to ask this earlier and everyone seemed to think I was on welfare or something. I am not trying to save money by economizing I just want tips on how to be a middle class stay at home mom. We make 35 percent more than the average income for our town. I was poor growing up and do not know how to balance my time well so I have free time seems like I am always doing something and I would like more family time. my husband goes to work at 5:30 am gets home at 4 pm, kids are in bed by 7:30 to 8. I am a morning person which does help, I have a 2 year old, a 6 mo old pregnant again(I was on b/c with all 3 kids depo with the 2 year old, and pills for the other 2 as I breast feed so i am not ignorant just fertile) and took parenting classes at 3 different places for 2 years and also a cooking class. they told me how to parent but not how to be the spouse at home. I need menu ideas which taste good and dont cost 50 to make or anything, when should I do things?
2007-07-05 05:05:39 · 6 answers · asked by mommy to be of 3 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
When do I give kids a bath, take a shower myself do I do specific days for different things? Help me plan a schedule please I am just running ragged. Any time I am not doing household stuff I am playing with my kids but I hate budgeting time for my kids shouldn’t it be the other way around? How do I become a great(not perfect) wife and mother?
2007-07-05 05:05:56 · update #1
I don’t intend to start college till my youngest is in preschool( if we get pregnant again we are doing something permanent but I finally have a doctor who is listening to me when I say I followed the b/c instructions to t and still prego so hopefully we will fix my fertile problem) I want to be the soothing wonderful mom everyones grandmother talks about who did so much right. I want to have family traditions and a loving close knit family.
2007-07-05 05:06:12 · update #2
we own a house and I am working very hard to make it a home any ideas? I know these are weird questions but unless you grew up without a home just a apt and parents who werent really parents its is hard to understand. I crave a home and family and traditions and when I am old I want my kids to still get along
2007-07-05 05:08:21 · update #3
I do know how you feel,sounds pretty close to my childhood.The best advise I can give you is get as much done as you can around the childrens schedule.The baby probably takes a few naps,the 2 year old at least one.Do a chore or what ever each time you have minute,don't stress yourself,take a nap if you need one,LOL.No one expects you to be perfect.Kids bath's before bed,it helps them sleep,and they'll just get dirty again,other wise.Take your shower after they are out for the night,or ask your husband to take over for a few minutes when he gets home.Sorry I can't help you with the good dinner,still trying to figure that one out for myself!(You want to be a good mom?Relax!)
2007-07-05 05:27:49 · answer #1 · answered by Nobody puts Baby in the corner! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi I sent an answer earlier. I didn't think for a minute you were ingnorant or on welfare. I actually thought you were very mature for wanting to be the best mom and wife you could be.I don't think it matters what your income level is, there are still plenty of things to do that are free or low cost. My husband is an attorney and we have a good income but I still like to save money.
It's 12:15 now and I still havent' been able to get in the shower. Take a shower when you can fit it in.
I don't really have a set schedule to do everything but if you feel it's necessary write down all the things you want to accomplish during the week and then try splitting it up over the course of 5 or 6 days from the time you get up to the time the kids go to bed. We had a chore chart when I was growing up, there were 7 kids in my family and both my parents worked full time. We each had a different chore to do each day.
2007-07-05 05:20:58 · answer #2 · answered by alisjohnst 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
These are your moments. You are running around a mile a minute trying to create something that already exists. Slow down.
Housework will always be there, its never going to end, however your kids will grow up and go out on their own and you will be sitting around wondering what happened.
Involve the kids in running the house. Give them chores to do every step of the way with you. If you dust, give your 2yr a cloth and tell him/her to do what mommy is doing. While you are cooking, let him/her "cook" too. A 2yr old can put things on a table, like napkins, spoons, or plastic bottles.
The very best things to do with kids is simply spend time with them. Play outside in the yard, color, read stories, take baths. Take walks (nature hunt), sing, cut things out of magazine and glue to paper, bake cookies, take naps. You should always be sleeping when they are sleeping, you sound exhausted.
All of those things are cheap or free, and create a family. Its the family you create that will see you through the rough times ahead. There will be rough times, no matter how well you do in life or how much you have, you will also have rough times. Make gifts home made, keep the tv off, and make sure they see a good solid relationship with you and your husband, and you stand a chance of getting what you want and being happy with it.
2007-07-05 05:24:22 · answer #3 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
One of the things that I loved most about my growing up years and try to implement into my family now is having dinner together as a family every night. It gives us all time to sit and catch up on our day. It's not so much the actual meal but the time together. You will find that as your kids grow your dinners will change. Most kids do not have the same taste bud as adults. Another thing that helps is to schedule two days for house cleaning/errands if you can then have the other days to do things with your kids. Trying to free up your weekends to be with your family is great and if you know that on Tue. you dust, vacuum and do the bathrooms then on Thurs. you do laundry and whatever it gives you some order. Plus be flexible with three kids nothing is the same! I think that most husbands just want you to be happy and not stressed out when they come home mostly. Hope this helps some...
2007-07-05 05:24:12 · answer #4 · answered by sumthing 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A commendment for being a stay at home mom. It is a full time job with overtime. It seems you would have to be super organized in finding time for everything.
1. Food- If you have cable, the food network is an excellent chanel to watch for recipes and ideas. Also try: http://www.foodtv.com. They could give you ideas on how to preserve leftovers and to make a leftover meal that is all your own. (My personal favorite is making leftover pork roast into bbq sandwiches).
2. If your kids have a nap time, that would be a good time to get your "personal" time. Also when they wake up from their nap you can have activities such as coloring, watching educational videos....something that is low key that you can get some housecleaning done.
I know it's not much help, but it's all I have as of this moment.
Good Luck
2007-07-05 05:30:13 · answer #5 · answered by survivor 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-05 15:26:29 · answer #6 · answered by vansoest 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋