I think my father is probably expecting to give me away although we haven't discussed it. I'm not very close to him and we have sure had our differences in the past few years. Not to mention I am almost 25 and have lived out from under his roof since I turned 18. My son is 2 1/2 and I just think it would be adorable to have him walk me down the aisle. He has really been the only man in my life up until now. I am just looking for opinions because I really don't want to upset my dad or him to be hurt if I choose to have my son walk me down and "give me away".
2007-07-05 04:57:44 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
You could let both of them do it and also make your son the ring bearer or if he is not the biological son of your fiance you could also do a family medallian ceremony. If you really don't want your father to do it then have your son do it. He is more important in your life anyway. I'm having my 14 yo son give me away even though I have a step-father. Although we get along okay, he has never thought of me as his daughter and my son is the most important person in my life. Make the decision that is going to make you happier.
2007-07-05 06:20:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think if your not close to your father, your son should give you away because as kids come first in a sense its like hes allowing another man to love you? It would be adorable but he is only 2 and 1/2 why dont you have them both walk you down your son leading and you dad next to you? or them both either side of you
2007-07-05 05:04:09 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The concept of being "given away" came from the times when women were considered "property" of the men in their lives...first their fathers, then their husbands...this part of the ceremony is intended to provide proof to the minister that whomever owned you in the past was truthfully giving away his rights to you, and handing these over to another man.
With that in mind, it doesn't sound as if either of these "men" are the right man for the job. Certainly, your son is not in a position to do so, as he can't possibly understand the significance of the wedding, let alone his part in it.
Have you considered walking down the aisle by yourself? Since you have been on your own for so long, do you really need to be "given away"? Personally, this would be my vote, if I were in your shoes.
My second choice would be having your father do it...partially because your son won't "get it", and partially because this would probably mean something to your father.
2007-07-05 05:28:42 · answer #3 · answered by abfabmom1 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My opinion is that you allow your father to give you away. And here is my reasoning: Your relationship with your father may be difficult but in truth, he is still your father and loves you very much. Since you were a child, he has known that the day would come and even though he may not have thought about it often, he knew it was his job. Your son can be included in ceremony by having him written into your vows or helping you light the unity candle. There are so many things for him to do. But, the idea behind walking you down the aisle is to give you away. Your son is not giving you away, your father technically is. It very well may be the tie that binds you two closer together or helps lessen the tension between you two. Congratulations on your wedding and Good Luck!
2007-07-05 05:04:58 · answer #4 · answered by Jennifer B 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
How about walking down the aisle alone, to show your independence? Don't have your father do it if you really don't want to. The idea of going with your son isn't a great idea, though maybe he could be ring bearer - though it's kind of young.
Alternatively, do what my husband and I did. My father had passed away, my mom wouldn't do it, and I didn't want to walk in alone. My husband and I walked in together, with the attendants walking in as couples before us. It was wonderful, and everyone thought it was really different!
2007-07-05 09:57:18 · answer #5 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I NEVER HAD A FATHER EITHER SO I LET MY MOM AND BROTHER GIVE ME AWAY.. my mother has always been my heart and my brother and i we talked but were not so close i mean well always be there for one another so i wanted them both to walk me down the aisle and give me away just because the past wasnt a happy story doesnt mean you cant get your future and your new life to be better always be the better person Look into God he will always lead you in the right dorection put your trust in him
2007-07-05 06:31:07 · answer #6 · answered by evie1718 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if your dad really cares about what you want on your wedding day, he wont be hurt no matter what you decision is. I picked my grandfather of my dad for my wedding. Also, weigh the options. While it would be adorable for your 2 1/2 year old son to walk you down the aisle, does he do good in front of crowds or is he going to act up half way down the aisle. He can't answer the preacher when he asks who gives this women. Also, what is he going to do when it's time for him to go sit down. Is he going to go to someone willingly or is he going to fuss to stay with you.
Consider the alternatives:
1. Have you dad carry your son and both of them walk you down the aisle. When at the alter, let you father answer the preacher "Her son and I do" or something to that affect. Kiss them both on the check before they sit down together.
2. Have your father walk you down the aisle and your son walk in front of you as the ring bearer. He's a good age for that. Then he can stand with the other "big boys" or sit with your family through the wedding.
Good Luck! I hope this helped and everything goes great!
2007-07-05 05:23:18 · answer #7 · answered by warriorchic84 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
When I got married I had my father give me away and my son who was five at the time was my husband's best man and my son who was two was the ring bearer. It is important to include your son in the ceremony because he is getting a new dad at the same time that you are getting a new husband. You could even have both your son and father walk you down the aisle because they are both entrusting your happiness to your husband. Another option is that you could also have your husband say vows to your son that he is always going to love and cherish him and be the best dad to him that he can be. Good luck and congratulations!
2007-07-05 05:12:43 · answer #8 · answered by motherofthree 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you and your father are on good terms, have him walk him halfway and hand you off to your son to walk you the rest of the the way.
It is good that you are considering your son play an important part in your wedding. It is a life change even for him at the age of 2 1/2. He is a major part of your future and as you are to his future.
Whatever you decide, enjoy your wedding and congrats!
2007-07-05 05:41:30 · answer #9 · answered by tish_ls 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your father should do. Your son isn't actually giving you away. He is staying with you. Walking a daughter down the aisle and giving her away is symbolic of the parents letting go and giving the daughter to her husband. I know that situation does not fit you perfectly, but 2.5 year olds can be very unpredictable. My 2.5 year old refused at the last minute to walk down the aisle at her aunt's wedding. Fortunately she wasn't the only flower girl.
2007-07-05 05:04:32 · answer #10 · answered by Dee 4 · 2⤊ 2⤋