This guy I'm seeing, I would say we're more than friends with benefits cuz when I go down to see him, we act like a couple and do stuff together. However, he told me he wanted to be friends cuz I nag too much, I accepted it cuz we live 200 miles away from each other. Anywayz, when we were on msn messenger one night, I said "so you been getting booty lately?" and he replied wit "I won't lie and tell you I didn't have sex, but it was nothing serious, what bout you"?. He's a very honest person, with no tact, but I can't help but think that that is too honest. And if he really liked me, then he would tell me he's being faithful....even if he was faithful, it would be hard to believe anyway, cuz we hardly see each other, why would he want to see me, when he's got other women?!! he paid for my ticket over £100 when I went to see him a month ago?!
2007-07-05 04:43:48 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Last time I saw he he was saying he wants to get married in the next two years and asked "What would you say if I asked you to marry me"
2007-07-05 04:54:43 · update #1
You're friends, and he's already told you that he doesn't want a relationship with you, so you may be jealous, but you have no right to complain. He's been honest with you and told you where you stand - LISTEN TO HIM. You need to move on.
2007-07-05 04:47:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You say you are "friends with benefits" and he says he doesn't want to be anything more than friends...so where's the confusion? I guess I don't understand. Friends are allowed to have other friends. As a friend you should respect him. At least he's honest with you. And why would he tell you he's being faithful by not sleeping with other girls? He's being a faithful friend.......that's what you are. If you want more I think you will have to find it elsewhere. Don't be mad at him for being what he said he was to you. It's really not a confusing situation....I think you are trying to make it out into more than what it really is. I've driven hundreds of miles to see my "friends with benefits" in the past and he's paid for everything and held my hand and taken me to dinner and out to a movie, but we are still nothing more than friends. If either one of us find someone, we continue the friend part and leave out the benefits. That's life. I enjoy it and wouldn't want it any other way. I don't want to know if he sleeps with other women so I don't ask...plain and simple.
2007-07-05 04:57:56 · answer #2 · answered by SusieQ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no "faithful" in a friends with benefits situation. If you want faithful then you need to tell him that you want an exclusive relationship. Apparently, he has already told you he doesn't want a relationship. SO you have two choices.
1. Keep on doing what your doing.
2. Cut him off and require all or nothing.
You seem like you are a weak female, so I am guessing you'll take number 1 and just keep complaining.
2007-07-05 04:49:46 · answer #3 · answered by Spiral Wizard 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He wants to see you again because he really cares for you. And yes, he does lack tact, but his honesty gives you an informed security which ultimately protects you. If the thought of others being in the picture is getting less palatable for you as you go along, maybe it's time to upgrade your status with each other to a more exclusive arrangement. It's at least worth some dialog.
2007-07-05 04:54:13 · answer #4 · answered by Captain S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why ask a question that you don't want the answer to?
YOU consided the two of you "more than friends"...he flat-out said he doesn't want to be with you...and there's 200 miles between you..That makes you someone he likes to chill ans have sex with....nothing more.
2007-07-05 04:48:39 · answer #5 · answered by Rachel-Pit Police-DSMG 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are being used just like all the other women in his stable. Unless you want to remain a sex object you should break it off immediately. Some guys are just into the little head games. Find one that is using his "larger" head dear.
2007-07-05 04:48:08 · answer #6 · answered by green3ch 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u have a friend with benefits than u need 2 b careful with that(wrap it up).that means he can sleep with u and sue,and doris.etc. that's what friends wit benefits do i wouldn't fall in love with him or anything like that. that's a choice that u have 2 make. just be wise and careful. i don't play those friends with benefits game anymore--too dangerous
2007-07-05 04:50:51 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you're nuts woman.. i bet you are a nag.. I'd bet that if he lied you'd label him a liar in your mind someplace.. he told you the truth about a couple of very important things.. he wasn't unfaithful because you didn't ruin commitment, because his commitment with you is to be a good friend.. it sounds like he's taking care of that nicely.. if you'd like to earn a more exclusive relationship then take his criticism constructively, and adjust that nagging to fit both of your likings.
2007-07-05 04:55:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well he might want to see you b/c he likes you in a way. and you knowing he sleeps around how can you be with him? you dont know with how many he's been with and you still mess with him. anyways thats your life but if both of you haved talked about it and both of you are honest then keep going if youd like as long as you guys communicate.
2007-07-05 04:49:13 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He didn't lie to you- I dont know i wouldn't sleep with him if I was you! I have afriend that had a friend wit benefits and she came back wit ha STD that he shared with her and all the other girls! Becareful!
2007-07-05 04:47:50 · answer #10 · answered by 04/12/2008 :) 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋