My father and I have never gotten along. Who should I have walk me down the aisle? My mom and I are very close. I also have five brothers (two of which are in the bridal party). What do you think?
2007-07-05 04:36:43 · 23 answers · asked by CK 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I think you should have your mother do it. If my son wasn't walking me down the aisle I would choose my mother to do it(I may actually have both of them do it) because she is a wonderful mom, has been my best friend since I was a child and has been there through all the good and bad times I've had. Congrats on your upcoming marriage.
2007-07-05 04:42:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
One thing that hasn't been mentioned but is certainly an option is to walk down the aisle by yourself. You don't have to have anyone give you away if you don't want to. As others have already mentioned, this is an old tradition based around the idea that a bride must be transferred from the care of one man (father, usually) to the care of her new husband. These days, most brides take care of themselves and would be perfectly within their rights to give themselves away, as it were. So, if you *want* to be escorted down the aisle, you can ask whoever you like. It's *your* wedding, after all. However, if you asked this question because you think you *have* to be escorted down the aisle but don't really see any good options for your escort, keep in mind that you can walk down the aisle by yourself.
2007-07-05 12:53:34 · answer #2 · answered by nardhelain 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have either your mom, one of your brothers, or his dad do it. I'm not at all close to my father and when that day comes (in a long time from now) I want my mom to walk me down the aisle.
2007-07-05 15:09:44 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your parents are divorced and your dad is NOT helping pay for the wedding, then it's fine to have your mom walk you down the aisle. One of my friends did this even though her dad was paying for part of the wedding, and it insulted him to no end. It was terribly rude to take his money and not give him the traditional role of giving away the bride. If she wanted his money, she should have had both her parents give her away. Or, if her parents had still been married, she should have had both of them give her away.
Brothers are fine, too, but again, if your dad is paying for the wedding, it's an insult to him to have his role usurped.
In my case, my parents did NOT pay for the wedding, and my dad and I are not close and my parents dislike my husband. Plus I had been on my own since 17 and I was 29, so I didn't feel like I needed to be "given away." My husband and I walked down the aisle together.
2007-07-05 12:18:04 · answer #4 · answered by sparki777 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If your parents are still together I would suggest having them both walk you down the aisle. If you arent close to your dad and he hasnt lived with you then I dont see there a problem with your mom walking you down the aisle. Dont stress over it- its your day do what makes you feel comfortable! COngrats and BEst wishes!!
2007-07-05 11:52:51 · answer #5 · answered by mom25 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
you mother would be a good choice since you're so close, or one of your other brothers.
i'm don't get along with my father very much either, so i am choosing to not have anyone walk me down the aisle. that's just a personal preference, i feel that i am no one's "posession", therefore there's no need for me to be "given away".
2007-07-05 12:00:05 · answer #6 · answered by LoriBeth 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your oldest brother, an uncle or your grandfather. A close family friends. Hell if you wanted you could go by yourself.
Do whatever makes you fell comfortable.
My daddy and son walked me down the aisle.
2007-07-05 11:44:41 · answer #7 · answered by letigutierrez77 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The whole purpose of having the father walk the bride down the idea is symbolic. Usually, he who has cared for you all your life is now handing you over to another man to take over the responsibilities of ensuring your safety and support. If your dad hasn't been filling that role, there's no use in him doing it. Have someone who fits the role a little better to 'give your hand' to another.
2007-07-05 11:43:01 · answer #8 · answered by Jeremy 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Even though you and your father have never gotten along, if you were to have him walk you, he would be honored, and it could make things better between you. If you know that there's absolutely no way that you'll have your father walk you, then I'd suggest that you have your mother walk you. These two people gave you life, and in my eyes, are the only two people who deserve this honor.
2007-07-05 11:44:27 · answer #9 · answered by Tweety 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If you care to salvage your relationship with your dad, now would be a good time. Just because you never got along, doesn't mean you guys don't love each other. This is a huge moment for you, and it can wipe out a lot of bad feelings between you guys. I grew up not knowing my dad too well, so I'm having my brother walk me, but a big part of me really wishes I could have my dad do it, eventhough he hasn't been part of my life until my adult years. You may regret it, but you should go with what your heart tells you. Good luck.
2007-07-05 12:20:02 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋