Even if shes' there shes bored/angrry. Its just really hard to balance things between making time for my friends, her, work, family, etc. Any ideas would be greatly appreciated
2007-07-05 04:24:32 · 20 answers · asked by bob g 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
never cheated on her, not really that flirtatious, she likes my friends but would rather spend time alone. she'll be fine with going out with them, but after like an hour shes ready to go.
2007-07-05 04:29:58 · update #1
we have talked about it recently and she did suggest that we probably should spend more time apart. but even when i do go out, its hard to enjoy it as much knowing she home probably upset that im out. We are just different people in that regard. im very social, shes had a failing out with one of her closest friends and she doesn't really have any close friends anymore. so if we spend time apart, im going out with friends, shes at home hanging with her parents. I think what really upsets her is that she doesn't have any close friends anymore to call on when I decided to hang out with the guys.
2007-07-05 04:38:53 · update #2
She is being selfish, inconsiderate and immature.
Behaving this way in front of your friends makes you look bad - for that, I say she is inconsiderate.
Angry that you are going out with your friends shows she is selfish; does she think you should only have one person in your life and that's her?
If she is serious about having a long term relationship with you, she should try to help you build a network of friends that can help you; whether in your work or personal life. She should show her support towards your work and try to understand more about your life, work and family. Sulking is childish.
She should be glad that you are bringing her around to show that she is your girlfriend. Does she appear angry if you accompany her to meet her friends and family? I guess not.
If you think she is going to change her behavior, you are kidding yourself. Either you put up with her nonsense and wait for her to grow up or dump her now. Well, you take the risk that she may continue to behave this way at 40!
Have a serious talk with her about her behavior. If she loves you, she will make serious attempts to change. My bet is that she will act defensively. So, its your call now - whether you want to spend the rest of your life juggling things based on her moods or you find someone more considerate, understanding, supportive and mature.
Good luck!
Additional : Its her problem and not yours that she doesn't have any close friends. So she has to deal with it. Can you imagine how it will be married to someone like that? You will be suffocated! Everyone needs their own space and time. She has to respect that you need your own friends even if she cannot keep hers.
P/S My husband barely goes out without me and I am often glad when he goes out with the boys once in awhile and I can have my OWN time. I will tell him to please enjoy himself and I will enjoy myself at home or out shopping on my own. I like the fact that he had a good time with the boys and I trust that he isn't cheating on me. What I am saying is that your GF needs to change her mindset and attitude. BUT experience tells me that mindset and attitude are DIFFICULT to change. Its easier for you to change partner than change her.
2007-07-05 04:44:05 · answer #1 · answered by Didi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was going to tell you that you have to accept her friendship with this guy, blah blah blah. But theres a huge red flag here if she gets upset when you tell her how you feel about this. There's obviously something more than a friendship even if its just a fainting hope. She may care for him but him not for her or vice versa. In the long picture, how she going to react the next time you try to express your needs and desires in this relationship? Shes not sensitive to you and your needs. Dont break up but maybe take a break and in 2 weeks you'll know exactly what to do. That doesn't mean you guys dont talk or go out, but no bf/gf stuff (holding hands, kisses etc).
2016-05-18 22:42:00 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I used to go out with a girl just like that. Was with her just over 2 years, i had to get rid when I realised i only actually had 1 friend left! Was the best thing I ever did. She got with someone else who liked things the same way as her and I had a lot of fun for a year got all my mates back and found a fantastic girl that i've now been with for over 5 years. Get out before its too hard/late enjoy yourself guilt free!!
Good Luck
2007-07-05 04:37:29 · answer #3 · answered by Kelv C 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow 1st suggestion is trade her in for a good model. A person who can't share you or just be happy being with you regardless of the place and surroundings is a waste of time. Pretty soon your friends may not even want her around which will only make things difficult for you. Next she will be screaming you need to choose. And believe me friends will always be there so don't push them away for some girl who just needs to GROW UP!!!
2007-07-05 04:30:09 · answer #4 · answered by lovely 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i agree with the other comment. but maybe you want to make it work. why the heck does she get mad when you spend time with family? does she not have a family? i don't think your family would enjoy having her around if she's always in a bad mood. invite her to your family times but make sure you let her know, that she can't make a fit about it.
actually; it doesn't really sound like a problem anymore. there's an easy answer. let her go.
2007-07-05 04:30:11 · answer #5 · answered by elceee<3[= 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How often are you going out with your friends? Do you try and make an effort to spend equal amounts of time with your friends and your girlfriend?
If you are spending quality time with her, I suggest getting a new girlfriend! Couples need time apart and have seperate lives as well!
2007-07-05 04:28:30 · answer #6 · answered by twinkle730 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that in order for you to be happy, you need to balance your time. Sometimes you need to go out with your friends. Other times you want to bring her. When you bring her make sure it's something that she'll enjoy. Have your friends bring their girlfriends too. That way she'll have someone to talk with. Also, make a point to go out with her friends as well. Hope this helps!
2007-07-05 04:28:12 · answer #7 · answered by 3teacher 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have been that girl friend so many times before. Make her understand that she does not have to share you with your friends. Make her know that you are hers. That was my problem. And throw the idea around that she should chill with her friends every once in a while. Well her family if she doesn't have friends.
2007-07-05 04:30:27 · answer #8 · answered by Shawn H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with the girl who said get another. But if you really like this girl, I suggest you sit down and talk to her about it. If she can't understand then you should dump her. You don't want a girlfriend who will be jealous of your friends because you wanted to talk to them about something and not her. It's just not worth it, believe me.
2007-07-05 04:28:47 · answer #9 · answered by Ryoko, The Space Pirate 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, either she is just a really grumpy person or very jealous that your spending time with other people besides her...Do you spend more time out with your friends than you spend one on one time with her? Maybe she just needs more alone time with you.
2007-07-05 04:29:25 · answer #10 · answered by sweetgirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋