So I have been dating this guy. And we are exclusive. A girl friend of his who he hasn't met in 14 years and with whom he has forged a very close friendship with in these 14 years, is in the country visiting her sister. But instead of visiting her, he has invited her to live in his place and told her she can stay as long as she wants. Sure I am very happy for them as friends and I want them to meet and hang out, but I am very uncomfortable for 3 reasons:
1. the thought of them living together (he lives alone)
2. also uncomfortable with another very key fact. She likes him. Not just as a friend. But he assures me that "he" doesn't see her that way.
3. He hasn't told her about me. He says it's personal and he doesn't go about telling people about his personal life.
4. I can try trusting him, but since I don't know her, I don't know if I can trust her.
I am ready to break up with my BF over this. I have never had this issue with any of my ex's. I believe a sensible bf would
2007-07-05 04:22:34 · 3 answers · asked by ? 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
would never invite another girl to stay with him when he has a GF. That's just called being sensitive to another's feelings.
2007-07-05 04:23:35 · update #1
right i have this problem with my bf ... he stays in cntact with his ex and she texts him with kissses and stuff and i know how yu feel hun i really do.
how me and my bf fixed it was to sit and tak about it and i met his ex. That way she saw how much we were into each other and i got to meet his ex who i thought was a really nice girl.
she is not my best friend but we get along and we both know were we stand.
Maybe yu shuld try meeting her.
2007-07-05 04:28:32 · answer #1 · answered by xsacredflamesx 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can see why the red flags are waving for you on this one! If he will not talk with you--his partner about it because it is personal--he is hiding something. If he is not telling her about you--he plans to hit it with her.
You can try trusting him, that is the most adult and mature thing to do in most situations.
But frankly, I would give him an ultimatum (not something I would usually reccomend)---put her up in a hotel, or I am gone!! There is trust and there is blind faith that leads to stupidity!
2007-07-05 11:36:32 · answer #2 · answered by Rebecca W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't do it just belive in him and let him break up w u
2007-07-05 13:20:55 · answer #3 · answered by leblanc_marsha 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋