there is this guy who likes me and i like him....hes scared of relationships...cuz hes been BURNED bad by every girl hes dated...he said he keeps his distance from girls he likes cuz he cant trust....should i be patient? will he come around if i prove im trustworthy?
2007-07-05 04:13:09 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If he's been hurt in relationships before, he is going to guard against any new ones, we all do. You are going to have to work to win his trust, and it will take time and patience on your part. If he's a good guy, and you like him a lot, there's no reason for you not to try for it. Just take things slow, and prove that he can trust you.
2007-07-05 04:23:17 · answer #1 · answered by ruinrunner82 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
With these kinds you have to be patient, show him that your feelings for him or truly genuine and prove to him that you want hurt him, it can either go two ways, he will trust you , or he will try to hurt you before you hurt him, these types of behaviors happen, he has been burned so many times when he was faithful, that he now looks at every girl the same, and before he gets hurt he do the hurting, but if he is a nice guy and somewhere beneath the pain he still believe in love & romance he will come around, and see that he finally found a TRUE angel, if that is you
2007-07-05 04:26:13 · answer #2 · answered by Nas 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Possibly. Depends on how many times he's been burned, how bad each was and what actually each situation was all about.
You will be able to be patient for a while, but the poison comes in when you do something that sends up a red flag. This could be totally irrational, and you totally innocent. You'll get angry, or impatient and he will see this as a guilty defense move on your part. This will be the beginning of him seeing that he can't trust you either, when in fact you are completely innocent.
I'm not saying this will happen, just saying that trust issues morph very quickly to irrational thoughts and suspicions. Probably because trust issues cause such sever pain to those who have suffered it.
If you are willing to try, I say go ahead, but understand what you are dealing with first. Best of luck to you both.
2007-07-05 04:25:12 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find out what role this guy has played in these relationships that caused him to get burned. Has he been overly generous with money? Have these females cheated on him? If he currently has trust issues, then he needs a counselor, not another girlfriend. You should not have to prove anything to him to get his attention if he is interested in having a social relationship with you. If you like him and want to wait, do not wait too long because he might be a commitment phobic man, unless he seeks to change his attitude of distrust. You need answers from him before beginning anything beyond casual friendship.
2007-07-05 04:22:22 · answer #4 · answered by Jess4rsake 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be patient. I have the same problem he has. It's hard for some people to trust other people. We feel vunerable when we tell our secrets and thats all we think about... what if that person says something. Just be patient. I know its fustrating but if he likes you he'll be trying.
2007-07-05 04:17:18 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on where he is emotionally. In a similar situation I have defined myself as a "bad relationship risk" which meant I wasn't open to relationships in any but the most superficial of ways....a woman would've been wasting her time waiting for that fog to clear. On the other hand, if you're already his friend you may have an inside track into his heart and psyche...which means he may comfortably take a risk on the two of you.....at the least, since you're his friend, he may be open to discussing it.
2007-07-05 04:24:39 · answer #6 · answered by Captain S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I advice you to just be friends and being friends he'll find out you're trustworthy. If you become more than friends too quickly than you'll come to find out that the trust factor is not there, like it would be there for friends.
2007-07-05 04:16:46 · answer #7 · answered by DrPepper 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Either its just an excuse cause he doesnt wanna get with you or hes telling you the truth and try to prove him that you arent the same as other girls unless you are then dont youll just hurt him more but ya try to make his opinion change prove to him your different
2007-07-05 04:18:03 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
for a few weeks be patient and dont lie about anything or elseu wont have a boy friend amy more
2007-07-05 04:18:37 · answer #9 · answered by bria 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, if you think that he is worth waiting for...WAIT!!! I used to be just like him, he just needs time to learn. He needs to realize that he can trust you and that you are a great girl. He just needs time and support. Be there for him u kn
good luck
2007-07-05 04:17:29 · answer #10 · answered by Myanna513 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋