My girlfriend is really shy during sex to the point where I'm pretty much bored...anyway I can get her to not be so shy?!?
2007-07-05 04:12:11 · 26 answers · asked by mainevent 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
She needs time and reassurance, dont be so impatient. Making love is a two way thing and you shouldnt push. Try and talk to your gently about this problem and take into consideration her feelings. Try and discuss what she likes and tell her what you like. See if she would like to try new things. Like I say, it takes time. If you love her, respect her wishes.. its not just about sex!!!
2007-07-05 04:16:27 · answer #1 · answered by Twinkle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she really doesn't want to have sex with you. You should ask her and allow her the freedom of not having sex. There is no way to build a healthy realtionship if you're having sex anyway. Sex was designed for relationships that have met the maturity and commitment of marriage.
2007-07-05 04:16:26 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm guessing she is new to sex then. my g/f was that way too, but not to the extreme you are talking about. try learning her spots. meaning a kiss on the neck or a little suck on the ear. then work those area's. same thing goes for her learning what you like. maybe she doesn't know what she is doing that much. this should bring her out of that shell a little bit. but don't expect her to change over night.
2007-07-05 04:21:40 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How long have y'all been together? Maybe she doesn't feel comfortable having sex yet, but feels pressured to do it anyways. And if y'all are having sex, hopefully a good foundation has already been built, including communication. If you can't talk to her about it, then you shouldn't be having it.
And you're bored? Maybe you're not putting in enough effort. Do something different to spice it up. Explain to her your needs/wants, and also ask her her's. Haha, maybe she's even bored. You should just really talk to her.
2007-07-05 04:24:04 · answer #4 · answered by Jordan 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
light totally off for sure, start with an all over massage for her and telling her during the day how sexy she is wouldn't hurt. When someone feels like their partner loves the way they look it brings them out of their shell. Just telling her hot she is while you are tryin to get laid isn't gonna do it - you have to tell her when she is doing the dishes or taking out the trash or has the stupid clip in her hair..... that's the best way and she will be all over you in no time!
2007-07-05 04:17:56 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Patient gentle 4 play my man. We are taught from near birth that sex is evil and dirty. It takes women a lil' more to get over that. If you arouse a woman enough she will begin to "get over " her inhibitions. Encourage a little dirty talk on her part but don't demand it! Good luck!
2007-07-05 04:18:22 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take your time with her... she has probably never done this before and needs her time to wine down. Be a gentlemen and make her feel good about being with you. Or give her an engagement ring...make a real women outta her..... stop committing fornication.... then make love inside of sex to your new wife.
2007-07-05 04:16:40 · answer #7 · answered by Queen 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hard question since she is doing what comes natural to her and your attempts to change that could backfire. Why not just start to throw in a few things during sex that you like and ease her into it. i am sure if it feels good and turns her on, she will come around
2007-07-05 04:15:35 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not an expert or anything but maybe she does not feel very sure of herself. Maybe you need to let her know how much you desire her. I don't know who is in control at these times, but maybe you need to let her control for a while and that might bring her out of her shell. Just my thoughts.
2007-07-05 04:34:22 · answer #9 · answered by Lovsaved 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her that sex is as much for her as it is for you and that you want her to enjoy it and that she should feel comfortable around you. maybe theres a past experience haunting her (not to scare, just a thought) like rape or something thats holding her back. you should just ask her how she feels about it because maybe she doesnt really want to have sex and shes just doing it for you.
2007-07-05 04:16:49 · answer #10 · answered by frenchtoast88 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋