Okay, yeah, I know guys are at the age where they have hormones and everything, but this one guy just doesn't get the picture! He always tells me some sick nasty jokes and I tell him to stop, and one time we were playing keep away with the ball and we both fell and he tried to get the ball from me and felt me up from my waist and his hands were litterally on my top for a few seconds.
Well I told him to get off and I couldn't break loose because I was on the ground trying to get up and nobody herd me yelling, or they did but didn't do anything. He won't leave me alone and I don't want to tell my dad because that's just plain awkward, yet I don't want to be a snitch, and this guy did something for me but he still does it!
What should I do?
2007-07-05 04:01:11 · 38 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Thats sexual harrassment...you need to tell your dad.
2007-07-05 04:10:40 · answer #1 · answered by Blessed 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Next time he wants to Get Together, make it Clear, you didn't Like that Incident, and Really have to Think about if you want to Risk another. Explain what was Wrong, and How you Felt, and, Hopefully he Didn't mean to Upset you. Make it Clear you Didn't Expect this Behavior from someone you Felt was a Good Friend.
Presumably, he'll Apologize. Hopefully, gain more Maturity.
After Explaining your Position on Personal Space, should it Happen Again, You'll have to Refuse Contact for a While, and let him Cool Off. Stick to Public Places, or With Friends for a Little While, and let him Work on your Confidence (Trust is Hard to Earn, once Lost).
If he Won't Leave you Alone when Asked, You'll have to get Help. Ask a few Friends to Discuss it with him (Large Males work Best), and, if he Persists, you might have to go to Dad on it. Dad should Understand that you are Coming to him because you Trust him, and Don't want to be Touched by Anyone who Feels like it. He should Understand.
2007-07-05 04:14:21 · answer #2 · answered by wonderland.alyson 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is sexual harassment. I would first tell him to stop touching you and telling nasty jokes. Walk away from him. I wouldn't hang out with this guy. He apparently has no respect for you or other females. If he is actually touching you in places that make you uncomfortable and doesn't stop when you tell him to, you need to tell your mom or dad or another grown up you trust. If you had a daughter with the same problem wouldn't you want to know and help?
If you find yourself in a situation where he's on you and there's no help,knee him in the groin or grabbing his testicles and twisting them very hard. You could also bite, scratch, poke him the eye, use the palm of your hand and shove it upwards up his nose.If your on the ground on your back and he's on top of you try bending your legs and using the force of your legs to push him off of you.
Do whatever you need to do to get him off of you.
2007-07-05 04:14:43 · answer #3 · answered by alisjohnst 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have been in your shoes ounce b4, its not easy and it def aint nice, i didnt tell any for a year and just put up with it, but eventualy it got worse and worse. you need to tell some 1 straight away. my biggest mistake was not telling any 1. even if it just s friend. its so much easier when you have some to talk to. You should try and stay away from him and avoid crossing paths with him as much as possible, try and make sure u never alone and have a friend with you, male if possible. and if he ever shows any sghns of becoming dangerous make sure u get to the police, i no u dont want to be a snitch but think of what could happen if u dnt. u dnt no how many other girls he could be doin this to
2007-07-13 01:14:37 · answer #4 · answered by Kathleen M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your mom if telling your dad is that uncomfortable. Or do you just live with your dad? Either way, I think being felt up by a perv is much, MUCH worse than talking to your dad about this. Just say something and the situation will go away. If not he will keep touching you. Which do you think is more embarassing?
This is sexual harassment and possibly even molestation. If you really cannot bring yourself to tell anyone you trust call the cops or a hotline or something.
2007-07-05 04:06:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should definately tell a close girlfriend or a counsellor if you're comfortable. Things like this just can't be looked back upon as if nothing happened, because you seem affected by it and it cant stay this way. Discuss your feelings with someone close to you, try to stay as far away from this guy as possible or always hang with a friend who can act as witness if something like this ever happens again. You aren't alone, and should'nt have to be!
2007-07-05 04:07:34 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
regardless of what he did for you that sound's forsefull and if he was a gentelman he would have never done that to you sound's to me like he want's you and regarless of weather you want him or not he's going to do what ever to get it. tell your dad- and stay away from this guy,and if you can't stay away be serious don't smile or giggle use force if you have to,let him know that you don't want him touching you threten him with your dad first then if he doesn't stop then tell your dad. and telling your dad is not making you a snitch it's showing this a-- that you will not be disrespected, and if your dad is any thing like mine was no man will disrespect you that way again let me tell ya
2007-07-12 18:40:34 · answer #7 · answered by bodacious b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
next time he does something like that and doesn't stop, kick him in the family jewels. If two people care about each other, respect for each other is part of that deal. If he trys to do something again stay away from him, and tell dad.
2007-07-13 03:04:05 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suggest confronting him straight forward. He sexually molested you. Thats a crime and he could get in serious trouble. If you feel its right, threaten him. Tell him if he ever does that again you will report him. I can understand talking with your dad. But if this guy ever touches you in an attempt to get your clothes off or reach under your clothes, you tell your dad or the police.
2007-07-05 04:06:13 · answer #9 · answered by girninjadog 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Honey, I know it would be awkward, but you need to tell someone..Your dad, mum, anyone that will help or listen...If you want your guy friend to leave you alone, kick him in the nuts..(Then he would REALLY want to leave you alone)....If you don't wanna be mean, then stay away from him...If that would happen to me, I'd probably tell my dad and he'd bash the slimy bugger to bits...(Well, that's just my dad..) yeah, tell someone sweety, unless you want your guy friend to start crawling on top of you and undoing your bra!!! goodluck =)
2007-07-13 02:35:58 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him that his pervertedness is overwhelming and that dirty jokes CAN be funny, but in moderation. too much just gets annoying because you can figure out whats coming from a mile away. i had a bf kinda like this. just tell him that the way he acts just plain pisses you off and that if hes going to act that way, you dont want to be his friend anymore. be gentle tho, because he may be willing to change. it sounds like he likes you and hes just immature. but i would also tell someone you trust (a friend, or even your parents no matter how awkward) because he sounds like hes headed to juvy...
2007-07-05 04:06:41 · answer #11 · answered by frenchtoast88 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋