Iam married but of late i have this misunderstandings betwn. my wife and my mom and i cannot support either?

Question

I cannot give preference to any of the two so which is the way forward.

Answer 1

Why cant you give preference? You dont have an opinion?
Stick with your wife and tell them both to stop making a big deal out of everything.

Answer 2

Yes, you can give preference: you married your wife, not your mother. Your job now is to find peace, but always stand by your wife. When you married your wife, you created a new family that you are responsible for leading and protecting, and being a momma's boy doesn't make you much of a leader or protector.

Cut the cord. Be a man. And stand by the woman you promised to always be there for in you vows.

Answer 3

Buddy, you sleep with your wife, not with your mom. You gotta choose the wifes side always otherwise your marriage is doomed. No woman will be happy in a marriage when the husband keeps his mommy as the third party. A marriage is between you and your wife, discuss with her, come up with a decision together and implement it together as a united front. Your mother is in the past, unless you want to stay home with her for the rest of your life grow up and cut the apron strings, in other words, be a man and support your WIFE.

Answer 4

"And a man shall leave his mother..."

Again, if your wife is respectful and not a violent nutjob, you need to side with her against your mom.

1. You've made a NEW family with this woman.

2. Sad to say, but she'll be around longer than your mum, so it's a much better long-term plan for your life.

3. Right or wrong, your parent(s) have to respect YOU, too - and the choice of woman you share your days with. Fighting the daughter-in-law is an attack on YOUR JUDGEMENT.

Answer 5

I beg to differ. I know you love your mom but this is your wife! The one You chose to spend the rest of your life with. If you can't stand up to your mom about something then you are just saying to your wife what happens betweeen the two of you doesn't matter to me. I know I don't know the situation between the two of them but I'm telling you now from a women that was put in that same place. he chose his mother over me and now his *** is alone. Don't ever turn your back on your wife, no matter what. That is just telling her you will never be there to support her.

Answer 6

This is a hard one but you must support your wife before your mother. Talk to your wife and tell her you don't agree but that you will support her because you are her husband. Also explain to her that it hurts you to see them disagree. See if she will just accept your mother the way she is because she will not change and you both just have to learn to live with it. If your marriage is to survive, you must support your wife.

Answer 7

THat is a situation that I swore that I'd never put my husband in and I haven't.

Society would tell you to support your wife. I cannot imagine my husband not "choosing me", but at the same time, I cannot imagine having to "ignore" the wishes of my mom.

Get them together. Tell them how much you love them both and beg them NOT to put you in the middle.

Answer 8

I would highly suggest that you take a stand RIGHT NOW. Even if it is to tell them both to stop acting up. You are the man, you need to show strength and put this situation to rest.

Weakness does not generally garner respect.

Answer 9

Frankly, I'm happy if my wife is happy. If Mom wants to make my wife unhappy then there's war and if they both want to slag it about and make me unhappy then there's even bigger war - and the door.

Answer 10

You actually took a vow to support your wife, so there's your answer.