Is it rude to...?

Question

Go to a dinner party and take home a plate of food? Especially if you didn't bring anything? I thought I was gonna have left overs yesterday, but nooo my company took most of it.

No it wasn't offered. I was too busy to notice they were taking food home.

Rude to complain about it...hahahha. Yeah right, there is no way I would "take" herds of food out of someones house.

One family even made plates when they got there and stored them in the fridge..then they made a plate to eat then and there.

Answer 1

I love the b**ls of the friends that actually made a plate, stored it in your refrigerator for later, and then made a plate for themselves to eat while there. That's HYSTERICAL to me! Did they put a sticky note with their name on it so no one else would "steal" it? They must have brass b**ls 20 lbs each! I respect that in a weird way. LOL. Next time, do a potluck, honey. Save yourself the drama. Then if they still "make a plate for later" and store it in your fridge, make sure to eat it. In front of them. Then when they confront you, say, "Oh that was YOURS? MY BAD!" and continue eating it.

Answer 2

No way! if some one leaves with your food, that you cooked...what does that tell you, one of two things...
Either they are greedy as hell or they loved your food! and i'm thinking is the second one. when friends come over my house and take food home im happy because i know they liked it and will eat it. and this my dear is a good thing! if they left your house with out taking anything, you'd be asking yourself if what you cooked wasen't good enough, you'd be second guessing yourself, right? take it as a complement! every house party i have been to and have loved the food i always ask to take some home and for the recipie and if its not good i don't even go near it!!!!!

So be happy.....they loved your food and not many people can say that



OK, see now thats just being damn greedy. If this ever happen again, put your foot down and let them know they cant do that.....if you offer them then let them take all they can carry....but if NOT, hells no! dont let then walk outta ur house. What ya should have done is take out the "plates" of food that was stored in the fridge and bring them back out..... you should'n let people disrespect you in your own home like dat.......and plus, dats just damn well freakking greedy!!!!

Answer 3

If you prepared food for your company, aren't you glad that they liked it enough to bring home?

While it isn't good etiquette to just help yourself to whatever you want in someone else's house or just stuff your pockets with food, it should be tolerated for this reason...

Your guests are in your home for a pleasant visit "as your guest". Don't set limits on how much they can eat or drink. Would you feel better if they overate instead and didn't carry anything home?

If you are a penny pincher or "careful spender", it is in your best interest to never, ever invite anyone over to your home. You will never be at ease and you will be counting the hors'deuvres all the while.

Not defending rudeness, just trying to help you get back on track. Let it go and be pleased with your party, it sounds like a success from the guests point of view.

Peace to you always

Answer 4

If you didn't offer, it is very rude indeed! And that family that stored the extra plates in the fridge would never cross my doorstep again. Don't confuse being nice or having good manners with allowing people to walk all over you; it looks like your 'friends' know they can get away with this kind of stuff and are grossly taking advantage of you. Did any of them even say 'thank you', or did they not bother with that either? Be more assertive!

Answer 5

By all means this is a compliment and there is no need to be offended at all. It means your food was very good. If no one wanted to take anything home with them (and there's plenty remaining), you've identified an item that was not very good. If you wanted to save some for leftovers next time set a plate aside after everyone has grabbed a plate.

Answer 6

Its a double edged sword here: 1.) they are extremely rude and 2.) take it as a compliment that your food was good.

Now, I would never do that, but then again if they are your friends maybe you could forgive and forget. Friends are friends. Do the same to them next time and see how they like it. Or, just never cook again.

Answer 7

No this is very tacky. Those people that helped themselves are just plain old gluttons. If you are invited to a dinner party you dont take anything with you unless you were asked if you wanted anything by the host or hostess. This was just plain old rude of these folks. Make sure you dont ask them again, sounds like they could eat you outta your house and home.

Answer 8

that seems a little bit rude, especially the whole storing it in the fridge deal, but atleast they liked it a lot. it would've been better than you feeling bad because they didn't like anything you made or brought.

Answer 9

I've never heard of this before... unless it was offered by the hostess.

If you ever invite these people again, I'd suggest you clear and put away your leftovers, packaging them for your own use. Just in case, you could label them with something like 'tomorrow's lunch'.

Answer 10

Hmmmm.... Certainly unconventional!
I would try to consider it a compliment, however. It was out of line so to speak, but they are your friends, rihgt? Not co workers, acquaintances, etc? I would be sure to fix yourself a plate next time!! :)

(I'll bring a dish myself!)