why is it that once you get out of a relationship its hard for you to trust the next guy/girl? Even if that person hasnt givin you a reason not to??? is it because your jsut starting out and your still completely strangers, or because you think that person is too good looking for you? Can is be the lack of self confidence? what if you really want to trust but inside you cant? is that an act of jealousy then? then why is there jealousy even when u really dont want to be? HELP!!
2007-07-05 03:36:47 · 8 answers · asked by evie1718 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
"It takes a minute to have a crush an hour to like someone and a day to love someone but it takes a lifetime to forget someone"
When a necessary piece of luck comes along at the right time, don't send it out to be analyzed. Looking for the why and how this happened (and how you can make it happen again) will only frustrate you , Jealousy comes from within you and often times its something you would do yourself , you can't change others to fit your mold "
Love , Trust , is how we treat each other even when things are bad ...
2007-07-05 03:48:40 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well when you break up with someone you take those feelings with you for awhile. It makes it worse if you dive right back into dating soon after the break-up. Jealousy is just another way of saying "I don't trust you to be around other people." There are probably things that have happened to you in past relationships or even as a child that makes it hard for you to trust people. For me, I used to have trust issues because as a child I was molested. But now that I have my current boyfriend, I feel a lot better about those kinds of things. I've been with him for a year and he's helped me get over so many fears that I've had a hard time with my whole life. Maybe you're just not meeting the right people, I'm sure you'll start to get better if you don't try to force yourself to trust people and just let yourself trust people. Good luck!
2007-07-05 03:47:22 · answer #2 · answered by IndiHippi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jealousy is a natural human emotion, everyone feels it from time to time. It is how you allow it it effect you that makes all the difference. You can either let it creep in and make you ugly inside or you can face it and quickly cast it aside because you know it is a useless waste of your time and energy.
Trust is something that is built over time. Each time his word is kept, he is shown to be the person he presents to the world, the trust will build. Trusting immediately is a sure way to be hurt. Make a tower of blocks using the little things that tell you that you can trust this person and you will soon see that it is a good thing.
2007-07-05 03:45:44 · answer #3 · answered by Rebecca W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's harder to trust a new relationship, b/c your afraid it'll end like the last. If the last guy cheated on you, you could be afraid the next will do the same. Woman sometimes lump all guys in together as having the same personality or acting the same way. I believe it has something to do with self confidence. If you think your not good enough for him you'll start to act differently and it will end faster than you'd think.
2007-07-05 03:44:21 · answer #4 · answered by flowerchild15 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Haha... i experience this thing myself... Fear and lack of trust, jealousy all this happens because of the fear to lose the guy/girl tat you love. Its reli complicating but a rship should reli be based on trust and faith. Sometimes though, its better to be jealous then trusting and naive. When ur lacking of trust or jealous, go check ur gal/guy out and investigate, if it makes u feel better or secure. Its also a great way to show u love and care and for security in the rship incase "shits" happen.
2007-07-05 03:41:55 · answer #5 · answered by AA 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
actually trusting ppl isn't realted to self-confidence, it's related to ur past experinces with friends, members of ur familly and anyone u share ur life with. and yes it's hard to trust ppl bec. eventaully 99.9% turn out to be not trustworthy , we all want to trust others but afraid if we do that we might get hurt!..if u want to trust someone u gotta be sure enough that this person wont hurt u!
2007-07-05 03:45:10 · answer #6 · answered by MeMoRiEs 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
trusting someone has alot to do with upbringing ie- if your parents/caregivers and family member made you feel safe and secure, also past relationships and their outcomes ,or it could be, do you do the right thing if you are a cheater sometimes we place or behavior or actions on others because we feel guilty. Communication is key.
2007-07-05 03:43:24 · answer #7 · answered by kit kat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
comming out of a relationship... you tend to bring what was there the issues that broke you up into your new relationship.... trust is hard to find with anyone...
2007-07-05 03:39:45 · answer #8 · answered by Janet 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋