This may be a little strange but please answer for me =D
My boyfriend is really into golf. He plays at least twice a week and it's a great way for him to unwind. Most of the time he plays with the guys, of course, but yesterday for Independence Day we were on the course with another couple who are friends of ours and they got me to play. I finally understood what was so addicting about the game and now I'd like to play! However, I feel like I'd be "intruding" (if that makes any sense) on his time alone and with the guys if I started playing. Playing golf is HIS way of getting out of the house and relaxing while taking classes in Tae Kwon Do is MY way of getting out of the house and MY way of relaxing.
I guess my question is, would you care if your girlfriend got into your hobby?
2007-07-05 03:33:29 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
As a matter of clarification, they ALL told me they wanted me to play. Including my boyfriend. Both of our couple friends were playing and they didn't want me to feel left out.
2007-07-05 03:38:02 · update #1
Hi Peachy,
This is the perfect opportunity for you both to explore "passions."
It would be intruding if you immediately planted yourself into his ritual of playing golf with friends. But. Why not designate one weekend a month when you play "couples" ? This way he could see you are developing an interest, it would be healthy non-competitive fun and a chance to interact with other couples.
Likewise, you could offer him the opportunity to experience Tae Kwon Do with you. He would be able to see why you are so passionate about it. He could easily be inspired to start sharing this with you.
In any couple it is important to maintain something 'individual' and have that time apart and gain experiences. But if you are reasonable about it and designate time to share these past-times, it could be an incredible experience.
Good luck to you ~
2007-07-05 03:43:31 · answer #1 · answered by yoak 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm not your boyfriend, so his reaction may not be the same as mine, but I think it's okay as long as you're not always asking him to play with you and everything. Actually, maybe it could be a new activity to do when you're together. Just make sure he still gets his moments alone with his friends and don't force him to play if he doesn't want to. I think if you just take it slow, talk to him about what you want and don't want to do and let him know he doesn't have to play with you all the time, it should be fine. Besides, you shouldn't avoid an activity because of something like that. Good luck!
2007-07-05 10:40:57 · answer #2 · answered by Blake P 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To be honest I enjoy having my GF get into my hobbies. She has discovered more about herself on what she likes by sharing my likes. BUT and I do mean but, as great as it may be both people have to remember the concept of Private time or ME time. If it seems like he wants you to come with him then ask, if he invites you even better.
But never just assume, that is what would make it itruding.
2007-07-05 10:43:18 · answer #3 · answered by AJ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your boyfriend that you really enjoyed the game, so much that you are considering golf lessons. Then ask him if he'd rather you played with other lady friends or with him. Then you'll know how he feels 'cause it gives him a convenient way to say yes or no. :o)
2007-07-05 14:24:19 · answer #4 · answered by garry s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I would just make it known that you're now getting into it, and if he ever wants you to come along, you'd go. Maybe after a while where he doesn't invite you, maybe you should just go and drive some golf balls on your own and get better!
Just keep that open, and see what he does!
2007-07-05 12:31:29 · answer #5 · answered by Rock Goddess 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it would be so hot if my wife played. Especially in the woman's golf apparel. You don't have to go with him and his friends but I bet he'll go with you alone and have a blast. Besides the more golf the better your game gets. Just tell him you had a blast and wnt to play golf with him and I beat you he'll welcome you with open arms.
2007-07-05 10:45:04 · answer #6 · answered by Shinigami 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well. to tell you what I think. I play golf a lot myself and sometime I would love to have my wife play with me, but there are times I don't want her to. I would ask him if he would like you to play with him. if he says not this time then let him go alone but I bet most of the time he would love for you to go. if he dose not want you to go but you really want to go then find someone that would like to go with you. Just let him know.
2007-07-05 10:47:32 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No....there's plenty of room for everybody. If you're worried about crowding him during his personal time, you can still enjoy the game by playing with a different group of people.
2007-07-05 10:53:47 · answer #8 · answered by Captain S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it wouldn't be intruding to me if I was in your bf's postion. But I guess you have to put it like this. Would you want him to do Tae Kwon Do with you?
2007-07-05 10:41:15 · answer #9 · answered by Zach 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Na, I would like it if my GF was interested in a hobby of mine. It would be just another way to bond and have fun.
2007-07-05 10:38:38 · answer #10 · answered by Ken R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋