This is strictly a R and S question-How should the relation between man and wife be like?

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I need an elaborate answer that covers all aspects

I said this is a religion and spirituality related question

very nice Chamunda but can you please explain your answer too?

to the one who gave thumbs down to Chamund-what do you know about Shiva and Shakti that you think you can give this answer a thumbs down?

this ques is for people of all religions-fanaticism wont be appreciated

Poorna pls explain because your answer went over my head

prrkrishna / muthu man and wife is a pure expression used for pati-patni in english

Answer 1

The relationship between a husband and wife should be one of honesty, spirituality, communication, and a willingness to forgive.
We go at life as one, and that is one of the glorious things about marriage -- we are our own individual selves and yet we are one. He puts my needs above his and I put his above my own. Not only do we have a united front against the world, we work in agreement where our children are concerned. Every couple is their own unique entity, but I do not see how any can happily survive without Love, Respect and Communication.
Peace.

Answer 2

They should be 'one' flesh - the man is to love, cherish and protect his wife, the woman is to love, cherish and honor her husband. The marriage relationship is an example or illustration of what the relationship between Christ and the church is like. When God created man, he said it was not good for him to be alone and then created the perfect accompaniment - woman. Male and female were created for each other and given a command - to multiply. If you read the bible, you can discover that sex is a good and wonderful thing, but is to be limited to one partner. Both male and female have responsibilities to one another and to the home. Certainly not a popular concept today, but popularity has nothing to do with truth. If you study the body and mind, you will discover that there are truly differences between male and female, and while the bible states the male is the head of the marriage, it in no way says males are superior or that females are inferior. They have different roles and responsibilities. We have gone so far away from the intent and instruction of God that what is right now seems wrong. In a nutshell - the relation between man and wife should be glorious! I hope and pray that it is so for you.

Answer 3

We have the answer in the natural things created around us. Today we know that in an atom there are electrons & protons. Both have its own properties, merits and demerits. No scientist will ever talk of which is stronger or which is needed for a stronger, stable atom. Bcos both are needed for an atom to exist. Likewise man & woman are created to live together for a peaceful life in this world. It is not a contest between them to prove who is strong? It is their combined efforts which make the whole life. Neither can exist alone without the help of the other,

Answer 4

Husband and wife are a team. The plan and create a life together. They should have common goals, and work toward those goals.
They should have their own lives and interest, but they should make time to do things together.
They should be best friends.
They should put the needs of their family first in all things.
They should never go to bed angry.
They should never yell at each other unless the house is no fire.

Answer 5

The man should see that his wife is a gift from God to help and his duty is to help deliver from material existence. He should not exploit her in any way. The Women should see her husband as Guru and serve him being God is in her husbands heart and God is pleased with this mood. She should also try to help her husband in every respect to make spiritual progress. The women should take the subordinate position because the is is the the way of even the demi gods and The supreme God and His Consort- Radha and Krishna, Laxmi and Narayan and Sita Rama. The feminine aspect always takes the subordinate position as a loving servant of Her Lord. So we should emulate this But know that in reality our husband is not God Himself but treat him in a godly way. This idea of women trying to dominate men and be like men is so man made. Nothing spiritual or natural about it.

Answer 6

The two qualities of energy- positive and negative so as to make life dynamic .The two poles of the magnet so that they can attract each other . The two sides of material so that it might exist. The two wheels of a cart so that it might move and go porward .The two phase of the earth as day and night so that it might sustain life . The two opposites that work togerther for the creation and sustenance of life. The two principles that support each other and can not exist without the other.

Answer 7

"+""-" & "-" "+" , Give and take policy for both, one on high the next should play the low fiddle to manage balance. Like Chamunda said ShivSakthi is the perfect example. Like Durga Ma and Shiva....

Answer 8

Speaking as a Pagan who did not marry until I was 45, this is what I believe the husband/wife relationship should be like. I searched for a Pagan man to be my husband to balance my life. I wanted a masculine counterpart to complement me. The sexes are different and have differing world views, experiences, needs, and behaviors. The true marriage is the accepting of each other's differences, reveling in them and enjoying them, and recognizing that man is not "better" than woman, that we round each other out.

Answer 9

You were born together, and together you shall be forevermore.

You shall be together when white wings of death scatter your days.

Aye, you shall be together even in the silent memory of God.

But let there be spaces in your togetherness,

And let the winds of the heavens dance between you.

Love one another but make not a bond of love:

Let it rather be a moving sea between the shores of your souls.

Fill each other's cup but drink not from one cup.

Give one another of your bread but eat not from the same loaf.

Sing and dance together and be joyous, but let each one of you be alone,

Even as the strings of a lute are alone though they quiver with the same music.

Give your hearts, but not into each other's keeping.

For only the hand of Life can contain your hearts.

And stand together, yet not too near together:

For the pillars of the temple stand apart,

And the oak tree and the cypress grow not in each other's shadow

Answer 10

Dear sister Aradhana,

in our Indian Scriptures the bondage between wife and husband or Man and wife (western way...I don't know why you used man and wife rather than wife and husband) has been so clearly written in several epics in several incidents.It is not possible to narrate all here , as space is available is one thing and the long answer makes reading monotonous and people may not read.so I will be breif.
The relationship between wife and husband is like that of a word and its meaning (vaagarthaaa..), like Sun and its Light or Prabha ,Like Shiva and Shakti .....that is inseparable.

in marraige the bridegroom makes three promises that he will be faithhful to his wife in Dharma,artha and kaama aspects in life and will never betray her ( Dhrmecha,Arthecha,Kaamecha Naati Charaami).
In Ramayana of Vlmiki , you can see an episode (there are many ,but this one is the most beatiful in answering you )..when Kaikeyi asks Dasaratha two boons 1.Rama's vanavaasa for 14 years and second bhratha's coronation,
Kakeyi orders Rama Lakshmana and Seeta to wear the Naara clothes ( a kind of fibre clothes used by Rishis and sages)...Seeta stands stil with the saree in her hand with innocence asking how to wear it.sree Rama then tries to help sree eeta Devi.then the vashista who is known for his patience, who was patient when all his hundred children are killed , angrily abuses Kaikeyi like a black sheep in Keykaya vamsa , and proclaims reciting vedas that Wife is the soul of the husband and when rama leaves for forests ,his soul seeta will Rule Ayodhya.That was the place given to wife .
Wife and husband are not two different entities ...they are one inseperable unit.Without any part the unit is incomplete.
it is the most auspicious bondage that is required to sustain others(saadhu sanyaasis,sages and saints, and all Kinds of birds and animals as they both will daily do so many things to feed all these and serve the sages and offer them Shelter and worship them.
So the husband is friend ,philosopher and guide and guru to wife.the wife is the complete source of inspiration and his advisor and his wealth.Marriage is not for simple satisfaction of satisfying sensual urges.it is a one part in it to continue the generations.The sacred marriage institution is beyond description.It is most sacred.
Non believers may give thums down or criticise.but the marks given by illiterate of hinduism are of no value.Let there be unbiased expressions.