I was invited to a bridal shower, and in the invitation is the store where the couple is listed for the WEDDING registry. Does this mean I get the bridal shower gift from this registry, or is it acceptable to come up with a gift on my own? I much prefer to choose gifts myself rather than buy kitchen utensils from a registry! Thanks for reading.
2007-07-05 02:24:55 · 21 answers · asked by iittghy? 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
The couple mentions the registry because these are the things they've determined they will need...if you choose a gift from the registry, you know it is something they actually want and need...of course, you can always choose something on your own, but if you get anything for the house, I'd take a cue as to colors and styles from the items on the registry, as they are telling you their tastes...
2007-07-05 02:38:13 · answer #1 · answered by melouofs 7 · 7⤊ 1⤋
What gift is given is obviously the choice of the giver and anything chosen should be graciously appreciated. Now, that said, if you buy something from the registry you will be guaranteed a few things: 1. The gift is something they wanted. 2. It is something they like. 3. No one else has bought it for them, because once a gift is purchased off of the registry, it is removed by the computer system or marked as already purchased. This ensures that the couple doesn't get duplicates.
While kitchen gadgets and small appliances may seem boring to some people to give as a gift, these are things the couple needs to set up a new home together. They'd probably be really excited to get them. They registered for them for a reason. If you have something in mind you would like to get for the couple that is personalized or something you think they may have overlooked on their registry or whatever, then by all means dear purchase that gift. But don't fear that if you buy them kitchen utensils or bed linens from their registry that they won't like it. Remember that those are things they wanted. Typically, where I'm from, the registry is set up mostly for the shower. That's why they include the information for the registry in the shower invitation. Such information should not be included in the wedding invitation. Your choice of gift, however, is entirely up to you. Good luck and have fun at the shower!
2007-07-05 03:38:41 · answer #2 · answered by tehuskey513 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
First, just to clear up confusion, wedding registries are what are primarily used for bridal showers, for whatever that's worth.
Now, on to your question - registries are a guideline ONLY. They can make shopping easy for guests - as you know the bride & groom picked the gift out and definitely want it. If you browse around and look at some of the items they registered for, it can also give you an idea of their tastes & style.
Now, do you have to follow the registry? Absolutely, positively NOT!! Again, it's just a guideline. If you've got a great idea of a gift for the happy couple, by all means - GO FOR IT - I'm sure the bride & groom will love it because you picked it out from the heart - and that's what gift giving is all about!
2007-07-05 02:39:12 · answer #3 · answered by sylvia 6 · 6⤊ 0⤋
I think it depends on the gift you want to give. If you know the bride and want to get her something personal or if there is something you think she would love or need that is not on her registry, don't follow the registry. However, if she registers for blue towels and you want to get her green towels, that might be a bad idea.
I got both items from my registry and not from my registry, at my shower and at the wedding. They were all useful and lovely. I appreciated that my friends and family thought of my fiance and me. A gift, is just that, a gift. The bride should be thankful for the gesture.
2007-07-05 02:58:20 · answer #4 · answered by tnk3181979 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
A gift is a gift and as a bride myself i would be happy that i got a gift. Any gift i dont care as long as i can use it. But if i was going to a wedding shower and there was a registry inside i would follow that since I do not want to go through the headache of finding a gift. why not give the couple what they want. but if you want to give them something else go for it. I would appreciated it the same.
2007-07-05 03:29:47 · answer #5 · answered by Ethan's Mama 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
It's your gift so you choose what you want to buy, but a lot of people buy from the registry for the shower as well as the wedding.
2007-07-05 02:48:11 · answer #6 · answered by Laura 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I would buy a gift off the registry since that is a list of things they need and like... However, you don't HAVE to. You can use the registry to get an idea of the style they'd like for their home and then choose something unique, that way it's sure to be something they'd love. (so there's no pink towels for a blue bathroom!)
2007-07-05 03:53:19 · answer #7 · answered by carebearny1999 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
choose something from the registry. if you wish to pick a gift out on your own, maybe get something a little less expensive from the registry and then purchase something else that you want. the reason they make this registry is because these are things that they want and need. can't go wrong with that.
2007-07-05 03:52:45 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I got things from my registry and also things that were not. A bridal shower is more for the bride, and I got a few lingerie items that were obviously not on the registry. it was very nice to get things like that...its a surprise that way. So yes, I think it is acceptable to come up with something on your own, and I think she will appreciate the surprise. you can only get so many kitchen items before it gets old.
2007-07-05 02:30:08 · answer #9 · answered by J3NN 3 · 6⤊ 1⤋
I'd get something from the registry, because its a list of what they would like to have, so there would be no going wrong with getting something off the list.
Just be sure that you get it marked off the list when you do go buy it, especially if they only need one thing.
2007-07-05 04:23:12 · answer #10 · answered by Terri 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋