I have new babysitter I have had her for two weeks now. It could just me or some thing is really wrong. Every time I take my kids up to the babysitters as soon as my daughter see house she goes straight into crying and screaming and when I get her in the house it just gets worse. Now my son doesn't mind it tell I start to leave. This is usually this is not normal for my children. Ya, they might have an out burst once in awhile because they want to stay with mom but this is recurring every day. I am not sure what si going on and not sure how to find out if some thing is going on. Any suggestions or thoughts on the matter would be great because I am going insane trying to figure this out.
2007-07-05 01:43:05 · 7 answers · asked by Krista S 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Hello, I don't want to scare you but this sounds like exactly what my son was doing at the age of 1 1/2 years old, he was always fine going to the sitter, then I found a new job and had to change sitters and he cried really hard each time I dropped him off, I thought he was just having trouble getting adjusted until one day I got there to pick him up (this was only 1 and a half weeks after he started this new daycare) and I found an adult handprint on the small of his back!!!!!! I freaked, called the police, took him to the doctor, called FIA (because she was a licensed daycare!!!), and took her to court; she lost her license but still "babysits" kids, she can no longer be licensed but she can babysit!!! Please, I beg you, follow your heart and what you feel, if you think there may be a problem find a new daycare!! I should have listened to what my heart was telling me but I didn't and my son payed the price for it, and that just kills me to think that if I would have done something about it, he never would have gotten hurt. Can you please let us know what you decided? Goodluck!
2007-07-05 06:00:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I first started taking my kids to daycare they were about 19 months old and they had a real difficult time for about a month. They would both scream and cry. When we would approach the daycare they would say they didn't want to go there. I felt horrible and was very worried. The staff assured me that they only cried for a few minutes after I left and they seemed to be having a good time when I picked them up. I probably took about 3-4 weeks for them to adjust. They are now 3 years old and they still don't want me to leave most mornings. If they are not at daycare for a week due to vacation or illness they have a real hard time then too. Good luck it does get better and this is most likely an adjustment period for your kids.
2007-07-05 08:54:43 · answer #2 · answered by Madmas 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could just be that they don't want to leave you! Ask your sitter if they cry all day or stop soon after. When you pick them up are they playing and happy? How old are they? I know kids I've nannied for will scream cry, and hold onto the door frame when parents bring them in. I've had moms say "peel him off" and run! Usually crying kids cry for maybe 5 minutes tops and then they're off to play! I would ask your sitter-- but trust your gut mom. If you have a bad feeling about your sitter and your kids welfare then its better to be safe than sorry! Good luck!
2007-07-05 08:49:49 · answer #3 · answered by mrs.v 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm assuming your kids are too young to talk about why they scream like that. Were they like this when they were at the other sitter's? Sometimes kids just have a lot of anxiety because they don't want to be separated from their parents. Maybe you could drop them off then come back, unexpectedly, an hour or so later just to see what's going on.
2007-07-05 09:00:12 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How are your children when you go to pick them up?
How is their behavior at home - has it changed at all?
How old are your children? Babies go through a stranger anxiety phase. Are your children old enough to talk to you? Could you somehow talk to them about their day and see if they speak positively about it? Or ask them directly as to why they're so upset about going to the babysitter's?
Sometimes children do that when you're dropping them off as a way to let you know that they will miss you. You can reassure them that you love them and you're coming back later.
If you really are uncomfortable with it, you should go with your instinct and tell your sitter that you're sorry and that it's just not working.
2007-07-05 10:49:01 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its most likey becuase your ;eaving thme at a strange new house with people they may or mey not like.
If it is the baby sitters fault ( Not syaing it is, But it is possiable) You could invite her to your house when your home one day so the kids can get more used to her.
Ask the kids if there unhappy with the baby sitter. Ask them if he or she did anything to them.
If no of those options work you may need to switch baby sitters. Make sure the kids meet with them to see how the react!
2007-07-05 08:49:34 · answer #6 · answered by Candiegirl17 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think the baby sitter is doing anything untoward so asik all the questions of her because you have to know how your kids pend their day .~~
2007-07-05 08:54:28 · answer #7 · answered by burning brightly 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋