why is everyone sexist?

Question

i am a 14yr old girl. my sister is 16yrs old and we have a 11yr old brother.

ever since i was 9 i have been doing heaps of chores. i started at 9 and my sis started at 11.

ever since then i have been doing heaps of chores including vacuum, mopping, sweeping,cleaning the bathrooms, feeding and washing the dog, hanging up the washing, setting the dinner table and emptying the dishwasher.

i do all that and is as much as my sister. she doesnt do anything anymore because shes always out. i have to do everything. it is so unfair.

also, my brother is at least ment to be setting up the table but doesnt even do that, so i have to. he doesnt have to look after the dog, although my parents say he loves it the most. he doesnt do anything except play on his electronics!!!!!!

why is it so unfair? wen i complain to my dad saying i do everything and he or she doesnt he just tells me its all fair and i never started doing chores until this year. every year he says i just started doing it

the only reasons i keep doing chores is coz i luv my dog & wanna help my mum from doing all the work.
my dad never appreciates what i do.

also, my dad only has started giving me pocket money, $7.50 a week, my sis $10 and my bro $5.

they get paid for doing nothing and i never got paid at his age and dont even get paid as much as my sister.
its all so unfair.

lyk, my dad tells me n my sis (sometimes her) to do the mop or something whilst he n my bro go play on the computers together.

why is it so sexist??!?!?!?

plz give me advice on wat 2 do.

Answer 1

I don't really think it's sexist just a bit unfair.
To behonest I had it the same way. The baby of the family got away with murder and I have to pick up the slack. Dad worked all day and mom did nothing but make a quick dinner. I did it all.
I am now 27 and now when I have any house chores to do in my own home it's not a bother. My brother whines because he has to go to work because he's still used to having everything handed to him and really hates working for his keep.
My mom divorced my dad and remarried. She now complains all day long because my step dad explained that if she didn't want to go out and get a job then there is things around the house that need done.
My dad now has an organized house that no one ever bothers, he has saved money because he no longer has to pay allowance and pay for my mom to stay at home and do nothing.
And I am living happily with my girlfriend (whom had the exact same situation as you have) in our own home that is organized to a T.

I guess I could say it builds character but I really don't want to sound like a square. I hated it to darlin', every hour of every day. But you know what, even after all the days, weeks and months of putting up with the unfairness I am now reaping the benifits of hard work, amazing others with the amount of patience I have and best of all having my brother and my mother whom didn't reall do much at all now whine and complain that they have to work now and ask me for help and I get to say "sorry, im kinda busy".
It will work out in the end. I was ready for real life when I finally moved out of my parents house at 17!
Life was never fair but I was already accustomed to it and was prepared.. Tough it out, you never know if your pops or your little brother or sis will ask and beg you for help. And you get to say. . . "Sorry I can't. I'm kinda busy but you can handle it. Besides you just started doing it".

Answer 2

I was the middle child and I ended up doing most the chores as well. My brother was older and out and my sister was too young. It was so annoying. My brother didn't do much anyway when he was younger. I think it is still looked at in a lot of society that woman do the housework etc.. but that's not right and its not fare. As my partner now knows. And so does my 6 year old. We all play a part in our house. So I'm sorry to hear that you feel like this. Your sister and brother are getting away with letting you do the chores and it should be shared. I would have another word with your dad or your mum. We live in a society where its meant to me equality.. And although i agree with the character building John mentioned, Its not teaching you about how to share responsibilities and it could make you dislike males a little. Have a word.. this ain't on.. Best of luck.

Answer 3

Given that you are 14, there isn't much you can do to change your circumstances. I can give you some advice, though. Make a tally of all the chores that you do. Everything that you do put a small price on it, like $0.50 per day washing dishes. Nothing unrealistically high. Write out a little speech of what you want to say to your family (NOTE: I said family). Call together a meeting and ask that they all say nothing at all until you finish what you need to say. Let them know how you feel that they take advantage of you and don't appreciate all that you do, since you really don't have to do it all. And see where it goes from there.

Answer 4

Just do your chores not your brothers first of all. If your going to do someone esles chores then u can't complain about it.Plus I don't think it's sexist. I think it has to do with his age. As u get older you'll learn that life isn't always fair.But all your hard work will pay off in the end. You'll have to trust me on that. Why don't u go to your parent when u are calm and talk to them.Tell them what u told us. If that doesn't work then all u can do is your own chores and try not to let what others don't do bother u.Good luck hon

Answer 5

Don't worry about the others and whether or not they do anything. Doing work and chores builds character in a person. You may not think it yet, but you will see in time when things come up that are difficult on a job. The others may shy away from it ,because they are too lazy and you will feel comfortable in handling it. This will make you look better in the eyes of the company you work for.

Answer 6

I always got all the chores because my brother was lazy and never got anything done.

To me it doesn't sound fair that your brother has no work. An 11 year old is perfectly capable of doing all the things you mentioned. I think you should go on strike until your parents are fair about the division of labor.

Tell them that you are happy to help them since they work so hard at their jobs, but that you want a fair division of labor. Just refuse to do anything no matter what the punishment until your siblings are doing their share too.

Answer 7

They aren't being sexist, they are being parents. Its probably not fair, but you are doing the right thing by stepping up to the plate.

When you contribute to a family's well being by pulling your weight, you are learning that its hard to run a household and have a family. This is valuable information that you will have and your brother and sister will not. You aren't being paid for your work, your folks are giving you some pocket money according to age. Maybe they didn't have it when you were younger.

When I was younger, I used to pretend that it was my house and the rest of the family were simply guest who wouldn't go home. It helped.

Its not fair, but alot of stuff that will happen to you in life is not fair. Learn to deal with it now.

Answer 8

Don't concern yourself too much with all the kazillion details of life.
Focus on the basics and you will be happy.

For instance ,,you said ¨the only reasons i keep doing chores is coz i luv my dog & wanna help my mum from doing all the work.¨

Thats all that matters.
Don't worry about how this person gets away with this or that , just you concentrate on yourself being a good and honorable person.

...and then most things will go well with you.

Answer 9

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Answer 10

That isn't sexist, that just crappy parents. Try marking down on a calander when you started doing chores, sit down with your father, and show him, then tell him nicely (not in a whiney voice) that you think it is unfair and tell him how it needs to be divided. Just get him to agree then you can tell you brother, you dad said so. If that doesn't work, just quit doing your stuff, and tell you bad parents, that you won't work until they start doing their share.