My b/f has a 360 page with mostly attractive female friends. He flirts with them and never acknowleges me as his g/f. He rarely visits my page and when he does, he leaves generic messages. He won't even add me to his friend's list and keeps the true nature of our relationship a secret from them. Whenever some of them question him about me, he tells them we are just friends or a thing of the past or that I stalk him. When I confront him he makes excuses and gets angry at me. What could really be going on here? Is he looking for a replacement? He says it's just for fun but it's breaking my heart. Why is he keeping me in the closet?
2007-07-05 01:27:17 · 20 answers · asked by BH 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Hes a playa.....
2007-07-05 01:30:05 · answer #1 · answered by kaliroadrager 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Listen to what you just said, "Whenever some of them question him about me, he tells them we are just friends or a thing of the past or that I stalk him." This is not cool in any relationship.
Me and my boyfriend are not friends on each other myspace's page.. but when he has pictures of our daughter up on his page.. I feel he should also have a picture of me there too.. so it won't look like he's a single dad.
It's not just for fun if what he's telling these females this. It's hurting you. I know it would hurt me also. Confront him about it in a stern voice how that offends you. Or get in an argument with him, and make a comment, "But I dont want you to call the police since I am stalker of yours and not considered your girlfriend.
Check out these female pages.. if you can... look under history on the computer for links or cookies on the computer. Check to see what messages he leaves them if possible. If it looks like these message could indicate "maybe more than a friendship" then its time to leave. You cant have your cake and eat it too. He seems like a player.. have a girlfriend, but still wants girls on the side. He has to choose.
2007-07-05 01:34:09 · answer #2 · answered by Mami 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I seriously feel where u are coming from i had the SAME issue with my boyfriend when we first got back together on his my space he had single for a long time and never mentioned in his about me that he was taken and it hurt ed me so bad!! And he also said the same thing like its out of fun and its no big deal and that everyone that he talked to knew he was taken and he didn't know how to change his status cause single was a default!! He even lied and told me he didn't even have a my space till i found out but he knows I've talked to him numerous amounts of times even broke up wit him till he realized Wat he wanted and once we got back together he did a 360 flip on me... he changed his stat finally... let everyone know who i was.... and finally introduced me to his family sumthin he never did in the 2 in a half yrs of knowin him....so what im sayin it just takes some space and time to see if he really loves you break up with him make him realize what he had and if by a couple of weeks or longer that he doesn't realize what an awesome gf he has than he's a loser and sweetie no woman deserves a man to make her life miserable trust me Ive been through enough heart breaks 2 last me a while lol
hope this helps
keekz
2007-07-05 01:45:19 · answer #3 · answered by MzHoTtIE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, you need to talk to him about this. Either he is having an affair, or something is wrong with him. A good boyfriend would acknowledge you to everyone, and talk about you, etc..all that fuzzy warm stuff. This guy however, doesnt seem to wana let the other women who you are. He may be cheating, I suggest you talk to him about WHY he does this. And if he comes up with some lame excuse and doesnt stop. Leave him. You deserve someone who is proud of you, not hiding you from some sleazy people.
2007-07-05 01:38:20 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He keeps you a secret so that way he doesn't lose any of his "friends" online and can still flirt. I think it's time for a new boyfriend to be quiet honest. If you have a guy now with 360 pages of attractive girls who don't know you exist, you have no future with him. Dump him and find someone who is happy with just one girl.
2007-07-05 01:31:07 · answer #5 · answered by kikio 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is because he is a player. He is probably NOT faithful to you and NEVER will be! I would never stand for that in a million years! WHAT REASON DOES HE GIVE FOR NOT ADDING YOU TO HIS FRIENDS LIST??? BiNgO! He is a jerk and you need to save yourself and move on to someone who won't make excuses and get mad at you because he is a dirtbag! He could have a 100 girlfriends and even some boyfriends too! THAT IS NOT JUST FOR FUN! HE IS going to hurt you VERY bad... TRUST ME!
2007-07-05 01:32:47 · answer #6 · answered by **Mi$chieviou$** 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him about it, he probably doesn't want them to know he's taken so he can keep that fantasy online. A friend of mine had a boyfriend like that, he would cam with them. They would do things on cam, both of them. But that's what happened to her, he would have the same characteristics. Never said or hinted around having a girlfriend when it came to his online life.
Keep in mind that was my friend's GF, your BF could be completely different but it's a little weird that he's doing that to you. Something is going on, talk to him.
2007-07-05 01:31:17 · answer #7 · answered by Oscar 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to tell you this, but your relationship is not exclusive on his part. He's still looking and isn't ready for any thing serious. Cut your losses now and get out. Find someone who will treat you with the respect you deserve. Odds are, if you stay, he will eventually cheat on you (if he hasn't done so already) and cause you further emotional distress.
2007-07-05 01:34:35 · answer #8 · answered by WineDiva 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is making excuses and gets angry with you he is not doing it for fun he is being serious about it. You shouldn't be with him if he's like that and you tell how it is hurting your feelings and if he shows a change he loves you but if not then leave him because it's not worth the heartache and pain.
2007-07-05 01:34:12 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Been going through the same thing recently only this guy lets me see the stuff he is saying to the women online. He talks all sweety lovey to them like they are his girlfriends. He does all the things you say your bf does with helping me with all kinds of things but his use of the dating sites just makes me feel like I'm not good enough and that he is continuing to look for the "right" person like I'm just temporary. This experience just carved up my self esteem. I used to like myself before this. I just ended it today.
2016-04-01 08:44:39 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i can't believe you actually let him do that to you... even if you love him. girl, you gotta love yourself first. how can you possibly love a guy who's not even proud of you? and who is not taking your relationship seriously as he still flirts with other girls...
you gotta talk to him and tell him you no longer like what he's doing. tell him it's breaking your heart. you make him choose between him being your boyfriend or an internet flirt.
be prepared for anything. if he still wants to flirt with other girls, you have to let him go. you deserve someone better.
2007-07-05 01:34:50 · answer #11 · answered by killerweed_13 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋