I have been working in UK for past 10 yrs which is a free society. I have been masturbating since school days. I don't know how I got into this bad habit. But I cann't leave it now. If I ignore it, I get nasty dreams & nightfalls which is quite embarrsing. Otherwise I get turned on quite frequently and mind keeps revolving around the same. I am getting married to a traditional girl and I don't know what will be her reaction if she discovers me doing that. I am sure it'll not be possible to hide things when you are so close & may be I'll not be able to get over this after marriage also. I want to understand if it is comman practise amongst all girls irrespective of society or if girls are ok with boys doing it. I think it'll be easy for me to handle my 'would be' wife if I know this. Pls let me know if you come from society which is free in nature or from a conservative society. This can help me understand the way different types girls look at this issue.
2007-07-05 00:58:24 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I think you are normal and I also think that you would find a lot of men are the same as you. I don't think you should worry too much because most women are aware of mens' high sex drive
2007-07-05 01:05:20 · answer #1 · answered by kirstykat66 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Masturbating is not even remotely a "bad habit". It releases your sexual tension, and is unquestionably the safest sex you can have.
Hopefully, when you get married, your wife will help you where your palm has been doing the work...I would venture to guess that once you're having sex with someone else, you won't find much need to take care of this for yourself.
I think it's fairly common practice for most men & women in most societies. Obviously, there are some that frown on it, but how much ya wanna bet everyone is doing it anyway? After all, who would know?
It is absolutely critical that you be honest with your future wife about it. Any marriage needs honesty and trust to truly be worthwhile. You should be certain to bring it up before the wedding, by the way, so that she is not surprised by it. You need to begin the practice of honesty and openness as soon as possible.
2007-07-05 07:48:52 · answer #2 · answered by abfabmom1 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's normal and natural to my way of thinking as long as you are doing this in privacy and not out in the open public I don't see her having any issues with it. I don't even see why she SHOULD have issues with it...who knows maybe if she sees you doing it she'll want to help. Pleasure for the both of you. BUT from now on I would post this sort of question in the adult section as there are young eyes reading these posts and so someone doesnt report you for talking about adult things in an Everyone rated forum.
2007-07-05 03:21:51 · answer #3 · answered by ♥Mommy to 3 year old Jacob and baby on the way♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it just depends on the girl. I am pretty "traditional" myself but I know that masturbation is a normal, healthy exercise. Even if your fiance does not do it herself, that doesn't mean that she will have a problem with the fact that you do.
The best thing for you to do is talk to her. Having open communication is the best thing for a lasting marriage. Who knows? She may do it too and is wanting to ask you the same questions.
2007-07-05 01:36:33 · answer #4 · answered by trpaz2979 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
M.. is normal.
The good news is that you are getting married and you will not need to do that anymore or as much.
M can become and addiction, so you have to wean out of it. Being married will leave you with no desire to do that again because you will not need it anymore.
If she is a traditional girl, she may feel offended. I suggest for you to enjoy s ex with your partner to fulfill your desires.
Good luck and congratulations
2007-07-05 03:14:56 · answer #5 · answered by Blunt 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm more concerned about something else. If you haven't even talked to her about your sex life together, or are afraid to talk to her at all about sex or anything else, are you sure you want to marry her? Your wife needs to be someone you can tell ANYTHING, even your secrets. That is something you should have discussed with her already. Premarital counseling should have covered sex after marriage as well.
Just make sure you're doing the right thing. I've seen too many men in who are unhappy in their marriage because they feel they can't talk to their wives, so they end up cheating and such.
2007-07-05 01:33:40 · answer #6 · answered by beckas_lily_of_the_valley 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Communication is the key. She should know it is traditional with you, and part of the package she is marrying.
You are anxious about the privacy you will have to do this.
Maybe she can snuggle with you while you do this. If she can do this without interrupting you, you've got it made.
If she does interrupt, she can set off an argument, and cause the disruption you are anxious about.
Keep her satisfied, and she shouldn't cause you problems.
You have to let her know it is part of your life, and maybe sometimes you need to attend to this first.
Live and let live, especially in your own bedroom.
2007-07-05 02:46:13 · answer #7 · answered by Marissa Di 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All women know that 90% of men masturbate and 10% lie... It's a natural thing for men to do and honourable if you are waiting for marriage to have sex....? I don't really know about other cultures (from Oz myself) but I couldn't believe a man if he said he didn't in or out of marriage! however, if you feel like this is tabu... you should discuss this with your future wife... be honest ... that's what marriage should be about, don't start it with a lie.... or false pretences
She just might love you ?????
2007-07-05 01:12:23 · answer #8 · answered by Sandi S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i came from a family that was "hush-hush" about sex, but I do it....
However, in regards to your question, I think you should just tell her. If she's freaked out about it, then maybe you both should go to a sex conselor,before y'all get married. There's nothing wrong with masturbating, it's a natural thing, the only reason I suggested a sex conselor is for her, so that she'll get comfortable about it. But with all the sex you two will be having, I think your "solo" performances will decrease significantly....Good luck!
2007-07-05 03:44:47 · answer #9 · answered by Mama JK 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's nothing wrong with you. It's natural. Maybe you should be honest with her. Tell her you're thinking about her. From a conservative point of view: Maybe she will have to get used to the idea, but you can help her and, since you're getting married, maybe it will be a good idea to start talking about your sex life.
2007-07-05 02:09:56 · answer #10 · answered by Sophia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋