What more can I do to help her with her severe problem?
2007-07-04 22:52:45 · 11 answers · asked by Annie 2 in Health ➔ Diseases & Conditions ➔ Cancer
Believe me, what you're already doing with her is priceless. As a breast cancer survivor I can tell you that one thing that comes with a cancer diagnosis is a disappearance of so called friends. For some reason, even when the prognosis is good, people distance themselves from the patient.
Seriously. Just talking with her and being there is the single biggest thing you can do. Letting her know you won't be one of the ones to go 'poof' on her is great. Anything else you do is icing on the cake.
Maybe take the time to go with her to some appointments. Take her to a library or book store to get some inspirational books on her condition. If she's loosing her appetite bring her some of her favorite foods. If she can't work for a while help her to find a new hobby or get more into one she already enjoys.
But most of all be positive and keep doing what you're doing.
2007-07-04 23:09:48 · answer #1 · answered by Detourz 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If everything was perfect and we had no worries then what would we the purpose of this life? If there's no hardship, if there are no tests to challenge your belief then what's the purpose of the reward in the afterlife? Wouldn't it all be meaningless if you could only say shahada and voila - all your wishes came true?! You need to broaden your perspective a bit. You're focusing on the last 4-5 decades and totally ignoring the rest of 1400 years long history of Islam. You're forgetting the fact that not so long ago Muslim armies were marching through Europe, that not so long ago Pope had to pay taxes to Muslim rulers, not so long ago Islamic philosophy, science and architecture flourished. We're not having it easy right now but neither did Prophet and Sahaba in the first years of Islam, neither did our ancestors when they faced blood-thirsty Crusaders in Jerusalem. Islam prevailed and in the end Muslims will be victorious. All suffering is temporary, this life is short, this life is a test and the "real thing", the reward and punishment will come in the afterlife. Chosen people will surely get the promised reward. "To Allah belongs the command before and after. And that day the believers will rejoice - In the victory of Allah. He gives victory to whom He wills, and He is the Exalted in Might, the Merciful. - [It is] the promise of Allah . Allah does not fail in His promise, but most of the people do not know." [Ar-Rum 4-6] Good thing that you're interested, think more about it and don't rush with conclusions.
2016-05-18 21:34:45 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talking with her so long every day is a very good thing you're doing. My sis has cancer, going through radiation treatments. My cousin has stage 4 cancer. My best girlfriend died a year ago from cancer. Two months ago another friend died of cancer. Seems like everywhere I turn someone I know has some sort of cancer.
All I can suggest is that you listen to your friend, be honest with her (meaning don't say everything will be fine because we never know). You could say, "We'll take it one day at a time. And I'm praying and hoping things will turn out okay for you."
I hope that helps. I wish you, and your friend, well.
2007-07-04 23:00:12 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I work with cancer children, i support them with Reiki and juice, this juice is good for depression too.
Juice for anemia, depression, immune system and to nourish to people with cancer and chemotherapy: 1 cup of alfalfa, 1 watercress cup, 1 green apple, 3 carrots, 1/2 beet, 7 almonds and 5 nuts. It is liquefied and drunken immediately. 1 or 2 times to the day.
2007-07-05 11:47:15 · answer #4 · answered by lady brigid 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are doing a great job by taking time out for her. You are doing great by supporting her. My Mom had a couple friends with this terrible disease and she went over to their place and/ or went out for a lunch together sometimes and they just talked and spent happy times together. And made happy memories together. They had a ball and the lady really appreciated my Mom and the family really saw my Mom's sunny attitude as a great benefit for her. They only talked about it if the lady brought it up. But they do not want sympathy. If she is sad still tell her that you are coming to pick her up and you will go (somewhere) together. Bring something for her to look forward to by making plans to meet.
I hope this helps. I think you are very strong to be there for her at this time in her life. It is hard to be strong for other people. But just know that you will be making great memories. And this is what you and her can share. :) Hats off to you my dear and be positive.
2007-07-04 23:19:22 · answer #5 · answered by Jess 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I feel for you. My best friend died of breast cancer 3 yrs ago. We spent alot of time reading, praying and laughing till the end. What does being a friend mean to you? Listen!!!!!! Let her do most of the talking. I'm sure she is trying to put things in some kind of prosective. I will pray for the both of you. Stay strong.
2007-07-04 23:06:47 · answer #6 · answered by naturegirlhd 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
many people with serious illnesses, simply want people they love and care for around them, I think you are doing what you can, by simply being there for her, if there is anything that you can do for her other than just being there, do it. And do the things that you can still do with her normally, like watch a movie(if she is in the hospital, see if you can take one of those portable movie players in with you) if you don't have a portable dvd player, see if the hospital can arrange for something like that...playing games is another thing, send her some music, if she needs some spiritual help, pray with her, whether you believe in it or not, studies have shown prayer actually can help with recovery.
try to put yourself in her place and ask yourself what would you want?
I personally wouldn't want to think of my situation too much, and since the hospital is probably already doing what they can, I would just want things to keep me occupied.
2007-07-04 23:13:03 · answer #7 · answered by a_nemus 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i never like that, but i think i can feel it.
as u know, best friend is a special relate between two person usually. and im sure u can give a power to her. it is possible to u to raise her up.
i always read 'chicken soup' book. do u know or read it? it is a good book with some good story.
with ur spirit, she maybe can find a light for her life, he can raise .
or make her confident with her self, sure her that she is strong, can do it!
i know u can, dont give up... and make her life beautiful
2007-07-04 23:11:31 · answer #8 · answered by zZzZzZ 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi, you have many things you can do for your best friend like to pray, to give heart no matter you can stand talk to her more than 1hour and any thing you see is better for your Friend just do it.
2007-07-04 23:01:35 · answer #9 · answered by Jhn 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
of course medical service, what else, take care of her
2007-07-04 22:55:30 · answer #10 · answered by labirinth_huskarll 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋