Ok to start off I am recently married (October will be a year) and I have been contemplating joining the military for about 4 years. And the last time I checked my husband was ok with me joining. Right now I am looking at the AF, Army, or National Guard. I am an AF brat, so part of me is leery of the Guard, but it would mean that we stay in our state. I also want to do more than one weekend a month, which leaves me with AF or Army. Honestly the only thing that has stopped me from joining sooner is that I don’t want to be on the front lines. YES I love my country, but spiritually I am not ready to die. I am not concerned about pay; I make more than AF basic pay at my job now. Another thing is my husband loves his job, and if I were to get orders then he may not want to go with me. So once again I am at the Guard. Yes I do plan on talking to my husband some time next week about this, but I am hoping for some one else’s point of view. Thank you for your time.
2007-07-04 22:30:16 · 11 answers · asked by brlracer 2 in Politics & Government ➔ Military
If its solely, or even a mainly, a financial decision, then I would think very very hard. As a brat, I'm sure you know that going full-time would be a massive lifestyle change for your husband. I'm also sure you know that marriages can suffer some real trials during the early years. If its a matter of serving your country, then I would go with the Guard. You can do alot of good, while doing the least amount disruption (still alot) to your marriage and your current lifestyle choices.
Maybe you'll get lucky and your husband will have some good ideas and give some great insight.
Hope it gives you a little something to think about.
2007-07-04 22:42:43 · answer #1 · answered by California Street Cop 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Thats a hard question to answer.
I want to say if it has to be either/or then go with AF.
1. If you join the Guard you have to serve 8 years. It's only 1 weekend a month, but they are going to start calling more on the Gaurd to deploy now.
2. I don't know what the minimum length of service is for AF, but when they do deploy they only go for about 3-6 months and their mission is unlike Army or Marines. They have way better duty locations also.
Which ever branch you choose I certainly hope you join. Only because I'd hate for you go the rest of your life wishing you had at least tried.
Good luck!
2007-07-05 00:05:09 · answer #2 · answered by Miss B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most people have never heard of AGR, active guard reserves, you'll probably want to look into that. National Guard units actually do have a small percentage of soldiers that serve fulltime in the unit, and you wouldn't have to worry about moving. Go and talk to you guard recruiter and see if he has any active slots availible, if not you can always just go regular nation guard, and when an active slot opens up, jump on it.
2007-07-05 08:38:30 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
One AF brat to another and also as a former USAF airmen. If you want to join a branch do the Air Force. This does not mean that you will not be sent into the face of fire as my younger brother (also in the air force) was. You duty station will depend on the needs of America 1st. I was in the air force in the 80's, my bro is in now. He did one tour in Iraq and 2 in Germany. So it really depends on your specialty in the military.
2007-07-04 22:42:27 · answer #4 · answered by Robert L 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't touch the military at this point!
I think you better talk to your husband first! If he is not willing to relocate, and sometimes it is for years in places like Germany where he probably could not work, you are going to end up on the other end of a divorce!
The military puts a lot of strain on family's, and as you are newly married, and if you do get shipped out somewhere and he doesn't go, then I think you just cooked your own goose! That is unless that is what you want sub consciously anyway!
I don't think very many men would go to Europe where they can't work, and them staying and you going for 3 years, is going to ruin you marriage in my opinion!
2007-07-04 22:58:13 · answer #5 · answered by cantcu 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
At certain times, such a sentiment could be admirable. But the military today is run by a bunch of liars. Would you apply for a job with a corporation you knew was run by liars, and whose biggest lie was that they weren't lying? Even if I loved my job, I could not work for liars. In fact, I had a great job, but I knew the CEO was a crook. I quit. Six months later he was indicted.
2007-07-04 22:50:34 · answer #6 · answered by holacarinados 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You answered your own question.....I think that you cannot go overseas because that means your doubts in your husband wanting to leave and go with you is there...and therefore what is more important than maintaining you home..... In marriage there needs to be a compromise...but where must you draw the line.....if you go, you need to respect his right to stay behind ...do you want to go anyway....I know that maybe you would want to hear that you have the right to choose your own life ...but when you married you merged your life and his life as choosing one path together....try a compromise and see if you can stick to your home and join what you can....you save something important....your home.
2007-07-04 22:43:34 · answer #7 · answered by frieda l 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hon, this is not a good idea, Bush is looking for more troops to be thrown into the front line as I speak! As the allies pull back from Iraq, Bush has got to replace them! So guess what 'ol girl' will be going there? You stay at home with your man and start a family. God knows! we need more young Americans to fill the gap that Bush has taken from us! Have a great day.
2007-07-04 22:48:49 · answer #8 · answered by wheeliebin 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
no ! no ! no ! don't do it. ask yourself this question: is it better being with your family or dead? but if you do decide to join, you should be prepared to get divorced, the military and marriage don't go together, the military has one of the highest divorce rates of any job, for example you move to Germany and your husband goes with you, he will have one of 3 places in which he can work, shoppette otherwise known as the gas station, PX as a cashier,and if he is real lucky at the bank on post which will pay him about 8 or 9 us dollars, which is equivalent to about 6.50 euro. he would get sick of that real fast and then you will be fighting everyday about money and being stuck in Germany and then one day he will say, I'm done I'm going back to the states so i can have a real life. i spent many years in the military and now live in Germany, i see it on a daily basis. do not do it.
2007-07-04 22:37:20 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
Your statement is almost like saying "I want to do a job, but don't want any of the bad aspects of it, no, not me"! Be better off staying home.
2007-07-04 22:37:03 · answer #10 · answered by Army Retired Guy 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋