My ex-boyfriend and the father to my son is Addicted to cocaine and i want to help him to sober up ( he broke up w/ me because i was trying to help him) I just feel like i need to do something i just cant sit here and let some1 i love die....i keep him away from my son so my son isnt around it. My ex is becoming abusive and im soo scared to be around him but i want to help him.......what should i do????? help
2007-07-04 21:01:08 · 7 answers · asked by N!cky 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
But im afraid he will die and i will leave w/ that pain until i die
2007-07-04 21:06:52 · update #1
Surrender your life to Christ and ask Him to deliver your husband. There is nothing impossible to God.
2007-07-04 21:07:06 · answer #1 · answered by patrick w 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cannot help someone who does not want to be helped, however hard you try.
Even if he does finally agree to go into rehab or something, if he is not doing it because he wants to he will fail.
You just have to give him some time, make sure there is distance between you both because the drugs will make him do things he does not want to, or would not usually do (violence), this could ruin any feelings you have for him.
The best thingyou can do is tell him you're there for him, give him dtails of helplines and rehab centers and wait until he feels ready for himself.
Then hopefully your sobn can have his father in his life and you could possibly be with him again, obviously, not until he is clean.
2007-07-05 04:05:27 · answer #2 · answered by xx 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if hes addicted to cocaine then you should probably tell him how much trouble he could get into if he was ever caught. trust me i know from my dad. he went to prision for 2 years over that. i know how it is to be an addict to things of that sort. but you should'nt have to worry about it. worry about your own life for the moment being and if worse comes to worst.. he asked for it. if he gets caught you cannot blame yourself. under no circumstances should you have to hover over what he does. just live your life. and if your ex is becoming abusive you need to stay away because that is nobody to mess with. he may hurt your child. and thats not right. TELL SOMEONE. thats the best way. be strong and do what you believe in. follow your heart.
i hope things get better.
2007-07-05 04:08:32 · answer #3 · answered by debby<3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry to hear this,but you cant help him unless he wants help,and the more you tell him the worse he will get. Just keep your son away from him and go on with your life.
2007-07-05 04:07:14 · answer #4 · answered by shepardman1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry, but you CAN'T help him. Get away from him, get on with your life. He will either get better on his own, or he won't, but NOTHING you say or do will help him.
It sucks, doesn't it? People who get into drugs and alcohol are the most selfish people on Earth.
Good luck.
2007-07-05 04:07:29 · answer #5 · answered by luvrats 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the best thing you can do to help him is to keep yourself safe from him......i have seen people seriously affected from the abuse of this drug, unless he comes to terms to help himself you will be able to do nothing for him.... since he is becoming abusive you need to accept that as a warning and steer clear of him....your urge to help him is natural.....sometimes the best thing to help someone is to let them figure out things for themselves........that way when they make a choice it is their own choice and not driven by someone else...it is hard to stand by and watch someone you loved live their life as such, completely understandable.......UNDERSTAND this your responsibility is for the SAFETY OF YOUR CHILD first and foremost.....this is by far more important thing you can do...............
2007-07-05 04:10:33 · answer #6 · answered by Twinkie Thief 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him rot if you have any brains
2007-07-05 04:03:28 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋