She contacted me after dumping me two months ago. She apologized for everything last week. She said "well, give me a call when you feel like getting dinner or lunch or something sometime". So then, today I texted saying "do you want to meet up tonight? I just got into town" She said she is working late and she doesn't know. Then I said well then if not tonight maybe some other time. She said "Yeah, I'll let you know". Then I never heard from her again. What the hell? If this girl wanted to see me wouldn't she have called or tried to see me in any shape or form? I don't get it. All I did was accept her offer when she asked me first. What should I do now? How can I make it clear that I really don't need these games? I cannot believe this, everything seemed fine 48 hours ago. By the way, she says she is depressed, she has been bulimic and so on....So I was just trying to be nice.
2007-07-04 20:07:18 · 7 answers · asked by D 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
She dated someone right after me, as for taking control. I think accepting her offer even though she dumped me and dated someone afterwards was control enough.
2007-07-04 20:17:49 · update #1
If you are truly interested in her, try to SHOW it more.
Since she dumped you, a ton of stuff was probably going through her head and she felt like you didn't deserve her. Now, she wants to give you another chance.
Basically, she's thinking "Let's try it again, I think he deserves a chance."
NOT "I really want to get back to him and I can't wait to see him again!"
She wants you to act like a man in the relationship by being the one to initiate contact. It's pretty easy to tell judging by the "call me when you feel like going out..." She already feels out of her element by being the one to call you and ask you to come back. Now she wants you to take control.
And that's why she hasn't been trying super-hard to meet up with you again. In HER mind, she's giving you another chance, not to get back to you asap and act like everything is fine, but for you to prove yourself to her.
Call her, be the one to make sure you two get back together, and she'll truly admire you for that.
2007-07-04 20:16:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anita 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first rule when it comes to trying to understand girls is...............don't. Apparently you do need "these games" if you keep texting her back. Here is something girls aren't going to tell you..... she probably dumped you two months ago for someone else. She either got tired of him or vice-versa, so she called you knowing you would give her the attention she seeks. The "working late and don't know", could mean this other guy is back to feeding her attention and she's waiting to see if he'll take her out. Then again, you can just cut your losses and realize women rarely think logically and there's no sense in trying to figure it out. I had to edit this after your additional details which you should have stated originally. Ignore people who tell you to take control of the relationship. The only thing you should control is your desire to call'text back to her. She's using you, for attention, to cure her depression, etc. and there's no reason to take it.
2007-07-05 03:19:16 · answer #2 · answered by role_lasrever 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's all a game to her. When she feels down or depressed she's going to contact someone to try and feel better. My opinion is to ignore the texts, don't answer her calls, change your number. Do whatever you need to do so she won't contact you any more. She broke up. It's over. Time to move on.
2007-07-05 03:12:03 · answer #3 · answered by Hubcap Annie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give her call she can now be playing hard to get but see if she is depressed got out with her.
2007-07-05 03:11:29 · answer #4 · answered by rfrandy2007 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds as if this woman has a LOT of ... problems. Emotional problems. You can't expect her to behave rationally or logically.
I'm sure she needs a friend, but you have to decide if you want to be with a woman who has such problems. Good luck.
2007-07-05 03:12:50 · answer #5 · answered by luvrats 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think she was having some problems with the current bf she has and she decided to call you to make herself feel wanted because she was the one that dumped you. she probably patched things up with the current bf and now doesn't want to speak to you
2007-07-05 03:26:30 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
in amy shape or form . does this mean your in disguise and want her to see you as another person and not you.
2007-07-05 03:14:46 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋