Ok, I have not officially taken a test yet but I strongly feel that I may be pregnant, im only 22 yrs old but extremely afraid to tell my family even though I live states away from them. Im afraid they will be very upset with me and give me a hard time about it, when im sure that kind of stress just isnt necessary, what should I do and when should I tell them?
(Ive been with my bf for nearly 7 years, and although we are both not 'ready' for this he is supportive)
2007-07-04 19:23:28 · 7 answers · asked by princesskamby 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I completely understand your position. I'm about your age and not pregnant, but I can see your problem.
Even though you are an adult, you never want to disappoint your parents. Plus, in the eyes of the world you are a baby yourself and surely not ready to take care of a baby unexpectedly.
Since you have been w/ your boyfriend for 7 years, I will say that's a positive. Your parents know him and probably respect him. I would take with him. Get a plan going for the next 9 months and beyond. Figure out how you will support yourselves and your baby. Where you will live, etc.
Basically, be ready to tell your parents your plan. Even set the plan into motion before telling them. They might start to see that you are being more responsible and when you break the news, it'll be a shock. However, there fears might be at ease.
2007-07-04 20:01:50 · answer #1 · answered by Answer Girl 2007 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
KNOW IF YOU ARE OR NOT FIRST, then talk with your bf and decide if this is something you BOTH are willing to commit your lives to - discuss marriage, finances, how this will affect your lives - - WAIT on telling ANYBODY for a few months - things could change and it will avoid ALOT of drama. Understand that your family has the RIGHT to disagree with your actions and be upset, just as YOU have the same rights with them - - you will need your family if you do become a parent - - try to work things out, and good luck with whatever you decide!
2007-07-05 02:49:59 · answer #2 · answered by BikerChick 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all find out for sure, then you will know if you even have anything to tell them. Second, decide what you plan on doing, if it is to have and keep the child, providing there even is one, you will need to tell them sooner or later anyway. You might be surprised on how they react, maybe hint around at the subject before coming out and telling them. At 22, you are old enough to decide life's issues for yourself, this includes having a child. If your parents don't like it, they will either have to come to terms with the situation, or take the chance of never seeing their grandchild. Most parents, although maybe upset at the situation, would rather have the chance to know the child than remain angry about how the child come to be.
2007-07-05 02:34:56 · answer #3 · answered by julvrug 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First, find out if you are pregnant. Take the test, see a doctor and decide with your boyfriend what you will be doing about it.
Then tell your family. You are possibly about to become a mother. You will be responsible for another life and have to develope the adult attitude that your choices will affect yourself and another miraculous person, no matter what others think or feel. If they give you a hard time, hang up!
2007-07-05 02:35:21 · answer #4 · answered by dizzkat 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
After 7 years, and either of you are not ready for marriage,
then perhaps now is the time for you to re evaluate your re-
lationship. You should have taken extra preventives to avoid
getting pregnant, unless you subconsciously did want to have
one to bind you more together. And a child will do that. Even
if it's just to take responsbibility for getting you pregnant, your
boyfriend and you need to find out what lies ahead for you
both, as far as your needs go and the plans made to achieve
them. A baby is going to disrupt any concrete plans for
awhile on your part. But he will be free to follow his to a major
degree. It will be hard for you to work and carry the baby in
the last month, so that if you are pregnant, you will have to
consider that.
So rather than speculate. Get a reliable test and then decide
don't ask us here to decide for you. It's totally up to you. But
just remember, a child doesn't ask to come into this world.
And when one does, he's owed at least 18 years of your life
to care and support him/her until he's able to support himself.
2007-07-05 02:37:55 · answer #5 · answered by Lynn 7 · 0⤊ 3⤋
First of all, wait until you've tested and are nearly 12 weeks along. Sadly, almost 50% of pregnancies don't make it to 12 weeks. If you do, then you can tell your family at that point.
2007-07-05 02:34:32 · answer #6 · answered by Snoopy 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Tell your family.
2007-07-05 02:57:28 · answer #7 · answered by DCKilla 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋