Should I Give up My Life For Him?

Question

I have been talking to a guy via internet for 3 months. He's sweet and caring and very similiar to me. The problem is that I am in Louisiana and he is in Texas. I am 19 and he is 20. I like him and I know that he likes me, but we are in different states. I don't know what I should I do. He has told me that he wants to be married in about two years, but I don't know if I am ready for marriage. I am about to start my sophmore yr. of college. Should I give up my edu. for him? He's a very nice person, but he is bipolar and sometime has these illusions of being a dictator and he is very power hungry at times. I can tell this by his actions via internet. What should I do? I really don't want to move on.

Answer 1

No, don't ever give up your education for anyone. That is what will give you the ability to be independent. You never want to be so dependent on a man that he has complete power over you.

If this guy is bipolar and is not taking meds, he will be trouble. Take it from someone that knows. You will never know when those highs or lows will occur. He will be demanding one day, and ready to commit suicide the next. It is even possible for him to have both of those emotions within minutes of each other. Most bipolar persons, not on meds, can not hold a job for very long, and rarely develop a permanent career. Even if they are on meds, sometimes they get so high that they think that they are in control and can quit the meds abruptly. When they do they generally go into a deep dark depression, or get into trouble because they think they are above everyone and everything else, sometimes even including the law.

Best for you to complete your education, and find a man that will not put you through tortures of hel#!!!

Answer 2

Well, if you really think giving it a go is a good idea, then at least visit the guy before you decide whether to move there or not.

But based on the fact that you wrote "I really don't want to move on" seems to indicate that that's what YOU think you should do. You may not want to, but it's obviously entered your head, and it seems like a good idea to me. If just talking over the internet you already have red flags about the guy, marrying him probably isn't the best idea. Especially after only three months.

Answer 3

You must reread your question then take away the feelings and answer it as if you were giving advice to a good freind.You must go to colledge.You need to think first of yourself and focus on your future.Why because you have to be able to support yourself in order to survive with or without a man.Its a cold world out there and even the most beautiful women are struggling to make it .An education is vital for simple survival. He soundslike he may have some mental issues so just be his freind and tell it like it is there is no sense in lying to him just say look I have to think about my future. Besises if he loves you he can wait for you.

Answer 4

NO!
Finishing your education should be your main priority right now,and you shouldn't let any one get in the way of achieving this goal.

I would tell you the same thing regardless of the type of person he may be,or the leangth of time that you've known him.Too many people end up dropping out of school,and of course they intend to go back,but they usually don't,and it's something that they regret for the rest of their lives.So stick with your studies,and if it's meant to be,he'll still be there when you graduate!

Answer 5

nahh dnt do it. u dnt even feel that it is the real thing... by the way that ur speaking i can just tell that all u can see about him is that he's sweet and caring. but that's not always enough. y should u be the one to give it all up?? y not him... i wouldn't do it....not just yet. meet him a couple times in person and if it gets a lot more serious then finish college and then maybe u should start considering it.

Answer 6

Don't give up your education for a guy, I think you should maybe set up a date to meet him and see how things work. If things go good then maybe the both of of you can decide to move your relationship up to the next level. It's very rare for a long distance relationship to work out. Your education will get you further in life.

Answer 7

I don't believe you... but to answer the question, NO do not give up your future for some guy you know over the internet. You can have a better future and a feeling of satisfaction with your life if you stay in school.

Answer 8

DO NOT give up your future (education) for someone you have never even met in person. you have no idea who they really could be. and marriage! omg, you need to really know a person and spend face to face time with them before you can even think about that. you have your whole life ahead of you and there are many amazing people out there that you just havent met yet. i say, give it time. if you meet this guy and love him after knowing him for at least a year MINIMUM, (in person) then maybe you can think of a future with him. but whatever you do, dont throw you life away.

Answer 9

uh.. If you only know him over the internet than you should meet him and take a friend and make sure it is in a pubkic place. ANd oh yea uh no about the giving up your life. Education is for life. Men come and go.

Answer 10

Plan a trip to meet each other somewhere.You don't stop going to college for marriage.Go ahead and finish up.Those type of men can turn out to be controlling.Really,you have to date a guy and get to know him first before marriage.If you do ,you don't know what you are getting yourself into.