my mom is really strict n so is my dd but not as she is im 16 almost 17 n i have alot of friends i love my friends i have a job n im a fairly good student in skool i dont get into trouble but one of my friends is a kinda trouble maker she always half naked n nevercovers herself like she has no self control im the total opposite of her my mom doesnt like her n i no y but i keep telling my mom that im one person n im not goin to follow anyone n do what everyone is doin its hard but im not pressured easily im good a my job n my manangers no that im a good person n the know me as an individual for various reasons i try to do everything that she asks me to do n i dont understand y she wont let me have a life that i want . al i ask is to go out w my friends i dont even talk to the friend that has the self control problem but i try toplease her n it never works i dont no what ee to do to make her understand that im a good chid n im not goin to go do something stupid
sry it so long
2007-07-04 18:54:10 · 7 answers · asked by Annieee 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
ok so im not talkin to this friend i have nemore cause i relized that she is really annoying n i do no that u are who u hang out with so i made that choice n im not talkin to her nemore buti feel bad because im not usualy mean but i think i just wanted my mom to c that im not influenced by her n i have different friends bt she wont let me go out n i no my limits n i dont push them
2007-07-04 20:04:36 · update #1
i also respect my parents both of them i have a great level of respect for them n my self i just want my mom to trust me n be proud that i try my best at what i do
2007-07-04 20:08:06 · update #2
Okay, from the mom point of view: You will be judged by society by the friends you keep. You hang out with half naked friends and others will think you do the same. And treat you with the same lack of respect. No, this is not how it should be, but it is how it is!
She is trying to protect you from falling into a situation that you may not ask for, but find yourself in all the same.
Bring your friends home. Let her get to know them. Let her see how you all hang together. She may not like all of them but at least it shows her some respect that you are willing to share your choices with her. And stay strong! Keep up your grades, be a good employee, tell your mom you love her even if you don't agree with her. And always remember she is trying to protect you from the little things that can cause problems for the rest of your life!
2007-07-04 19:12:08 · answer #1 · answered by dizzkat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a mom to many here, I can tell your mother loves you a lot. Think about this friend of yours. She sounds so much like a friend my daughter had. Yes I said had. You see, girls so young and dress so provacatively only get worse as time goes on. It is a problem they need to deal with before it spirals downward. I can say things like oh she has low self esteem and needs to try to get attention any way she can, etc. I can almost guarantee that she will get worse with time. And then you are you. I have heard it before. In my daughter's case, her friend got so bad, she was pretty much hav ing sex with anyone. My daughter continued school, dressed appropiately and gradually got different friends. The last time she saw her childhood buddy, her buddy turned on her and really tried to put her down saying to my daughter that she thought she was better and all sorts of things so my daughter would feel bad for her and take her in. My daughter had to make a choice and chose her fiance (now husband) and a good life while her so called friend still is sleeping around and getting no where really quick.
Your mom is trying to protect you from pain because it does hurt when you lose someone you've had in your life for so long and now don't. This is only one example of many. You WILL be looked and judged by the company you keep. Please trust your parents. Most parents I know only do what is best for their children. None of us wants our kids to hurt and we want them to be happy.
When you get older, you will see that friends come and go BUT your family is always there through thick and thin.
2007-07-04 19:52:02 · answer #2 · answered by califdreamer_2000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mom worries about you because she loves you. She is older than you and has more life experiences than you do and can see things that you don't. It is her job to make sure you don't do something stupid and she wants you to have a good life. Maybe she sees something in your friends that you don't. Try to hang with people that are a good influence on you and maybe she won't bug you as much. As a parent she just wants you to have a better life than she did. You just have to trust that she really does know best.
2007-07-04 19:00:11 · answer #3 · answered by lolo lala 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-29 02:40:51 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its has nothing to do with you. Im sure she knows youre on the straight and narrow. Its a Mom's defense system. She just trying to keep you...well....alive. Eventually she'll give in. Usually about the time you get to college. youre almost there.
2007-07-04 19:03:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anna 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Parents' thats how they all are. Your Mom loves you and doesn't want any harm to come to you. It's not that she doesn't trust you. She cares about you. Such friends spell trouble, and Mom knows better than you cause she's got years of experience. She does not want you to get hurt.
2007-07-04 18:59:09 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Respect your parents.
2007-07-04 19:59:27 · answer #7 · answered by DCKilla 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋