I'm having trouble thinking that i may or may not get married, i'm happy that i have a smart head on my shoulders and not going and just give my virginity to ANY DOG out there like young people are doing. but theres just one problem....i dont know how Sex feels and i'm afraid i might upset my future husband if i dont give it to him since they really like that stuff i mean, how do i know how i would feel when he....touches me how do i know that i'll just be like a sitting potatoe when hes with me. i'm having trouble with this, is this just phase, will i break out of it when i meet him and get married? or is this a sign telling me that i was born single?
2007-07-04 18:54:05 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
LOL.. i am 20 too and also a virgin by choice. I sometimes wonder if i'll really be able to find a guy who doesn't mind my waiting. someone who supports and encourages my decision. I also wonder if i'll be any good in bed when i do get married because i'll be so inexperienced.
I hope to find a guy who's also a virgin and saving himself for marriage however they seem to be *extremely* few and far between. If its the first time for us both i think this would help a great deal. No comparisons and less stress. just be able to enjoy each other onehundred percent.
Having said that i think that when you really love someone and are in love with him, any sex with that person will be amazing! When sex is an expression of love NOT the other way around.
good luck and stay strong!! =)
2007-07-04 19:01:45 · answer #1 · answered by starryeyed 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Don't think too much about it. My girlfriend and i started dating when she was 15, shes now soon turning 18 and has ever since told me that she wants to wait till we're maried which mean's ill be about 23 or 24 by that time and you know what, i dont mind waiting with and for her because i love her.
Stay proud of yourself and dont doubt it, when you find the right guy, he will respect you and if he is the right guy weither or not ur good or new to sex shouldnt be the big issue.
Also, dont worry, the feelings come naturally, because you havent experienced it you keep wondering and are geting courious, just wait, when it happens everything will happen naturally and you wont be a sitting potatoe and its not like u'llonly do it once, if the first time doesnt go too great thers always the times after that you noe?
Goodluck, take kares and stay proud of urself!.
2007-07-04 19:03:06 · answer #2 · answered by B3MR2 3 · 5⤊ 0⤋
When you meet the right guy, you'll know it. Everyone is different. Some girls are frigid and don't seem to have much interest in love making, others are nymphos. I hope for your sake that you meet a romantic. And he'll do sweet things to you like kiss your hand and play with your hair. Some day you'll meet the guy that was meant for you. Until then, just find the things in life that make you happy and make the best of it. Your happiness will attract others. My husband said one of the first things that attracted him to me was the fact that I stand up straight and keep my shoulders straight, not slumped. Have a look of pride about yourself, but a humble spirit. Look around you, there's a lot of girls out there these days that are slump shoulders and it's very unattractive. Good Luck and don't give up on LOVE.
2007-07-04 19:08:54 · answer #3 · answered by Angel L 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You should be proud of yourself and give yourself a pat on the shoulder. You have principles in life that not many people have. Good for you. Anyways, you should not be worried about your future and how to have sex and all that jazz. You see, what I mean is that, it does not mean that when you have multiple partners for sex, you will be perfect lover. On the other hand, it also doesn't mean that if you had no experience in sex , it will make you a lousy lover. What matters most, is that you have love in your heart and when you make love, you let it out from your emotions and body language. It is a natural thing. You don't need practice. When the time comes, it will happen. So don't worry about it.
2007-07-04 19:03:53 · answer #4 · answered by happy 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
you are not born single
if you are intending to keep your self for your husband you will have all your married life to get experience. but in your wedding night is gona be a little disappointing.
I never understod this thing in america. about Proud Single Virgin.
its not any dog. no body tells you to be a slut. its gona be your boyfriend who loves you and its gona be an expression of your love. if not you will marry the first dude who likes and in 4 or 5 years you will find you dont love him that much. 4 years was nice but now you realised that you dont want to spend all your life with him. why do you think so many people gat divorced. to find the love of your life first you got to experience in maney other loves. and sex is a pig part of loveing. its the nature of things.
find your self a boyfriend, and when you are ready make love with him. and after a few broken hearts and few losses you will find the mad you will marry and hopefully live alog life of love together.
2007-07-04 22:57:06 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
If your future husband will be up set with you for not being "experienced" he is not the right guy for you. The best thing that you could do is find a man with the same standards as you, stay the course and don't fall into the temptations just so some guy can get a "notch" in his belt. Good for you!!!
2007-07-04 19:03:51 · answer #6 · answered by Smitty 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey, my sister is in her 60's and she is single. She had many opportunities to marry, and she ran away. Two of them died horribly, and she was left alone.
She was saving herself for marriage, for her intended..do you know that she is STILL a virgin.
Her first man, Bud...was squashed in between the concrete stones on a bridge that they were building. Only his head was sticking out of the hole, it was gruesome.
The middle guy, I can't remember his name...she ran from him..but then he scared her too. He was pushy.
Number 3 died of a heart attack, right on Christmas. They had just gotten the rings...this was about four years ago.
I guess my point to you is this...
Save yourself for the man that you will love for a lifetime...
Because a lifetime may not be as long as you had hoped it would be.
My sister is a good example...to this day, she still loves Jessie, and every Christmas, we remember him. AND the way that he loved her so and respected her for NOT having sex before marriage, and she was 58 or 59!
NOW, what do you think of that?
Blessings.....
2007-07-04 19:12:24 · answer #7 · answered by Midnight Winter WOLF 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
sex is something that you really have to experience before you can be good at it. no matter how much you read or study about it, the real thing is still the best way to learn.
but if you plan to keep your virginity until marriage, then all you can do is to read and read and read........ but you still won't know how it feels when the time comes.
i wouldn't be too concerned about how your husband will react. he should undertstand that you don't know what to do since you're still a virgin. therefore it is expected that you don't know much about it.
2007-07-04 19:32:19 · answer #8 · answered by Coolitz 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you meet someone and they love you for who you are, not how pretty you are, or how well you make love, then it shouldn't matter how well you "do" it. I know there is alot of pressure to grow up fast and lose your virginity young, but take your time and find the perfect person. Plus you are really too young to start worring about stuff like this. enjoy your life as it comes.
2007-07-04 19:03:21 · answer #9 · answered by Josh N 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I think it's a pretty sure thing that it's just a phase. I've heard of and talked to plenty of people like that and they had no problem feeling anything later on when they got physical with their spouses.
Stay strong! Be hopeful!
2007-07-04 18:56:59 · answer #10 · answered by Amanda B 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋