The child is alittle upset naturally and becomes very clingy
2007-07-04 18:42:25 · 7 answers · asked by aotea s 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Just say that daddy wants to live by himself
2007-07-04 18:47:58 · answer #1 · answered by Experto Credo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Her world has been changed in a big way so she is clinging to what is still the same. And that is you!
How I explained things to my youngest, then 2, was that I love you and daddy loves you so very much- but we don't love each other the way we should to be married (or live together, as the case may be). It needs to be a constant answer, and never, ever bad mouth her dad to her. I told her dad wants to be with you and will be whenever he can, that it was a grown up problem and we will be okay and so will daddy. (I had this conversation many times with all 4 of my kids)
It is so hard because you are going through your own emotional roller-coaster, but you gotta hold it together for her. Hopefully, she can see dad on a regular basis and he can hold it together for her, also.
My heart goes out to all 3 of you!
2007-07-05 02:27:23 · answer #2 · answered by dizzkat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Patience and your stability. Your child is afraid that you will leave her just as her Daddy has. Reassure her constantly that your there for her and if it means allowing her to be clingy than let it be so. Make sure that she understands that will you always come back whenever you have to leave her. She will eventually come to feel secure in time. It took my four year old about 6 months and now he seems content. If she doesnt ask why daddy isnt around than dont bother her with it. Just keep reassuring her that BOTH of you love her and that mommy will always love her and be there.
2007-07-05 01:55:34 · answer #3 · answered by Anna 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cannot. I do not believe that a 2 year old can understand the reasons parents split up. You need to provide constant reassurance of your love and attention to ease the separation. Depending on the reasons for the separation it would be helpful if Daddy could show his love and attention as well.
Best of luck with the terrible twos.
2007-07-05 01:54:02 · answer #4 · answered by Queenie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A 2-year-old will not understand that.
Be prepared for increased temper tantrums, crying in the middle of the night, and increased demands for attention -- all related to a separation anxiety. Sorry to be the bearer of bad news, but that's a hard situation for an adult to go through...even harder for a child.
P.S. Be fair to the child and allow the father to visit, and if you don't reconcile...try to explain the situation when the child is older. Separation and divorce are less traumatic on the child when they can freely see either parent.
2007-07-05 01:52:32 · answer #5 · answered by DK 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
an explanation as such to a 2 year old would be very futile...how ever, he is experiencing separation distress to put it simply..he gets clingy because someone close to him is indeed gone..he just needs you to constantly reassure him, that you are going to be there..always..that he has your unconditional love.
2007-07-05 02:34:02 · answer #6 · answered by Mee 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them the truth.
2007-07-05 03:04:26 · answer #7 · answered by DCKilla 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋