My mom is soo overbearing. I'm 17 and its killing me how overbearing she is. I dont have a life. She's over it. She's telling me what college I'll go to, what my major will be, what age I need to get married...etc. How can I tell her to BACK OFF. I know this sounds kind of mean, but I need to live my own life a little bit.
2007-07-04 18:15:27 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You need to have a serious talk with her. Tell her how you feel and ask her to let you grow up. If that doesn't work you need to wait until you are 18 and start to make decisions for yourself. Don't go against what she says but look out for yourself and do what you have to do, or want to do.
2007-07-04 18:19:45 · answer #1 · answered by "Game Heaver" 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
How about saying "Mom, I appreciate your advice and will seriously think about your opinions". And leave it at that as you go about making your own decisions! Do not agree to anything you are not comfortable with, use the evasive tactic.
Is it possible to talk to her and let her know that by pushing you in the direction she thinks you should go she is actually pushing you away? And yes, at 17 you should be making some of your own decisons and also be given the respect of conversation when those decisions are at odds with your moms.
2007-07-04 18:59:27 · answer #2 · answered by dizzkat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your mother is very anxious that you will turn out well and not make the 'mistakes' in your life that she made in hers.
my mother was anxious for my sister and i to land in a 'respectable' job so that we could have a life and not depend on a man to feed us. she was a housewife and got her high school diploma when i was a child. (dropped out during the depression to help feed the family) my fathers aunt had been a nurse and my mother got the idea that we should be nurses too. my sister got all the way to the door sill of the nursing school before she put her foot down.
luckily for me, i figured out at a very early age that i wanted to be a computer programmer and that's what i am. my point is, you have to show your mom that you are responsible and as interested in 'turning out well' as she is. she only wants the best for you. try to keep that in mind.....
2007-07-04 18:25:50 · answer #3 · answered by bebop_music 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just sit down and discuss with her that you really
feel like you need a breather from her and that you
would like to plan on your own future something that
fulfills you not her. Let her know that your not a little
kid anymore she has to let go at some point.
2007-07-04 18:22:20 · answer #4 · answered by Tori 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
tell her you would like to sit down and have a nice talk to her about how you feel..its possible she will understand if you don't get mad just stay cool show her how mature and a nice young lady that you have become but also that you know how to make wise choices BUT IF YOU NEED HER HELP you will ask her...sometime parents are scared of letting go of their children--so stay cool
2007-07-04 18:22:17 · answer #5 · answered by lorr1941 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I know it's hard for you to except this situasion but, i know you have a potential to solve your own problems..Actually, i just guide you...if you can except my suggest you can do it..but if you can't except you trow it..Firstly, try to slow talk with your mother always..make a joke not more stress..sometimes we always distorted negetive thinking in live..think positively, i believe you have strong to solve it...
2007-07-04 18:48:20 · answer #6 · answered by suie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her that you're old enough to make your own decisions. and if you don't like her rules be honest to her and tell the truth.
i think that she loves you and she wants you to have the best. she just thinks that they're best for you
2007-07-04 18:39:25 · answer #7 · answered by poiuytrewqasdfghjklmnbcx 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hope your turning 18 years old soon! When you go to college you will be ok. best luck
2007-07-04 18:19:47 · answer #8 · answered by rxing 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
tell her that u have ur own ambitions and dreams, and u need to enjoy life while u can. she may be lving vicariously thru you.
2007-07-04 18:27:44 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Put up with her til you're 18 I guess.
2007-07-04 18:21:55 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋