I'm a minor, my parents are divorcing, how would it work if I wanted to move in with my 26 year old sister?

Question

My parents are in the process of divorcing, my father was physically abusive and verbally to my mother, and verbally to me and my sister. I also believe my mom is verbally abusive though I don't want to say it, she tells me almost everyday how worthless, selfish, ugly, I am and how cold I am and how everyone in my family doesn't like me and how she doesn't like me and rarely she hits me like today. I don't think I can keep living like this, and I don't want to leave my little sister or dog behind, but I'm begininng to think I should move in with my older sister. Now how would this work? And would I have to tell anyone how my mom is? I'm almost fifteen years old and my sisters twenty six. I'm kind of hesitant about this all and not 100% sure what I'm going to do, but I need some feedback, and advice, and some idea of what would happen. Thankyou.

I currently live with my mom

- And my mom is nice to me otherwise, usually, like she'll talk to me and make sure I'm fed etc.

Answer 1

Talk to the secretary of state or the judge who is handling their divorce because they will have to discuss who you are going to live with.

Answer 2

If your parents and sister both agree, all you need to do is move. If your parents are against the idea, then you would have to call Social Services, Child Welfare Division, and tell them about the abuse. They would have your parents investigated. They would take both you and your sister out of the house. They may or may not let your sister take you depending on your sister's current situation. Unless your sister took your younger sister too, she would be put into a foster home, if your parents were deemed unfit.

I hope that you realize that there would be rules at your sister's house too.

Why don't you just discuss this with your parents. Tell them that the divorce has been upsetting to you, and you feel that you would like to spend some time living with your sister. After you get there, you can then probably convince them to allow you to stay permanently, if your grades are good, and you have not been a problem to your sister.

By the way, your mom is probably stressing out over the divorce. Raising you and your sister by herself will be very hard, and she is most likely very scared of what the future will bring too.

Answer 3

You are definitely going to need to tell the judge how you feel. But before you get to that point, make sure you and your sister have a plan worked out. She will need to be able to prove she can provide for you, since you are still a minor. She will need to provide adequate housing, make sure you go to school, have your expenses paid, etc. Unfortunately, it's just not enough to say, "I would prefer to live with my sister." If the court agrees that you are in an awful situation and living elsewhere would be a better choice, the burden of proof will be on your sister that she is the better choice. I feel bad for you that your parents are both so uncapable of giving you a positive environment to live in. However, please don't listen to what your mom says. I am so sure none of it is true. But sometimes, when people are feeling bad about themselves and their own lives, they take it out on the nearest person available. And it sounds like that's you. Besides trying to move in with your sister, please tell one of your school counselors or a teacher how you feel. It's good to be able to talk to someone. And there too, if you need backup in court, a school counselor might be able to help turn the odds in your favor and testify that this is an ongoing problem for you. I wish you all the best!! And again, please don't let your Mom make you feel too bad. You are none of those things she says.

Answer 4

Your parents will eventually have to go to court and hash all their differences out and of course I'm sure that child custody WILL come up. You're 14 years old and in some states that's old enough for you to decide where you'd like to go. It sounds almost like you're afraid to let anyone know you're mom is verbally abusive. If you happen to be able to have a say so in all this, when and if it goes to court let the judge know how you TRULY feel.

Answer 5

Well it sounds as though you are in a pretty bad situation.Well I would advise that you get out of the situation as quickly as possible. Whatever your parents reasonings are for taking out their differences on each other and you abusively, it isnt right. Therefore, moving in with your sis is a great idea . The actual process...not sure how that'll work.

Answer 6

i am a mom of a 26 & soon to be 15, the thing is, is your sister responsable enough to take care of you? mine is, she has 2 kids of her own have you talked to her about it and what about your lilsis does she need out of the home? if all of this is yes then your big sis can go to dhs and request custody of you both, before they take you out of the home,i would have a long hart to hart talk with her. but if it is as bad as you say then yes, but respect her as an adult and mind her better than you would your parents because its a gift that she is willing to take on the responsibilty. ok hope this will help. and remember god loves you, and you was not an accident ok?

Answer 7

I think if you talk to your mom, when she is in a good mood, and tell her you would like to take your dog and stay with your sister say for a while, she what she thinks

Answer 8

the same thing happened to me when i was your age and i moved in with my older sister it worked out great!

Answer 9

=O my parents are getting a divorce too...=[[
i think u should move in with ur sister.
you can take ur dog with you

Answer 10

maybe I am a bit too old to understand this problem or you haven't given enough detail...