2007-07-04 17:10:18 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you are gay, yes. She'll probably want to get married and have children someday. What if you two get married and have kids and you meet a man? Don't do it to her. Only stay with her if you think you can give up your gay lifestyle and truly be happy. And many gay people might get angry with me saying this. But it is possible. My uncle was gay but decided he wanted to have a family. So he married a friend and stopped sleeping with men. This was years ago before being gay was as acceptable as it is now. There was no option of adoption or a surrogate mother. I'm bi and he told me all about it. He said he still thought of men but remained faithful to his wife.
can you do that?
2007-07-04 17:18:54 · answer #1 · answered by Danielle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wish you could know how much the gay man I loved hurt me with his indecisiveness and reluctance to lose my love. There are decent normal women who love men who aren't able to be honest about who they prefer, maybe because of family pressure or internal struggle, But you said it. you said I am gay, you know who you are and what you want. Be kind, let her know. Perhaps she can still love you (as I love my friend 21 years later still) but move on (as I did)
She loves you madly for a reason, live up to the worth she sees in you.
2007-07-05 00:18:47 · answer #2 · answered by donny_mollysmom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're going to "decide" to be gay, then I'd have to say, let her go. Tell her very gently that you aren't attracted to her, because of your sexuality. Don't lead her into the abyss, because that isn't fair. If you care about her enough, maybe you can break away from your homosexuality. If not, then just set her down easily and walk away.
2007-07-05 00:17:33 · answer #3 · answered by Adam M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK, john d.. this is a very funny coincidence... you see... i think i am in a similar situation.. the only difference is that I am not the gay in my relationship and I just have been thinking that my bf is also gay.. or bi...
please, tell her before is too late.. if she loves you and you love her back, and you tell her the truth it may work... truth is beyond everything... or at least, that is what I think..
TELL HER.... fast.... good luck
2007-07-05 00:26:49 · answer #4 · answered by hechizada 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she loves you, but you're not into her, then it's unfair to her to lead her on by continuing the relationship. Find some way to let her know (gently) what the situation is, and let her find someone else.
2007-07-05 00:14:26 · answer #5 · answered by Sepharium 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you cannot give her what she wants, you cannot hold on to her. If you're gay, then you can't give her the relationship she wants...you won't be able to fully give yourself to her. If that's really the case, let her go so she can be completely happy.
2007-07-05 00:14:29 · answer #6 · answered by SJ Hockey Fan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should let her go IMMEDIATELY! You obviously aren't in love with her and even if you aren't leading her on it's time to cut her loose. Step up to the plate and be a good guy...you've already wasted enough of her time.
2007-07-05 00:27:07 · answer #7 · answered by nanabanana 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does she know you are gay? And why date her if your preference is males? I think you have a lot to think about but I don't think "holding on" is fair to her.
2007-07-05 00:13:18 · answer #8 · answered by banananose_89117 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why do gay guys do this? you are gay let her go. its gonna kill her if you string her along for another 5 years, marry her, give her children then say hey i'm sorry i'm gay.
2007-07-05 00:17:24 · answer #9 · answered by emoboyzrhot 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
dude thats mean,
if you are fully gay you should tell her and let her know
dont just lead her on like that, she loves you
2007-07-05 00:16:34 · answer #10 · answered by Charles B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋