This person in question is also jobless, disconnected from friends, lazy, and wanting to leave home to go live with a man she met on the internet. How do I help her?
2007-07-04 16:50:37 · 8 answers · asked by Coastalchick 2 in Health ➔ Mental Health
She'll think you're either pushy or jealous if you try to advice her even if she doesn't tell you that -she'll start confiding in her new found friend she met. Be a good friend and respect her wishes but keep your eyes for anything questionable with this new friend she met and be there for her. If it doesn't end up going so well or their relationship later or sooner end, don't be on her face and tell her i told you so just show her compassion when she needs it. Mistakes are the only way people learn. I am twenty one too and I've been learning such things the hard way so definitely experience changes everything. It's very likely she is seeking someone's attention out of depression, i know i once did. So its probably won't last once she realizes that she still unhappy later. Take care of yourself and your friend.
2007-07-04 17:07:28 · answer #1 · answered by bEiNg DiScIpLiNeD 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It sounds like you are trying to be a good friend, and that is probably a very important part of what she needs. However, if she is genuinely depressed, she should see a psychiatric professional. What you see as being "lazy" could actually be part of the depressive illness. However, it could well be treatable - by medication or therapy or a combination of the two. So yes, be there for her, but also try to direct her to professional help.
2007-07-04 17:01:13 · answer #2 · answered by obro 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you can't because the person in question is an adult. Now if this person is living at home while they are jobless and you are a parent.....then they need to move out. Yes, I know that sounds harsh. But you aren't helping them--you are only allowing them to continue to be like this. Tell them, "You need to get help. If you don't go to the doctor and get some counseling AND get a job, you will have to move out." And stick to it. Don't let this go on and on saying, "I really mean it THIS time." You're only hurting them by allowing this to continue.
If you are just a friend to this woman, then there is absolutely nothing you can do to help. Because she is an adult, she can't be forced into treatment. That's the whole thing about being an adult. You have choices and you make mistakes. If she goes to live with this guy she has never met.....that will be a huge mistake. But she'll have to find this out for herself. This guy is not going to "fix" her depression.
2007-07-04 16:52:44 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 4⤋
Depression can sometimes be miscontrused as laziness. Boost up her moral. Try to talk her into going to the doctor. There are services for people that have no insurance. Also try to talk her into going back to school to get a degree. Working towards something may help push her into having some self-esteem.
2007-07-04 16:58:12 · answer #4 · answered by Ryan's mom 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can't help someone get over depression. Only they can help themselves, and they have to want to. The best thing you can do is just be there, but don't be pressuring. Don't hen peck. If she doesn't ask YOU for advice, try not to give it. That will only make things worse.
2007-07-04 18:48:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be there for her, but now that she is an adult it is time for her to learn from her mistakes. You can't live her life for her. Whatever you do, do not take responsibility for her laziness. She will never change if she has no reason to.
2007-07-04 16:55:36 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Let her make her mistakes, and if self harm is an issue, call the police, they can intervene and have her assessed by a proffessional.
2007-07-04 16:59:25 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be a good friend. There's not much you can do about that.
2007-07-04 16:54:19 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋