so worked up over this whole situation that im depressed and making myself upset everytime i think....?

Question

so my x and i broke up 3 months ago but we have been still hanging out and even some nights cuddling in the same bed.... so her birthday was a few days ago and i made her a cake and got her gifts.... we got to talking about her weekends because she goes down the shore.... i asked and she gave an honest answer that she had hooked up with another guy and i had to leave the room for a few mins.... she said that she still loves me and cares about me that she doesnt want to break my heart again....she took a week off from work and spent it down the shore with her friends.... i am so confused and worry that every nite she is hooking up with a dude... i guess i had some hope that after the summer we would get back together for my sr. year of college but idk now esp. after she called me her safety net.... now i am feeling depressed bc i spent 2 yrs with this girl opening up which at least for me isnt easy... i know the right thing is to break off all contact but i cant... she makes me happy

and without her i am sad! we used to talk before bed and i cant sleep now because she is at the shore too busy to call and im not calling her to try and be strong but its so hard..... please help me i need some serious advice to help me get threw this one.... no girls has ever affected me like this one what do i do????

Answer 1

Tell her that you want to get back together and if she says we will have to wait and see, that means she has already moved on with her life. You will have to move on with yours. If she is already seeing other guys, then she doesn't seem to want a committed relationship right now.

Answer 2

I know exactly how you feel, I am going trough a similar situation now. Break it all off, cut her out of your life. She is using you, she even told you her self. She is not worrying about you, so why do you need to worry about her? She is out having fun, while you are having sleepless nights, tell me, does, that seem fair to you? Call up your firends, go out, distract yourself. Go and do some new things, thake up some new hobbies, that way you will be occupied and wont be thinking about her all the time, also, you will make yourself tired and go to sleep easier. You said that you are depressed and upset, and it's all because of her, honey, I'm sorry, but that is not being happy, so she does not make you happy. The sooner you get out of this pseudorelationship, becuase it is doing you more damage than good. Good luck pal!

Answer 3

you two got to share some great times together and you still have feelings for her. that's normal to be attached after something like that but don't let it suck away your life. she's out there on the shore living the now. if she really cared about you the same way you do her she would be there still beside you. what she said " " could prob just be a "nice" way to break it off with you because she doesn't seem to see interest into coming back. really, my x was sucking the life out of me. he's done and i'm moved on but still had/have feelings and it really affects me. the way i'm gettin thru this is just knowing we did have a great time together, we shared great moments, but that was then and i need to look to the future. if you start looking ahead instead of behind you'll find it alot easier to move on

Answer 4

Dude, let her go. She's using you like a "girlfriend" because you're easy. She's already told you that she "hooked up"...why? Because she wants you to know it's over. If it's over, then "why" does she still say she loves you? Because of what you already said: she thinks of you as her "safety-net". My God man, show some spine! That's the same as a guy telling his ex-girlfriend that he thinks of her as his sex-in-case-all-else-fails friend. Cut off all ties and move on, or she'll keep using you as a doormat...and stop being happy with being a doormat, you're better than that.

Answer 5

if your girl hooked up with another guy,she is no longer your girl. and yes you may be sad,but if you stop and think at the end you wont be able to forgive her you will always have that in the back of your mind.when you are with some one you love and care you tend to open up and feel comfortable. but when the other party has moved on then that means it's time for you to do the same.as bad as it may be,things will get better find things to do to keep your mind off her.

Answer 6

how are you happy when you are asking your self all the time what shes doing, there are a lot of girls there are so many that if one makes your cry or brings you bad energy more than half the time then get out before you hurt yourself more, life goes on and if you let your self move on you will be able to, it hard in the beginning but if your strong enough you will be helping your self in the long run, its their fault the first time but its your fault if you let it happen again

Answer 7

She called you her safety net. That is never a good thing. You are comfortable with her (she's your safety net too). You need to stop all contact and let yourself heal. She is not making you happy when you are paranoid about her hookin up with other guys and treating you like dirt. Love hurts, but it will get better with time.

Answer 8

first off, listen to "sober" by kelly clarkson. it's really good at describing your senar-e-o.
listen, it's obvious that she DOES love you but she's having a deal with her emotions right now. she doesn't know what you're thinking. you need to get away and try to get back to reality; to your own life. you need to tell her for the past 3 months, she has been making it confusing. tell her that you need to get away and get time to think.
tell her you still want to be friends but stop giving out the WRONG signals.
in the meantime, find something to do to get your mind off her.
(no clubbing) church activities, coffee houses, mall, or even go out of state. heck , go to the beach. (just not the same beach!!!)
and eventually, you and her will get the big pic.
good luck! :0)

Answer 9

When you cling onto a dream it's pretty hopeless. Look she was open and honest with you.Move on and accept the friendship offered,