I'm getting married this weekend and both my husband and I are inexperienced in the sex department. I need advice. I don't know what to wear, what postion to do it in, what to say. Please Help! I want my wedding night to be rememberable! Any tips and advice would be great!
2007-07-04 15:38:16 · 13 answers · asked by Chelsea 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
>>You are in the best possible situation! You can learn together. Just explore each other and it will come naturally. You can go to an "Adult" store and get videos if you want and/or feel like you really need, but believe me you will figure it out! Hope you have a long and happy marriage!
2007-07-04 15:43:18 · answer #1 · answered by Yahoogirl 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First be calm. Whatever happens your wedding night is gonna be memorable. Now stop putting on the pressure. Very often the wedding night is far from what you imagined and it might not come off at all. The next day or two with the pressure and booze and excitement of the wedding out of the way is often much much better, especially for the inexperienced.
It is nice you can and will learn together. Get a good book so you will know the basics if you don't already and then just talk to each other about what you like and do not like and be honest and then practice, practice, practice. What did you think the honeymoon was for anyway? Good Luck and Congratulations.
2007-07-04 15:46:19 · answer #2 · answered by CindyLu 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My best advice would be to go to a book store and pick up a couple of books on sex. i know it sounds corny and/or a bit embarrassing, but they can really help. choose a book with diagrams if you can. take it from someone who is experienced with sex and STILL benefitted from a book! if you are both new to this, you could have a LOT of fun reading the book together and exploring each other on your honeymoon night. try picking up a sex toy or two for your special night. a simple vibrator can add a ton of fun to your experience and you will be guaranteed an orgasm. choose one that vibrates very strong. no need for you to be disappointed when your new hubby arrives at climax before you do. especially because the lack of experience and the distraction of excitement. if you're worried about what to say - don't be. that stuff will come naturally. but be open. tell him what feels good and what doesn't. it's ok to talk during sex. learning about what pleases each other will lead to great sex. don't be afraid to lead his hand to show him "where" and how it feels good. a porno would be good to add to your suitcase for your honeymoon, but the things they say in those pornos are pretty corny! most pornos are quite humorous in my opinion. but they're also a good tool for learning new positions and just adding to the "mood" if you have it playing in the background while you and your hubby are having fun. it can also help you fantasize, adding more excitement to your experience. just relax and have fun together. and don't worry - you'll be great!
2007-07-04 15:56:12 · answer #3 · answered by beentheredonethat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My best advise is not to expect great fireworks on your wedding night. You will both be exhausted from the day. I would tell you if you were my child to get to your honeymoon suite, changed into nice nighties and start with nice foot, leg, back rubs. The wedding night sex is not what you always hear about. Spend the time giving nice massages and recounting the wonderful day. Fall alseep in each others arms and wake up refreshed and ready to enjoy each other's bodies the next morning.
A wonderful book that my husband and I wish we had read before our marriage is "Intended for Pleasure" by Ed Wheat. It is a very pure and straight forward book on sexual pleasure.(and it will get your engine going if you get my drift!)
Whatever you do DO NOT get porn. Why sully your marriage bed with that garbage!
2007-07-04 16:12:40 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree with the advice here...just be happy in the moment that you are giving yourselves to each other- you will both be nervous and thats ok...you will now be getting to know each other in a new way.
As for the practical parts of your question....what to wear...stay away from hooks, etc...don't make it any more complicated...a nice baby-doll (see through if you want to vamp it up a bit)...
position...just make sure you have foreplay (not to be too technical, but being nervous or stressed about it may make you dry...have some astroglide handy just in case) ...as long as that is covered, you will probably try more than one!
good luck...congratulations...and enjoy!
2007-07-04 15:59:01 · answer #5 · answered by jmd72inva 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get some books. Joy of sex is an oldy but a goody. He probably needs to learn how to engage in foreplay. Go as slow as possible. You lead and control things. Don't let him in until your ready. And tell him how to do it. Be on top so you can control the action.
2007-07-04 15:43:32 · answer #6 · answered by ? 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
enjoy what ever happens its a natural thing and instinct will take over its the no knowing bit that is a good portion of the fun do what feels right it dosnt have to be earth shaking kinky sex the 1st time and it will still be the best sex you have ever had as you get more experenced you will probly find your self wanting to try new things.
2007-07-04 15:51:52 · answer #7 · answered by mustang03282 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All the advice given is good. Good luck and godspeed for a life long happy marriage.
Just make sure that both of you are in good health. No colds or tooth aches.
2007-07-04 15:49:18 · answer #8 · answered by Yafooey! 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ask your mother or get a book from the store.
Joy of Sex
Kama Sutra
2007-07-04 15:42:11 · answer #9 · answered by pspoptart 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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http://www.adventurebrat.com/top-honeymoon-destination.php
Hope this helps
2007-07-05 04:14:40 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋