I am deaf and physcially challenged. I also weigh less than 100 pounds. Note that I'm a 15 year old male.
Because of my disability, my mother used to give me pocket money. She has three jobs. She stopped giving me money after I took a girl out one night.
She said, " John, I know you are seeking for a girl, which you won't find. I do not want you to spend my hard earned money on women who will not accept you for who you are. And believe me, son, you won't find what you are search for."
Seems as if Mom is correct, because I am a virgin at age 25.
I told Mom that my SSI paycheck is too small and that I would like to work, at least give myself a try.
She said, " John, be satisfied of what you have today. They're worse than you in this world. Mom doesn't want you to work, anf I'll buy whatever you want; just give me time."
I told Mom that I am going to join the deaf group to see if I could find a girl that would love me.
2007-07-04 15:27:16 · 8 answers · asked by John 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
She said, " If you listen to your mother, you won't get hurt. Be satisified with what you have no. It cannot get any better."
Is my mother correct?
2007-07-04 15:28:15 · update #1
Correction. I meant I am 25 years ol. Not 15.
2007-07-04 15:29:10 · update #2
Please pardon my misspellings.
2007-07-04 15:32:17 · update #3
your mom has three jobs and you want to go on dates with her money...let me see...yep, she should be mad.
if you are deaf and physically challenged, how can you go out? if you can go out, i am sure you can find a job. there are many people out there with disabilities that have jobs.
2007-07-04 15:47:44 · answer #1 · answered by Christina V 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, your mother is not right..............I have a daughter who has lived with a guy that is deaf, and they have two children, been together for twelve years. I have five children, three of the five are servere hard of hearing, two graduated at a deaf school. Son, you can get a job, and make so much without losing your SSI. There are many programs that will give you special training for work. And you have to find a group of other deaf people to communicate with, and one day you will meet a girl, she may not be deaf, she could very well be hearing. Keep your chin up, and go for your goal. Shoot for the stars, they are out there for you to reach for. I believe you can do it.
2007-07-04 18:19:59 · answer #2 · answered by catira1953 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh hon she is so wrong if I were you I would definitely get out there and mingle join a group to begin with to get you out and about. Mom is trying to shelter you thinking you will get hurt but hey who doesn't get hurt once in a while, you learn from it and move on. And there is no reason not to try and work there are jobs out there that you would be qualified for right?! I'm sure if you put your mind to it you can accomplish many things just like every person can. All you need is the will and a little push to go and do it. You will feel so good about yourself and what you do after you get out there and will have much more confidence in your life, personally and career wise. The best of luck to you and get out there and go to it!!!!
2007-07-04 16:11:54 · answer #3 · answered by tinkswings 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think your mother is partially correct. She is correct that you should not be taking girls on dates with her hard earned money. But she is completely wrong in knocking your self esteem and saying you will never find a girl. I actually have a friend who is deaf and happily married with 2 kids...so it is possible. Don't let her get you down. See if she will let you do jobs around the house to pay you so that the money you do earn is fairly yours so you can do whatever you want to do with it... Believe me. you can find a girl for you.. I also think that finding a group would be beneficial...you can meet other people and who knows maybe you will find someone there...:) good luck.
2007-07-04 15:35:22 · answer #4 · answered by tam d 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I applaud your ambitions. You are right to try to find a life for yourself. Your Mom is having issues with your disabilities and is fearful for you. She is discouraging you on the basis of wanting to save you from failure. But life is an adventure if nothing else. Don't let her fears stop you from trying. Everyone has the right to a life and that is all you are seeking. Go forth!
Best of luck! And do not give up! Just keep trying! I believe that you can do anything you want badly enough!
2007-07-04 15:49:12 · answer #5 · answered by Goddess of Laundry 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
No way she is soooo wrong! You go out there and you will find someone, mom sounds like she is trying to keep you sheltered so that you cant find anyone to love and who will love you. You deserve a life as much as anyone else in this world. If you want to work, do it, if you want a girlfriend go and find one. Be happy for you not mommy.
2007-07-04 15:33:05 · answer #6 · answered by mel 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
oh shes waaaayyyyy wrong, of course she is being over protective but that doesnt do you good, if you are told from an early age that you wont get this and that later in your life unwillingly you push yourself to make that statement real, Im sure there're thousands jobs and girls for you available, they just need you to help yourself standing up and build your life.
2007-07-06 10:25:46 · answer #7 · answered by Ginie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is dominating you badly. You need to learn to be as independent as you can. Get some counseling to show you how. Good luck.
2007-07-04 15:34:16 · answer #8 · answered by ? 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋