When your parents want you to do something, how do they ask?

Question

My dad knows I haven't started my summer reading yet, and he asks "How's 'Guns Germs and Steel'?" With a really obnixious tone of voice. Then "When are you going to start?" And I said, "I'll get on that tonight". And he says "Well, Kels, you've got to get something going for you." in an angry tone. Ouch.

I'd prefer if he didn't use that obnoxious tone he uses everytime. Do your parents ask you things like that, or do they just say straight out say it? Do you think that last thing he said to me was too harsh?

I never said I lied. But saying I have to get something going for me really made me feel like a worthless piece of ****.

It's a long... long... long history book. I have to read an entire history book and answer questions.

Answer 1

When i was younger and in high school my father was much like you describe yours. My father would say things like " You know that summer is only a couple of months, and you really need to do much better than you did last year, you don't have your looks to rely on" He would say things that made me feel like snot. When i was a senior i wanted to apply to 15 colleges, and he refused to pay the application fees, so Jan. of that year i had to get a job, and wound up missing the deadlines, and having to go to a community college for a semester. Then moved out to a different state to be away from him. The moral of my story is, no matter how much you may be hurt or upset, you have to know inside yourself, that you are a good, smart, well rounded person. And if you father treats you the way he does, know that when you graduate you leave him and all his BS behind. I barely have a relationship with my father now. I think it's important you try to tell him how he makes you feel. And make sure he knows when he does it. In the end your family is there, but you have to live with yourself, and your self-worth and esteem. Good Luck.

Answer 2

So, are you going to start your reading or are you going to play on the computer all nigh young lady?! Just kidding. I think no matter which way he ask you will still find him annoying. Kids always find their parent annoying always telling them what to do and when to do it. It is the way things always are and always will be. remember that your parents are your parents and as parents their job is to parent you. That is they are your parents not your friends. For the most part these are the people you will turn to for support of all kinds like moral support, emotional, and even some money. In order to help you they cannot be your friends. If they where then they would allow you to do that stupid idea that will end up hurting you. Thats what friends do sometimes because friends want to please you. Parents want to ensure your safety and well being. Not that friends don't want that too but that is not their priority. A friend can be your enemy five minutes from now.

Answer 3

My parents believe I should be able to read thier minds. If they want something done they just look at me and look toward whatever they want me to do and hit me with a stick. If I can't figure it out by the third whack with the stick, I get locked in the cellar with the rats for a couple of days. By the time I get let out, I've figured out what they want and do it right away. I have to go now they're coming.

Answer 4

Parents there good at getting under your skin it sounds like he is doing a good job at it i would next time he asks the questions i would tell him i don't know i haven't started it yet. when he askes when are you going to do it just tell him you don't know and about the getting something going for you ask him whats that sposed to mean. Maybe you should just let him know the way he is talking to you hurts you

Answer 5

most times my mom comes out and just says what she wants normally. other times, rarely though, she threatens me, but only when she's really really pissed.

i dont think that last part was harsh. my mom always tells me i have to get something going for myself too. 'go back to school, or get another job'. i hate it when she tells me exactly what to do. what if i want to travel for a year or so? i have no kids so the option of what i want to do should be mine.

maybe it was harsh the way he said it, but i wouldnt take offense to the words. your dad just wants you to be successful and he wants you to do something constructive with your time, as well as your life.

Answer 6

i could say no, because of the fact Im no longer. I instructed my mom the day when I lost my virginity to my boyfriend. there grow to be no real part of hiding it from her, she could have found out finally (some months later we had a intercourse-appropriate twist of destiny and that i had to get her to take my boyfriend to the medical institution) and that i could have felt undesirable preserving it from her. My dad could never question me that query, yet while he did i could tell him too. Im no longer likely to lie and that i understand he could never be mad or upset in me for some thing like that. I dont think of its weird and wonderful while my mom used to question me. the only reason she had to understand is so she ought to get me on beginning administration and have yet another "communicate" with me approximately protection. Shes my mom - she merits to understand what Im doing if she needs to.

Answer 7

ok, my parents just ask, Because I have realized that if they need to call it to my attention, it is important so i do it then not later. The reason your father is like that is because of YOU. YOU are causing this, when you constantly lie to him, he senses that your going to have it hard in life because you can't sort out your priority's, So to get him off of your back go start your reading, do some chores, show him your responsible.

Answer 8

my mom will ask when will i clean my room up
then i say i dont know
then she goes on a mini rant about how im a dirty person
and how i never clean up after myself
when in reality theres only a couple of things on the floor

Answer 9

It was why not like ask him dad why do you speak that way to me? and like say it makes me feel bad. Maybe if you said something he would like think before he speak, try that.

Answer 10

my parents say, "Kayla, do this blah blah blah, now." yeah that last thing was pretty harsh, what is this reading for? what's the book about?