If my husband wants me to sleep with another man is it a sin?

Question

If I swore in front of God to honour and obey my husband should I do as he asks in this matter?

Answer 1

This is a complicated question for this again falls on the beliefs based on where you are located in the world. This confusion is not yours but of organized religions and of state leaders which dominate the country where you live. Mankind does not even begin to understand what is right or wrong and thus should never pass judgment on your own personal beliefs and decisions. Your own heart and not organized religions should always guide you through life. I hope this helps. Best Regards, M.G.S.

Answer 2

I don't really understand what the context of your question is, so I have a couple of reactions. But overriding all that is that you seem to be uncomfortable with his request. Regardless of what your husband wants, what God wants, and what the people who answer here want, you have to decide how you actually feel about this proposition. It wouldn't be the first time this sort of arrangement was attempted, and if all parties are truly consented, it can be a totally healthy arrangement. This proposal doesn't automatically mean your husband is cheating on you or that he doesn't love you. Like I said, neither I nor any of the other people here have that sort of knowledge.

However, you seem unhappy with this being an option. And that is the most important thing at this point. You may have sworn to honour and obey, but that does not mean total submission regardless of your own desires. A marriage is between two equals, and your opinions on this matter should be taken into account.

So, if this is something that you would enjoy, you needn't feel the burdon of "sin" hanging on your shoulders. If all parties are consenting and happy with an arrangement, there is nothing sinful about it. However, if you have ANY doubts, that is *significant* and you should not do as he asks.

Answer 3

If you took your vowes in the front of God and you honor your Husband as much as you honor God , than by all means do not do it cause it is considered Adultery, and those are legal grounds for divorce and it is breaking thee 7th commandment.

Think about this for a second , would you wanna watch your husband sleep with another women?

He is wrong for wanting you to do this, or he has some secret plans , or even he may wanna use it against to later so that he could sleep with another women.

Answer 4

Yes, its a sin and how utterly disgusting. Thats adultry and immoral sex.
Colossians 3:18 - Wives, submit to your own husbands, as is fitting in the Lord.
It says here in Colossians 3:18 as is fitting in the Lord, your husband is doing something immoral according to his wrong lusts and passions and desires for what is vulgar in the sight of the Lord. Dont do it and tell him firmly yet gently and why you are saying no. Pray for him and tell him that you want only him to touch you and that you love him. Read 1 Thessolonians 4:3-8. Try to get involved in a Christian marriage workshop and join a bible study together. Read the verses about marriage TOGETHER and go to church and listen to the message and then put what the pastor said into practice. God bless you.

Answer 5

It absolutely is a sin. Obedience to your husband ... or any human ... is relative to your obedience to God.

Listen to what is said at Acts 5:29 ... In answer Peter and the [other] apostles said: “We must obey God as ruler rather than men.

That said, I'd wonder about how your husband could make this request of you since you took a vow before God to be faithful to him.

Answer 6

Your husband also swore to cherish you and to care for you and he is the one breaking the oath. You also swore to be faithful and this comes first. I have a friend who had a threesome to please her husband. They divorced less than a year later. She was ashamed and he was incredibly jealous. He became more and more possessive and no longer trusted her at all. My brother-in-law had a threesome with another couple (he was married and his wife was not there), he is now divorced as are the couple he was involved with. The woman he slept with told his wife what he had done while she was pregnant with their first child. They tried to make it work, they even tried counseling but it ultimately destroyed their marriage because the trust was gone. Honor yourself and tell your husband forget it. If he is bored in bed there are alot of better ways to spice up life without involving anyone besides the two of you.

Answer 7

Yes.... You are not required by God, the law, or anyone else to commit a crime (sin) at the order of anyone else.... no matter what type of authority they supposedly have over you. In this case your first duty is to obey God.... In fact separation from your husband would be the sensible thing to do.

Answer 8

Yes it is sin!!!!

Your answer is very clear in the scriptures, when it comes to obeying men or God, it says in Acts 5:29 We ought to obey God rather than men. Your husband looses authority over you when he goes against God. He gives up his right as headship when he is in disobedience. God has all authority. Your husband never has the right to force you into sin. [e-mail]

Answer 9

No, you should not !!!Absolutely not !!!
Obviously , if your husband ask you to partake in sin, he is not connected to the source , who is Jesus.
The bible says that the "blind can't lead the blind or they both will fall in a ditch"
You should never obey your husband in anything , that is ungodly , or you will have to reap with him condemnation too.
If you want to serve the Lord with a sincere heart and he doesn't ,then sooner or later the Lord will separate the two of you .
How I know???Because He just did it for me, I went through the same thing and now I am free .

Answer 10

Well ya but he swore before god to treat you with respect and by making you do that is in direct violation of his vow so you would not be at falt... if this is a true statement then id get out of the marriage at least see a counciler