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Well I have been in a long distance relationship for almost 9 months. We never met each other in real life yet, but we have talked on the phone and sending pictures.

No, Don't tell me "its just the internet, you might get raped, long distance doesn't work" C*ap........
I'm very serious. In my life I have never met anyone who has ever taken me serious as a person.
To make things short, I have a sad life. And I'm your typical a quiet, taunted, barely have any friends loser. I also live with a mean dad.
and my point is, when we still talked more often, he would tell me he isnt going to give up on seeing me. I'm planning to see him by the next summer, but now since he has been so busy at work and school, he barely has any time to talk. I understand.
But do you think its stupid our relationship has come this far and now he is giving up on me, even though we are going to see each other in the next couple of months? We plan to see each other by spring break or the summer break?

2007-07-04 13:47:43 · 10 answers · asked by ^__^ 2 in Family & Relationships Singles & Dating

The next summer break i mean...

2007-07-04 13:49:27 · update #1

we had a conversation about "not giving up till we see each other"

but since yesterday he told me "I see both of us in the future" and "I'm still deciding"


I feel like I'm a big joke as always.

I almost wanted to tell him, "and I thought you weren't gonna give up on me....guess its just a joke"

2007-07-04 14:05:16 · update #2

we had a conversation about "not giving up till we see each other"

but since yesterday he told me "I see both of us in the future" and "I'm still deciding"


I feel like I'm a big joke as always.

I almost wanted to tell him, "and I thought you weren't gonna give up on me....guess its just a joke"

2007-07-04 14:05:19 · update #3

10 answers

I think not seeing each other face to face is creating its own issues, maybe you should be getting out more. Counseling also might do you good.

2007-07-04 13:50:53 · answer #1 · answered by di12381 5 · 0 0

You have had a life of dejection and rejection and have felt a profound sense of difficulty in being accepted for who you are. The attention that this man has bestowed on you has therefore come as a 'god-sent'. I will definitely not trivialise the possibility of a relationship over the internet

Firstly, I understand that it is very easy to assume that he is giving up on you because of his busy schedule but that might not be the case. He might just be too caught up with work. Has he told you he has given up? If this is merely a feeling that you have, please confront him. I know from experience that assumptions lead to some terrible results. The relationship might still be intact and all he needs to do is to learn to manage his time better by balancing his work and love life. A relationship over the internet can be very stressful. It isn;t easy and both of you would have to be more accomodating and even more patient.

Secondly, I'm going to play devil's advocate now. And this is just to give you a look at both sides of the coin. I would rather have your first meeting along with a group of friends or so. No matter what and after all is said and done, you don't know this person, have had no opportunity to observe him, cant seek referrals from others who might know him because no one does. Please meet in familiar territory.

2007-07-04 14:09:23 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Sweetie, you may be taking this "relationship" too seriously. He may not be as serious as you are. A lot of people have friends on the internet that they correspond with for a long time and suddenly quit. Good luck and God bless!

2007-07-04 13:52:51 · answer #3 · answered by NAN G 6 · 0 0

love is a gamble. There are no guarantees in love. One day you are ok and the next you aren't and vice versa. Just be safe. Meet in a safe place take things slow. I always say, expect the worst but hope for the best.

2007-07-04 13:52:53 · answer #4 · answered by mr_gees100_peas 6 · 0 0

i dont think that it is a stupid relationship but i do think that you should see each other really you dont know anything about him it could be all a lie you need to see him in person and talk not just over the internet.

2007-07-04 13:53:03 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

if this guys has show u respect until this day. maybe he is wants something serious with u just please when u meet him
do not be alone if he really likes u or love u he wont have a problem been with u and the other person be with u at the time.(do not throw ur self to him)

2007-07-04 13:57:06 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

no, i dont think your relationship is stupid at all. if you truly like him then dont give up. when you give up on someone you love, you end up with a lot of regrets. even though he's been really busy, if you truly believe in ya'lls relationship then fight for it. it wouldnt make sense to be together for 9 months and then just give up. just try to make things work.

2007-07-04 13:53:38 · answer #7 · answered by maddog2127 2 · 0 0

sounds like u have kept this going bc you've needed someone to reach out to since ur home life isnt that great. if u think this is something worth holding on to and he makes u feel good, keep talking to him.

2007-07-04 13:52:23 · answer #8 · answered by the_kid_doesnt_care 5 · 0 0

Don't feel sad girl. Just start talking to another guy. You don't sound like a loser to me. You sound like a nice girl who' just wants some company. You can talk to me anytime. E mail me.

2007-07-04 13:54:58 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

rough call, but to put stock into a person you never met is a serious no-no. let it be a friendship for now, and lovers for later....

2007-07-04 13:51:16 · answer #10 · answered by MAN ON A MISSION 4 · 0 0

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