suicide? dont leave stupid ignorant comments about it?

Question

has anyone suffered the death of a loved one? if so... how have u learned to cope and make peace?

im 15 and when i was 8 my father committed suicide. his death has caused me to have severe anxiety to the point where i couldnt go to school. i am now in therapy and on medication but i has really affected me and my life. i just want to know if anyone else will share thier experiences with death or suicide

Answer 1

I KNOW life goes on, and you are not in this alone. I believe we are here to learn something, and to achieve goal predestined for us. Maybe you are experiencing this to help someone. If there are in the same dilemma, you can help them, because you have lived through it. Good luck with whatever you choose. Be strong, and never give up.

Answer 2

I have though of wnding my life many times. I have so much sadness in my life that sometimes have seemed unbearable to me. I have been such a good child and have never done anything that may upset my parents, caretakers or family in any way. Nevertheless I feel that my effort has gone under-appreciated. I even married my first boyfriend and have never kissed any other man in my life/ I feel sad all the time and think of jumping from a window. The only thing that prevents me from doing so are my two children and my grandmother (I don't want to make her suffer on the last days of her life). I am afraid that if she was no longer living my sadness will take over and I'd commit suicide.

You need to be strong to actually commit the act/ Your father probably suffered a lot. Maybe his children were the only reason he did not do it earlier. When he finally did it was because the pain and suffering he had in this world was too much. Love him.

Farewell child!

Answer 3

When I was around 21 my father committed suicide. It is a very scary thing and I still suffer from anxiety attacks from time to time. However, my life has been successful and yours can too. You have chosen to live just like me. Life is what you make it. There are a lot of neat and interesting things to do and discover in this world. It is hard to understand why someone would not want live. I believe that people end their lives because they are not mentally stable. Normal people do not kill themselves. I do not believe that other people, environments or events are usually the cause for suicide. I believe that my Dad had an illness that resulted in death. It was one of those rotten things that can happen in life but no one was at fault.

Answer 4

Having attained the ripe old age of 50 yes I have had to deal with the death of many that have been close to me, luckily not yet my spouse or children. Hardest was probably my father he was in his mid 40's I was married with a new child overseas neither of which he had yet to meet, and we had argued the last time I had seen him. Knowing that they loved you, and are up there watching over you helps, and yes I believe they are, that, and they say time heals all wounds and memories, and that is true. We are all place on this Earth for two things to be born, and to die it is what we do in between that time that is the difference. I am truly sorry about your situation, and the only thing that I can say is I know as a father, and grandfather that I would want my children to go on and continue to be the best that they can in spite of my indiscretions, and or mistakes in life and know that I do love them, more than life itself. This I speak as a father and know that he would or does feel the same. God bless you child and hang in there

Answer 5

no one in my family has commited suicide, but i used to have alot of those feelings. i've been depressed since i was 12, now i'm 15 also, and i do go to therapy. the right medication has helped for the most part. but things are getting pretty bad, my rents are getting a divorce, and some other things just don't seem to go away.

Answer 6

That must have been horrible. I can't even imagine what you are going through. to lose a parent when it is unavoidable is tragic enough.
I lost several dear friends that we were very close nothing like a parent but close. Their death has left me with nightmares and I keep seeing the incident. I came so close to dieing with them. It is something you don't get over but something you have to learn to live with.
I can feel your grief because it has been a continueing problem for me. My heart goes out to you and i know what it feels like when someone says "just snap out of it"
I wish I had the words to help you.
I wish I knew how to cope with the death of someone you love.
Will I ever see them again? How do I ever make peace with it? I wish I had the answers.

Answer 7

I am so sorry to hear that. Suicide is one one of the most, if not THE most selfish thing a person can do. They get so caught up in their own emotions and forget about all the people that love and care for them. My 22 year old cousin committed suicide in March of 2006. Get this...his girlfriend was cheating on him and decided she didn't want to be with him anymore. It is such a permanent solution to a temporary problem.

Answer 8

Suicide and my family go together like peas and carrots. My two uncles committed suicide right before i was born, leaving behind each one kid. then when I was 6ish one of my cousins followed in his fathers footsteps. Even though I never met my uncles, its still makes me upset i never got a chance to meet them, and me being the youngest, I'm the only one who's never met them. I did know my cousin though. And then 2 years ago I lost my grandma to cancer, that was the hardest thing I ever had to go through.

Death is a sad, but normal thing. It sucks loosing a loved one, but you have to move on, because they wouldn't want you to be stuck in the past missing them.

Answer 9

I can tell you that I know exactly what you are going thru.
You see, my husband committed suicide right in front of me. This happened on Sept. 1 and on Sept. 17 my father had a massive heart attack. So I lost the two most important men in my life in one month.
The best way is to contact an organization called Survivors of Suicide.
They are all going thru the same feelings as you are.
They really helped me thru the fright of what I had just been thru.
And please keep talking about it, because the more you talk, the more you heal.
And please, most importantly don't blame yourself!

Answer 10

A relative of mine committed suicide. You just gotta move on- easier said than done, I know. His actions had nothing to do with you. It was his loss, not yours. He lost the chance to see you grow into a young adult. Stick close to your family and friends who are supportive. You have to learn to forgive but not forget and move on. It'll come, but you've gotta let it come. I'm 15 as well and was about 11 or so when my relative committed suicide. It's hard. If you want to talk, feel free to send me a message.

Answer 11

Honey, your father commiting suicide has nothing at all to do with you - it was something in his life, he felt he could not handle. Death, of any reason, is hard to cope with - but the upside is we can all be together some day in Heaven. I hope you find your way to a happier life. God bless you.