has anyone suffered the death of a loved one? if so... how have u learned to cope and make peace?
im 15 and when i was 8 my father committed suicide. his death has caused me to have severe anxiety to the point where i couldnt go to school. i am now in therapy and on medication but i has really affected me and my life. i just want to know if anyone else will share thier experiences with death or suicide
2007-07-04 13:33:16 · 4 answers · asked by <3dimples<3 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
I am 44. My father died almost 3 yrs ago. We were closer the last 4 months of his life...yet, when he died there were still unresolved issues. I think about this all the time. THEN, I started to put things together. The distance (not hugging a lot, no real "I love yous", etc) had nothing to do with me. He loved me and showed me the best way he could. He had a terrible childhood, lost 2 sons before he married my mom and had me. (One was premature and one had Spinal Meningitis). You just have to realize thast it was him, not you. Depression is one of the worse things to to go through. (I have been there.) When I was depressed, not even thinking of my children made it better...it's a disease..and it's a personal disease...nothing to do with you. God bless, sweetie..wish I could give you a big hug. {{{{{}}}}}
2007-07-04 13:40:53 · answer #1 · answered by CAT 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, I am so sorry for your loss. What happened was really terrible and it was a selfish act on your father's part. People who commit suicide don't think of others and how it will affect them.
I am glad you are in therapy however I am not so glad you are on meds, I hope that you are closely monitored and they don't keep you on those for long. They are meant to carry you through a short rough spot, not to be on them all your life.
In therapy, you need to do your part of the work. The counselor should give you coping tools to help you deal with anxiety and you can and will defeat it. It is being strong mentally and knowing you can do it that will help you.
Don't dwell on what your dad did, instead think about the future and what you want to do with your life that is positive. Strive to make the world a better place and you will feel better about yourself too. Take care sweetie, I pray you will have peace. I suggest you ask God to help you, praying is a powerful thing.
2007-07-04 22:10:53 · answer #2 · answered by MadforMAC 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I lost a daughter a year ago. YOu never really "get over" this kind of thing. But remember, life does go on. It's never easy, and there may be days when you don't want to get up, or you just want to cry, but the thing is, you have to make yourself do things that you don't want to do, to establish a routine. That will help you with recovery alot. And it sounds like to me that you're having closure issues. Talk to a school conselor, or a relative who can help you, who knew your dad. Realize that your dad didn't hate you. Good luck, and if you want to talk, IM me, or e-mail me, k? God bless you hon.
2007-07-04 23:51:27 · answer #3 · answered by Crazy Lady 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My daughters father committed suicide 1997. My Dad was killed in a mva 2000. My mother died of lung cancer 2001. You should be so proud of yourself! Recognizing you had a difficult time coping, you sought treatment. Congratulations..
Unfortunately, my coping involves isolation, which isn't so great.
Good luck and take care of you!
Dee
2007-07-04 21:04:03 · answer #4 · answered by Dee 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋